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Do I tell my cleaner I can see her weight on my phone?

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useitorlose · 30/09/2023 05:58

I just got some new Bluetooth bathroom scales as I'm doing Slimming World online and I'm finding the additional data and tracking information useful.

When I looked at this morning's data, I noticed there were two entries for yesterday - one at 7.30am and one at 11.29am. Both weights were similar so at first I thought, that's weird, I don't remember weighing again later and it was 2lbs lighter, so I would have remembered that!

Then I realised that it couldn't have been me but the timing coincides with when my cleaner was in that bathroom and I was downstairs. Her weight is probably similar to mine but she's tiny, about 4ft 10 to my 5ft 4 so perhaps she wants to keep track.

I've deleted that entry from my records. I have no problem with her using the scales - she has the WiFi password and we encourage her to feel comfortable here, we pay her above the going rate and give her birthday and Christmas gifts. We've known her for 5 years. The dilemma is, shall I tell her that I can see her weigh ins?

If she used the scales in the other bathroom, they're not Bluetooth and we wouldn't know!

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MolkosTeenageAngst · 30/09/2023 09:48

I wouldn’t worry about it, it’s just her weight which you can kind of estimate just by looking at her anyway, it’s not exactly private information like her card details or a health condition etc. Just delete the weight if it’s making it look like you’ve weighed twice and messing up your data.

Makeanoise · 30/09/2023 09:49

Crikey. I’m quite glad you are not in my life. 😬🙄

urghwhatisitnow · 30/09/2023 09:52

I'd tell her. But soften the blow by letting her know you are heavier than her Grin

DotAndCarryOne2 · 30/09/2023 09:54

PinkMoscatoLover · 30/09/2023 09:29

Why did you mention getting her birthday and Christmas gifts? That is sooo random and has nothing to do with your post

I think the OP was going to pains to point out that she values her cleaner and treats her well. Given the pile on, I’d say it didn’t work. And she hasn’t been back, so we’re essentially talking amongst ourselves !!

QueSyrahSyrah · 30/09/2023 09:55

An aside, but isn't it really annoying to have a set of scales that only 'work' for one person in the household, in terms of sending all data to one app?

I'd rather have scales we can all use and just type the weight into my app at the time.

Teateaandmoretea · 30/09/2023 09:59

This made me properly laugh, how funny.

I’d feel really awkward about that. I wouldn’t mind her using them but her not knowing you could see the data. And it would be embarrassing to tell her.

I definitely wouldn’t say anything.

Rosscameasdoody · 30/09/2023 09:59

NatashaDancing · 30/09/2023 09:43

Actually if I were the cleaner I'd just think my employer was completely weird having her bathroom scales linked to her phone.

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Why ? The OP says she’s doing Slimming World online and the app helps with keeping track of progress. How is that weird ?

Teateaandmoretea · 30/09/2023 10:00

Herefordhousewife · 30/09/2023 09:20

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i think you should tell her. She could be upset when she realises and you didn’t tell her.

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She could also be upset and embarrassed if op does tell her though.

WombatChocolate · 30/09/2023 10:02

Is the reason you are thinking about this, that you are concerned you know some deeply personal info about her that she wouldn’t want you to know, or more that you want her to know that you know she’s used your scales?

I suspect it’s actually the latter.

Many people do t have scales ir don’t have accurate ones at home. As visitors, with the door shut, it’s very tempting to use someone else’s scales to check your weight….no issue. Of course, they usually don’t record the data.

I’d say that if you do t want her to use them, put them away. No need to say anything.

Andrea87 · 30/09/2023 10:04

No and good luck with slimming world diet. I should be doing this too!

RedAndWhiteCarnations · 30/09/2023 10:04

I wouldn’t tell her as such.
But i would explain how the scale is linked to my phone by Bluetooth.

Then up to her to decide if she wants to use said scale or not (I don’t think anyone would have an issue with their cleaner climbing on their scale right?)

Darkmode2 · 30/09/2023 10:04

I read it as the cleaner was 2lbs lighter than op

RedAndWhiteCarnations · 30/09/2023 10:05

And btw the fact you are paying her over the usual rate, give Christmas present etc… has absolutely no relation with your question.

NatashaDancing · 30/09/2023 10:06

Rosscameasdoody · 30/09/2023 09:59

Why ? The OP says she’s doing Slimming World online and the app helps with keeping track of progress. How is that weird ?

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Still sounds weird. And obsessive.

