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sister furious at me and DD over DD's prank

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 14:50

I feel mortified and I don't know what to do or tell DSIS to try and make things better between us.

My DSIS' son is 18 years old and has recently started taking driving lessons. He's got a 10-year-old little sister.

My DD is also 18 years old and very close to DNephew.

My nephew has recently entered an online "raffle" type of competition in the hope of winning a car.

Now, here's the problem. My DD thought it would be funny to pull a prank on her cousin and offer her 10 year old cousin to join along.
From my understanding, they sent a text message from a what seems to be a fake number generated by an online app. The text message was sent to my nephew and congratulated him for winning the car and asked him to come get it from the raffle company's office as soon as possible.
It was only once they were about to go in the car that DD and my niece told them all about the joke.

My DSIS and BIL are now furious at their daughter, my daughter and myself.

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 15:10

Kaill · 29/09/2023 15:09

It was a mean prank but they’re teens. What is your sister expecting you and DD to do beyond an apology? They surely don’t expect money as compensation? I wouldn’t be paying for a test or towards a car, I think an apology is enough.

They don't expect money, they are just furious and it's tarnishing our relationship

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FuckingHellAdele · 29/09/2023 15:11

Seeing your child (even the big ones) hurt and crushed is really painful, and more so if it's been done deliberately. She's angry at you by default, just because it's your daughter that's behaved like a monumental twat.

I doubt she'll stay angry with you for very long, give her chance to calm down

YaWeeFurryBastard · 29/09/2023 15:12

Devilsmommy · 29/09/2023 15:09

What does everyone think op should do apart from a bollocking to her adult dd? Very interested to know🤔

Coach/guide her in how to make amends and hopefully fix the issue. Surely that’s basic parenting or does everyone just bollock their kids and then leave it?

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Notagains · 29/09/2023 15:12

SammyScrounge · 29/09/2023 14:56

Unforgiveable.

Really? It was thoughtless yes and very silly but not unforgivable. People so much worse things

YourNameGoesHere · 29/09/2023 15:12

Devilsmommy · 29/09/2023 15:09

What does everyone think op should do apart from a bollocking to her adult dd? Very interested to know🤔

For a start a suggestion of an actual apology from her daughter preferably written and maybe a gesture brought by her daughter to show she's remorseful.

At the moment literally all that's happened is she's been told off, big whoop. I'm sure that'll teach her.

The daughter is 18 years old so hardly a small child and she additionally encouraged her younger cousin to partake in the lie so being told off isn't really much of a punishment befitting her actions.

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 15:12

FuckingHellAdele · 29/09/2023 15:11

Seeing your child (even the big ones) hurt and crushed is really painful, and more so if it's been done deliberately. She's angry at you by default, just because it's your daughter that's behaved like a monumental twat.

I doubt she'll stay angry with you for very long, give her chance to calm down

You are probably right, thank you!

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TruthSeeker2023 · 29/09/2023 15:13

The sister is obviously after compensation of some sort. They sound very entitled.

SemperIdem · 29/09/2023 15:13

It was daft but ultimately harmless as far as pranks go. They seem to be overreacting massively.

I say that as someone not at all inclined towards pranking people, it really does seem to be a case of making a mountain out of a molehill.

PurpleSky09 · 29/09/2023 15:13

I don't think it was that bad to be honest. Just a bit of fun, could have been worse. If they are used to pranking each other then presumably your DD thought DN would see the funny side. It went wrong, it happens. If he's genuinely hurt by it then she should apologise to him and hopefully they can move on. Your DSIS being "furious" over a teenage prank is an overreaction.

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 15:13

She did apologise to her aunt, uncle, and cousin.

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jlpth · 29/09/2023 15:13

It was very mean. Do you think your sister was very relieved not to have to buy her DS a car? And thought it would impact them very positively financially?

However, perhaps ask your sister what she would like to happen to make this right.

I really feel sorry for the 10yo though. A 10yo might think it's a funny joke. Poor thing having her parents so angry at her for something like that.

NeedMyDress · 29/09/2023 15:14

It's a cruel prank but not a huge deal they stopped him before he went to drive off. I actually think your sister and many of the posters on here are overreacting. No one was actually hurt!

