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Do I tell my cleaner I can see her weight on my phone?

204 replies

useitorlose · 30/09/2023 05:58

I just got some new Bluetooth bathroom scales as I'm doing Slimming World online and I'm finding the additional data and tracking information useful.

When I looked at this morning's data, I noticed there were two entries for yesterday - one at 7.30am and one at 11.29am. Both weights were similar so at first I thought, that's weird, I don't remember weighing again later and it was 2lbs lighter, so I would have remembered that!

Then I realised that it couldn't have been me but the timing coincides with when my cleaner was in that bathroom and I was downstairs. Her weight is probably similar to mine but she's tiny, about 4ft 10 to my 5ft 4 so perhaps she wants to keep track.

I've deleted that entry from my records. I have no problem with her using the scales - she has the WiFi password and we encourage her to feel comfortable here, we pay her above the going rate and give her birthday and Christmas gifts. We've known her for 5 years. The dilemma is, shall I tell her that I can see her weigh ins?

If she used the scales in the other bathroom, they're not Bluetooth and we wouldn't know!

OP posts:
Daffodilsandtuplips · 30/09/2023 07:20

What else is she using when you’re not there?
I’d tell her I could see her weight. She’s welcome to use the non techie scales if she’d prefer me not knowing.

readbooksdrinktea · 30/09/2023 07:20

Why all the detail about her weight?

Anyway, of course not.

Passepartoute · 30/09/2023 07:23

Do stop the stupid pile-one people. You're not looking big and clever.

The problem with the "Just delete it" response is that the cleaner is going to be totally mortified if and when she realises that the scales track to phones. I think I'd just casually drop it into general chit chat ASAP.

Fallingthroughclouds · 30/09/2023 07:23

No just no. Why on earth would you draw attention to this 🙈

Zanatdy · 30/09/2023 07:24

What’s with the ridiculous pile on, again?

I personally would just delete OP

YouAreBeingUnbearable · 30/09/2023 07:28

Nice that you included her height so that we all know that she looks fatter than you even if she’s 2lb lighter.

Still, at least you give her a birthday present. Your employer of the year certificate will surely be on its way.

YouAreBeingUnbearable · 30/09/2023 07:29

Pressed post too soon. Just delete it and don’t tell her. If she ever realises, you just say you’d never noticed.

Ozziedream · 30/09/2023 07:31

@Passepartoute exactly. The reason I told my cleaner is that eventually she would realise or her kids would tell her (they’re very tech savvy) and the embarrassment could be extreme. I just raised it very casually, immediately, and it wasn’t a big deal.

though in our case I am a giant with bmi hovering at 24.5 and my cleaner is a tiny petite lady probably struggling to hit a bmi of 19 so there were no weight hang ups or “competitiveness” in our conversation.

Bax765 · 30/09/2023 07:33

I wouldn't bother telling her - it's pretty easy to delete and it avoids any embarrassment.

Syndulla · 30/09/2023 07:34

Cough cough fat shaming cough cough

TheChosenTwo · 30/09/2023 07:35

Why would you even consider telling her?! What is there to gain? You don’t even need to delete anything. This is bizarre.

squirrlebutkin · 30/09/2023 07:41

Ozziedream · 30/09/2023 06:30

This happened to me and I told my cleaner as she comes every week: who knows if it was going to become a regular thing? I said she was very welcome to but wanted to let her know I could see as it was the honest thing to do.

I then also showed her the non-techy scales in the cupboard if she wanted to weigh herself privately. we had a laugh about it and moved on.

Yeah, I would do this. I think it’s a bit weird to not tell her. If I were the cleaner I would feel made a fool of if I ever found out my weight was been recorded on my employer’s app and then never told me. It’s a bit infantalising to think this information needs to be kept from her ‘for her own good’.

Tell her it’s been recorded, she’s welcome to keep using that scales if she wants, but there’s an alternative scale if she wants to use that privately.

Mummybud · 30/09/2023 07:41

My cleaner does the same! I’ve never told her and I don’t care.

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 30/09/2023 07:42

Just close the app on your phone when you have finished weighing and it shouldn’t pick her weight up. We have similar and both use it and only if I don’t. Close the app does it show my DHs weight.

Scaredycatttt · 30/09/2023 07:43

If it was just once I'd probably chuckle and delete.

If she does it regularly I'd probably gently tell her she might want to use the scales in the other bathroom.

Fallenangelofthenorth · 30/09/2023 07:43

mikado1 · 30/09/2023 06:14

Obviously not!
Same happened a friend of mine, cleaner weighed herself weekly on the scales. He said nothing. No idea why you've mentioned her height etc.

But how else would we know OP is much slimmer without the height 🤣🤣

Saoirse82 · 30/09/2023 07:46

What you like mentioning both your heights and you are the same weight? 🙄

Cringing there for you OP.

Flyinggeesei234 · 30/09/2023 07:46

OP you say if she used the other scales ‘… we wouldn’t know’. Who is ‘we’? Are you showing someone else too?

I agree with most, say nothing and just delete.

mikado1 · 30/09/2023 07:46

Fallenangelofthenorth · 30/09/2023 07:43

But how else would we know OP is much slimmer without the height 🤣🤣

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Well, quite! 😆 How had I not figured that out? 😅

ReeseWitherfork · 30/09/2023 07:48

I wouldn’t tell her and I’d also fake a response if ever she finds out they’re bluetooth speakers. “Well if it does send the weight through to my app I don’t know where it goes.” If she suddenly decides to do weekly weigh ins then I‘m sure you won’t be making note anyway.

QueSyrahSyrah · 30/09/2023 07:49

Weird details to include. But anyway, just put the bloody scales away somewhere she won't see them, but leave out the none Bluetooth ones.

LizzieSiddal · 30/09/2023 07:50

I’m so pleased you told us she was shorter and fatter than you, it’s absolutely shocking anyone would be such a thing and now you have proof of these facts I’d sack her on the spot.

lilyblue5 · 30/09/2023 07:51

I read this completely differently.. (also I haven’t had a coffee yet).

But I think OP is trying to suggest it’s ok for her to talk to the cleaner as they are basically the same weight so it doesn’t seem like she’s fat shaming/trying to make her feel embarrassed or bad about it.

Also that they have a decent employer/employee relationship (therefore isn’t going to come across as a massive knob if she does mention it).

I think I’d let her know in a laugh it off kind of way - as she might be weighing in at other houses who are having a laugh behind her back.

mummy21blueeyed · 30/09/2023 07:52

it feels like you just needed to post something so you posted this pointless question. No you don’t tell her just move on with your life and keep deleting.

Firstinlastout · 30/09/2023 08:00

@lilyblue5 .Thats how I read it aswell.God it puts you off asking things on here sometimes.

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