MontyDonsBlueScarf · 30/09/2023 10:06

Legomania · 30/09/2023 09:45

Lots of weird replies on here

Since my cleaner is a normal person, as am I, I would just mention it to her, she'd probably say 'oh right, thanks for telling me' and then we'd forget about it.

Totally agree.

pam290358 · 30/09/2023 10:07

WombatChocolate · 30/09/2023 10:02

Is the reason you are thinking about this, that you are concerned you know some deeply personal info about her that she wouldn’t want you to know, or more that you want her to know that you know she’s used your scales?

I suspect it’s actually the latter.

Many people do t have scales ir don’t have accurate ones at home. As visitors, with the door shut, it’s very tempting to use someone else’s scales to check your weight….no issue. Of course, they usually don’t record the data.

I’d say that if you do t want her to use them, put them away. No need to say anything.

Why would you think that when the OP has already said she has no problem with her using the scales and has given her Wi-Fi access ? If the OP didn’t want her cleaner to use the scales, surely she would already have put them out of sight during her visits ? Why read something into it that clearly isn’t there ?

Rosscameasdoody · 30/09/2023 10:10

RedAndWhiteCarnations · 30/09/2023 10:05

And btw the fact you are paying her over the usual rate, give Christmas present etc… has absolutely no relation with your question.

Yes it does. It’s a sensitive subject and the OP was providing context to the effect that she values her cleaner and doesn’t want to upset her. Didn’t stop the pile on though.

kamboozled · 30/09/2023 10:14

@Passepartoute

I agree with you. I think it's weird NOT to let her know, because to me my weight is private (I don't even let my husband see when I weigh myself) and if I found out that someone could see that number every week I'd be disappointed they didn't warn me

kαλοκαλοκαιρι · 30/09/2023 10:18

pam290358 · 30/09/2023 09:42

Has anyone noticed the OP hasn’t been back ? Could this be because once again an OP has been chased from their own thread by an unpleasant and unwarranted pile on instead of addressing question they were asking ?

The OP wasn’t fat shaming the woman. She compared the height and weight to her own to sensitively convey that her cleaner may be overweight and therefore would be embarrassed if she knew the OP could see her readings. It’s entirely relevant to the question as to whether she should tell her or not - it’s called context and without it, the OP would probably have been accused of drip feeding had she mentioned it later on. But hey, this is MN and it’s more fun to pick peoples’ words to pieces to make accusations of something clearly not meant, so well done.

OP. I can’t understand why you’re being advised to just delete the info and say nothing. If she carries on weighing herself then at some point she’ll probably figure it out - especially if she has access to your Wi-Fi and can see the info herself. I would pick a quiet moment - offer a cuppa or something and then just mention it and say that once you realised what was happening you deleted the info, but wanted to make sure she knew it could be seen. End of.

It’s only been a few hours since the post, maybe they’re just out, or busy.

Anyway thanks for actually giving a kind and sensible answer to my question about what the height had to do with it, which was asked for genuine clarification but quote tweeted by quite a few people being quite mean, and I felt a bit uncomfortable being associated with that

Personally, I don’t think that the cleaner having wifi access means they’d see the weight info because surely it’s linked to an account/phone set up by the owner rather than having anything to do with the internet connection. Also maybe they just weighed themselves once out of curiosity (whats this new toy etc). Personally would just delete it and not stress unless it started happening say daily, but just my pov.

kamboozled · 30/09/2023 10:20

Legomania · 30/09/2023 09:45

Lots of weird replies on here

Since my cleaner is a normal person, as am I, I would just mention it to her, she'd probably say 'oh right, thanks for telling me' and then we'd forget about it.

Yeah and full moon was yesterday so I don't know where they're coming from 😂

kamboozled · 30/09/2023 10:22

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lol, beautifully done @Diddleflop

Oblomov23 · 30/09/2023 10:22

I would mention it to her. Ask her not to.

openallday · 30/09/2023 10:22

Bluetooth scales

Oh good lord

sunglassesonthetable · 30/09/2023 10:25

I wouldn't even mention it. Why ?

Just delete her weight.

oakleaffy · 30/09/2023 10:25

ohdamnitjanet · 30/09/2023 06:57

Yup!

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Yes, @useitorlose got to keep the servants happy with your Lady Bountiful ways!

It does sound a trifle condescending.

Let me guess...she's from overseas? {Wanting to make her feel welcome}

Most people surely are polite to their cleaners?, but not to the point of giving them presents or wifi access {I don't have a cleaner}.