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 15:14

TruthSeeker2023 · 29/09/2023 15:13

The sister is obviously after compensation of some sort. They sound very entitled.

They aren't after compensation.
They are a lot more well off than we are and usually they are the ones to help us financially when times are tough. Which is why I feel so bad.

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StarlightGin · 29/09/2023 15:15

PurpleSky09 · 29/09/2023 15:13

I don't think it was that bad to be honest. Just a bit of fun, could have been worse. If they are used to pranking each other then presumably your DD thought DN would see the funny side. It went wrong, it happens. If he's genuinely hurt by it then she should apologise to him and hopefully they can move on. Your DSIS being "furious" over a teenage prank is an overreaction.

Where's the fun in this? You'd have to have a very twisted sense of humour to find the slightest element of fun in what she did.
It's bloody nasty.

sprigatito · 29/09/2023 15:15

Blaming OP for "raising a child that would do this" is ridiculous. We raise our children, we don't programme them, and at 18 they're not known for their impeccable judgement. You shouldn't be punishing an 18yo either, she needs to own her own decisions and face the natural consequences, in this case that everyone is angry with her and that she has hurt someone she cares about. If she was crying then she clearly knows she's gone too far. She needs to apologise to her cousin and ask what she can do to make amends, and OP's sister needs to stop lashing out at people who had nothing to do with the "prank".

Furryrug · 29/09/2023 15:16

TruthSeeker2023 · 29/09/2023 15:13

The sister is obviously after compensation of some sort. They sound very entitled.

Why obviously?

AvocadotoastORahouse · 29/09/2023 15:16

TruthSeeker2023 · 29/09/2023 15:06

I think the sister's family sound quite grabby and entitled if they think they deserve to win a car. Most people have to work hard to buy their cars.

Er what now?? ConfusedConfusedConfused

People enter competitions in the hope of being the lucky winner. They don't think they "deserve" to win, it's a game of chance.

The DNephew just thought he'd been lucky but it was a cruel trick instead.

Fallingthroughclouds · 29/09/2023 15:16

Your daughter needs a strong word. Let your sister pick the punishment

whatnot929 · 29/09/2023 15:16

TruthSeeker2023 · 29/09/2023 15:13

The sister is obviously after compensation of some sort. They sound very entitled.

Of course they don't! That's your imagination entirely.

They sound pissed off, which anyone would be.

Frodofeeling · 29/09/2023 15:17

sister furious at me and DD over DD's prank

I think it might be your attitude to the "prank". Not cruelty, unkindness, stupidity?

AvocadotoastORahouse · 29/09/2023 15:17

TruthSeeker2023 · 29/09/2023 15:13

The sister is obviously after compensation of some sort. They sound very entitled.

You again - really??? Hmm

YourNameGoesHere · 29/09/2023 15:17

StarlightGin · 29/09/2023 15:15

Where's the fun in this? You'd have to have a very twisted sense of humour to find the slightest element of fun in what she did.
It's bloody nasty.

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Agreed. You can tell the posters on this thread who think practical jokes and making others feel shit is just banter and a laugh. There's nothing fun about what she did and the fact she thought it would be funny enough to do it to start with shows what kind of person she is.

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 15:18

Frodofeeling · 29/09/2023 15:17

sister furious at me and DD over DD's prank

I think it might be your attitude to the "prank". Not cruelty, unkindness, stupidity?

Sorry, I didn't mean to undermine what my daughter had done. I referred to it as a prank but I know it was of poor taste, cruel and mean.

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Goldfish41 · 29/09/2023 15:18

TruthSeeker2023 · 29/09/2023 15:06

I think the sister's family sound quite grabby and entitled if they think they deserve to win a car. Most people have to work hard to buy their cars.

How does being excited at having won a car translate to thinking you deserve to win a car? If someone pranked me that I’d won the lottery and then I was naturally disappointed to find out I hadn’t, that doesn’t mean I thought I was entitled to win the lottery….

Pancakefam · 29/09/2023 15:18

Not afraid to admit I found it funny. What a gullible lot.

And he'll be given a car by his parents anyway. Hardly heartbreaking.

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