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Do I tell my cleaner I can see her weight on my phone?

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useitorlose · 30/09/2023 05:58

I just got some new Bluetooth bathroom scales as I'm doing Slimming World online and I'm finding the additional data and tracking information useful.

When I looked at this morning's data, I noticed there were two entries for yesterday - one at 7.30am and one at 11.29am. Both weights were similar so at first I thought, that's weird, I don't remember weighing again later and it was 2lbs lighter, so I would have remembered that!

Then I realised that it couldn't have been me but the timing coincides with when my cleaner was in that bathroom and I was downstairs. Her weight is probably similar to mine but she's tiny, about 4ft 10 to my 5ft 4 so perhaps she wants to keep track.

I've deleted that entry from my records. I have no problem with her using the scales - she has the WiFi password and we encourage her to feel comfortable here, we pay her above the going rate and give her birthday and Christmas gifts. We've known her for 5 years. The dilemma is, shall I tell her that I can see her weigh ins?

If she used the scales in the other bathroom, they're not Bluetooth and we wouldn't know!

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SundayCherry · 30/09/2023 08:51

I’m sure this is a stealth boast post about how you are skinnier than your cleaner- as it’s a really non story- just delete them! Don’t tell her and embarrass her by her knowing you know.

RunAwayTurnAwayRunAwayTurnAway · 30/09/2023 08:51

Stripeypyjamas · 30/09/2023 07:02

Did she have a massive poo or did she just help you out by showing your scales can be 2lb inaccurate

She lost 2lb extreme cleaning the OP's massive mansion.

DatingDinosaur · 30/09/2023 08:52

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No. Why do you ask?

Oakbeam · 30/09/2023 08:53

Don’t tell her, but give her a cake when she’s lost a stone.

Doingmybest12 · 30/09/2023 08:56

I think I'd tell her in a' just so you know' way. Life is full of tech and tracking and videoing . I think she might be grateful to be made aware that her various clients might be capturing info about her and what she's doing , just for her to be aware. I visit lots of homes in my job and am conscious of this issue when knocking doors and waiting for people to answer and needing to present well even before they open the door now. It's all a bit crazy.

Diddleflop · 30/09/2023 08:56

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Ididivfama · 30/09/2023 08:57

Am I the only one who thinks you should tell her? I’d be so embarrassed that I didn’t know I’d want to know it could be seen!

Doingmybest12 · 30/09/2023 08:57

It's not about her weight is it though, it's about her privacy

Ididivfama · 30/09/2023 08:57

Doingmybest12 · 30/09/2023 08:56

I think I'd tell her in a' just so you know' way. Life is full of tech and tracking and videoing . I think she might be grateful to be made aware that her various clients might be capturing info about her and what she's doing , just for her to be aware. I visit lots of homes in my job and am conscious of this issue when knocking doors and waiting for people to answer and needing to present well even before they open the door now. It's all a bit crazy.

Exactly!

SparklingLime · 30/09/2023 08:58

mummy21blueeyed · 30/09/2023 07:52

it feels like you just needed to post something so you posted this pointless question. No you don’t tell her just move on with your life and keep deleting.

Given that you're just repeating advice given many times already, I think you could apply your post to yourself.

Diddleflop · 30/09/2023 08:58

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MehtotheChristmasrunup · 30/09/2023 08:59

I’d tell her. You know her well enough. Say you don’t mind her using the scales but they’re Bluetooth and it comes through your mobile.
Why wouldn’t you?
She’ll be more embarrassed if she ever finds out.

TheDogFosterer · 30/09/2023 08:59

Her weight is probably similar to mine but she's tiny, about 4ft 10 to my 5ft 4 so perhaps she wants to keep track.

🤣🤣🤣

OnLockdown · 30/09/2023 09:00

The replies on this thread are really weird. Yes, the additional information wasn't necessary but a lot of the replies sound like a bunch of (young) school kids trying to be funny in front of their friends.

If she does it again OP, I would mention it to her. It shouldn't be a big deal.

DatingDinosaur · 30/09/2023 09:01

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Ahh, I see. So just because YOU think it's a terrible suggestion, you thought you'd call me out on it. Right-o.

Centralperky · 30/09/2023 09:01

The exact same happened to me with my cleaner. I ignored it.

Doingmybest12 · 30/09/2023 09:02

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Genuine question. I presume the scales just show the weight on them as usual and you only see other peoples weight if you are recording it on blue tooth?

Diddleflop · 30/09/2023 09:02

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ReeseWitherfork · 30/09/2023 09:03

but a lot of the replies sound like a bunch of (young) school kids trying to be funny in front of their friends
I think you’ve just accurately summed this up. Happens a lot here doesn’t it, and this is the perfect way to describe it.

DatingDinosaur · 30/09/2023 09:04

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So why is it such a terrible suggestion then?

EquallyDetermined · 30/09/2023 09:08

I'd mention it too, I'd want to know if I was her. Far better than if she realises months later and doesn't know if you have deleted it or not.

LemonPeonies · 30/09/2023 09:09

She's ONLY a tiny 4"10 to your massive 5"4 ? Wow 🤣. I'm 5"2 and we short too OP. You sound like a weird snob.

Divebar2021 · 30/09/2023 09:15

If you have a good relationship with your cleaner I don’t know why you wouldn’t mention it. The fact everyone thinks she’d be embarrassed is very telling (but I suspect says something about them and their attitude to weight). I get on really well with my cleaner but she does have an ED so I’d have to think about whether I’d tell her or not.

MontyDonsBlueScarf · 30/09/2023 09:15

If you don't have scales like these you probably don't realise that if someone of a similar weight uses them, they get confused and ask you to identify who you are. This means that every time you use them yourself you have an extra step to do. If the cleaner is just standing on them and not doing this, and the scales are deciding to allocate the reading to the OP, then she's having to delete it every single time. So the cleaner's weight is actually very relevant.

OP you chose sophisticated scales to make your life simpler and I think YANBU to let the cleaner know that if she uses these scales rather than any others you may have around, it's making it more complicated instead.

ClairDeLaLune · 30/09/2023 09:16

Itsgottobeme · 30/09/2023 06:39

as long as we know shes fatter than you because she's smaller what does it matter eh op?

So true! Well done for being slimmer than your cleaner OP!