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Do I tell my cleaner I can see her weight on my phone?

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useitorlose · 30/09/2023 05:58

I just got some new Bluetooth bathroom scales as I'm doing Slimming World online and I'm finding the additional data and tracking information useful.

When I looked at this morning's data, I noticed there were two entries for yesterday - one at 7.30am and one at 11.29am. Both weights were similar so at first I thought, that's weird, I don't remember weighing again later and it was 2lbs lighter, so I would have remembered that!

Then I realised that it couldn't have been me but the timing coincides with when my cleaner was in that bathroom and I was downstairs. Her weight is probably similar to mine but she's tiny, about 4ft 10 to my 5ft 4 so perhaps she wants to keep track.

I've deleted that entry from my records. I have no problem with her using the scales - she has the WiFi password and we encourage her to feel comfortable here, we pay her above the going rate and give her birthday and Christmas gifts. We've known her for 5 years. The dilemma is, shall I tell her that I can see her weigh ins?

If she used the scales in the other bathroom, they're not Bluetooth and we wouldn't know!

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lilyblue5 · 30/09/2023 08:02

When I scroll down on my phone there are suggested similar posts and users ‘mortified’ etc to have used someone’s scales and it saving their weight for the owner. So maybe chat now and save her embarrassment or a mumsnet post in a few months time 🤣

Hamsterfluff · 30/09/2023 08:03

I'm a cleaner and also weigh myself on customers scales 😳 Seems to be a common activity.

lilyblue5 · 30/09/2023 08:04

If it says Fitbit on keep well clear! @Hamsterfluff 🤣 (there will be others but that’s what we have and my husband keeps messing me up).

ActDottie · 30/09/2023 08:06

No do not tell her just keep deleting her weight

User342465662 · 30/09/2023 08:09

This thread is bonkers. Who gives a flying fig if another woman knows your weight? People will have a rough idea of how anyone weighs just by looking at them. The exact number doesn't make it mortifying or shameful. UNLESS of course, you suffer from food and body image disorders. Sounds like OP is projecting a lot of her own thinking on to the cleaner who is weighing herself out of boredom/idle curiosity/because it's there.

koalaknickers · 30/09/2023 08:15

Sounds like you're not working her hard enough, OP!

An industrious cleaner is a skinny cleaner...

6mam6 · 30/09/2023 08:19

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6mam6 · 30/09/2023 08:21

Low..

koalaknickers · 30/09/2023 08:24

This is soooo going to end up in the Daily Mail!

Diddleflop · 30/09/2023 08:25

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Maybeimjuststupid · 30/09/2023 08:28

KeepNameChanging81 · 30/09/2023 06:53

Fatter, shorter and we must know they are very generous too getting her presents.

Slight superiority complex there OP?!

Or maybe op was just giving lots of detail - if you don’t you get accused of drip feeding !!

NeedTheSeaside · 30/09/2023 08:30

Itsgottobeme · 30/09/2023 06:39

as long as we know shes fatter than you because she's smaller what does it matter eh op?

Exactly!!

Ceramicmug239 · 30/09/2023 08:32

It did make me chuckle that OP added that additional information but i do think people are being a bit unkind. I’ve read the additional information as OP wanting to give us more context to help us understand i.e. that the person is probably trying to track their weight, and also that they have a good relationship.

definitely don’t tell her OP - it’s perfectly harmless and not everyone has easy access to scales. It would probably be incredibly embarrassing for her and possibly make her feel uncomfortable. I think as everyone says, just delete the weights.

NeedTheSeaside · 30/09/2023 08:34

FFS

Now I'm wondering how many people know my weight?

still, unless they're blind they'll already be aware I'm no longer 7 stone wet.

at least none of them have pointed out I'm the same weight as them, but 2/3 their height 😂

I'll have to think about which friends/family/others have fancy scales. Or, you know, just not give a crap🤷🏻‍♀️

Justleaveitblankthen · 30/09/2023 08:35

Itsgottobeme · 30/09/2023 06:39

as long as we know shes fatter than you because she's smaller what does it matter eh op?

Exactly my thoughts 😂

lottiegarbanzo · 30/09/2023 08:37

No, why would you? What a strange question.

getfreddynow · 30/09/2023 08:41

This is how I read it too.
that the OP was overthinking the readers’ thought processes and trying to pre-empt questions or criticism around their relationship and relative appearances.

I think you should mention it.

user384710 · 30/09/2023 08:42

now we have to make this go to daily mail

FarEast · 30/09/2023 08:42

No. Just ignore it. Why make a drama over something so unimportant?

Batalax · 30/09/2023 08:44

Get over yourself those that are moaning at the op.

Shes a bit overweight. That’s why the op is saying she might be embarrassed so should she tell her.

Diddleflop · 30/09/2023 08:45

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CherryCokeFanatic · 30/09/2023 08:46

Maybe you could keep the weighing saved and when she loses say 10lbs give her a certificate

DatingDinosaur · 30/09/2023 08:48

Said with a smile/friendly manner - "Hi Sandra, you might want to use the scales in the bedroom as the ones in the bathroom are bluetooth linked to my phone."

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καλοκαλoκαιρι · 30/09/2023 06:23

just delete it and dont say anything! what’s her height got to do with it though?!

The OP really needs us all to know that her BMI is lower than her cleaner's, despite the 2lb difference.