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sister furious at me and DD over DD's prank

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 14:50

I feel mortified and I don't know what to do or tell DSIS to try and make things better between us.

My DSIS' son is 18 years old and has recently started taking driving lessons. He's got a 10-year-old little sister.

My DD is also 18 years old and very close to DNephew.

My nephew has recently entered an online "raffle" type of competition in the hope of winning a car.

Now, here's the problem. My DD thought it would be funny to pull a prank on her cousin and offer her 10 year old cousin to join along.
From my understanding, they sent a text message from a what seems to be a fake number generated by an online app. The text message was sent to my nephew and congratulated him for winning the car and asked him to come get it from the raffle company's office as soon as possible.
It was only once they were about to go in the car that DD and my niece told them all about the joke.

My DSIS and BIL are now furious at their daughter, my daughter and myself.

OP posts:
Doyoumind · 30/09/2023 17:13

Has your sister calmed down yet OP?

Your DD definitely did a stupid and maybe unintentionally cruel thing but I think your sister is annoyed at her DS being upset but also at being humiliated herself. She's probably annoyed that she went along with it without questioning whether a text was sufficient to communicate the prize and feels partially responsible for his hurt for not protecting him. That's how I would feel.

Wouldyouguess · 30/09/2023 17:20

HelenTherese2 · 30/09/2023 16:55

Kids have always played horrible pranks on each other. It’s what toughens kids up and stops them being soft.

Pretty well conceived and planned in my opinion.

This is what bullies like to say, no?
No one ever humiliated me and yet I am pretty strong as a person. You dont need to play idiotic pranks on people for them to have resilience.

SurprisedWithAHorse · 30/09/2023 17:20

HelenTherese2 · 30/09/2023 16:55

Kids have always played horrible pranks on each other. It’s what toughens kids up and stops them being soft.

Pretty well conceived and planned in my opinion.

I had a feeling there'd be an uber-feminine username on this post.

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Ikilledsyriusblack · 30/09/2023 17:51

OP you sound really nice and your posts show that you’ve done everything possible to rectify the situation, including having a very serious word with your daughter who clearly realises she’s been out of order and has apologised to all concerned. Everyone does silly things at times; she has learned a valuable lesson and given time I’m sure everything will calm down and go back to normal.

Zwellers · 30/09/2023 18:10

Your dd and her cousin are adults. Why are you even involved.

Sennelier1 · 30/09/2023 18:25

Not funny at all, I would be livid. I guess your sister thinks you knew and didn’t say anything. Understandable. I suppose she’ll eventually forgive you but don’t hold your breath.

Buffs · 30/09/2023 18:29

Maybe your daughter can give him a decent contribution to a new car.

DonaNobisPacem · 30/09/2023 18:31

Buffs · 30/09/2023 18:29

Maybe your daughter can give him a decent contribution to a new car.

A truly mad suggestion.

Toomuchtrouble4me · 30/09/2023 18:31

It’s just daft 18yr old stuff. It’s not as though the car would have been life-changing. Make sure DSis knows that you didn’t know and wait for her to get over herself.

Missingpop · 30/09/2023 18:59

Sorry I did chuckle at this because it’s the sort of prank I’d have pulled on my step sisters the only difference being I’d have sat back & watched everyone running around flapping about picking it up& after they’d all left I’d be sat pissing myself laughing but I’m a fucking evil bitch with a warped sense of humour

SurprisedWithAHorse · 30/09/2023 19:05

I’m a fucking evil bitch

You said it, not us.

Johnnybegood2 · 30/09/2023 19:10

This is exactly what I was wondering.
It must have been really upsetting and disappointing for him but I can't say I'd be thay furious over it. Unless he missed out on a car he was already looking into buying.

Dentistlakes · 30/09/2023 19:16

What an awful thing to do. I wouldn’t be angry, I just wouldn’t ever engage with your daughter again. It’s not a practical joke, it’s just nasty.

itsgettingweird · 30/09/2023 19:17

Pranks are meant to be funny.

This was just cruel.

And even worse teaching a 10yo how to pull such cruel deceptions.

But all she can do now is apologise and recognise what she did and hope in time she's forgiven.

PurpleChrayne · 30/09/2023 19:20

Horrible! She's right to be angry. The lad won't forget it.

When I was 19, my friend set up a fake email address and emailed me pretending to be a literary agent who wanted to sign me. I was fucking gutted when the truth emerged. Never forgotten it.

RubyBon · 30/09/2023 19:22

I think I’m the only one who thinks everyone is over reacting

sound like they prank eachother, it’s their thing, this time, your DD went too far in the sense, its something her cousin really wanted so was really upset at the prank

shes apologised…. Everyone should get over it and move on…. Its not that big of a deal imo

Personally i think it says more about your sister and her family than your DD. What do they want? Blood? DD is sorry…. What else can she do….. she’s young, in the grand scheme of things it’s a very minor
mistake she’s made…. Because teens can do so so much worse than a practical joke hurting someone’s feelings temporarily

DonaNobisPacem · 30/09/2023 19:26

I think I’m the only one who thinks everyone is over reacting

You're very much not.

Lifeomars · 30/09/2023 19:28

I really hate practical jokes as they always contain an element of mocking, confusing or humiliating the victim person who is the brunt of them. This one is especially cruel, I wouldn't be entertained by it and would wonder about people who did find it funny

elfies · 30/09/2023 19:29

Cruel ,Vindictive and downright Nasty. , not a very friendly thing to do

Retiredfromearlyyears · 30/09/2023 19:31

That was a really rotten thing to do. Your DN must have felt so deflated and sad. Your DD did a really immature,mean thing to her cousin. She's not 10 after all. At 18 she should know better.
I hope you really did read her the riot act. She has endangered family relationships with this stupid prank. If she not yet got a job. I would be telling her to get one so that she can offer her cousin some money towards a car fund.! It's the least she can do.

Illstartexercisingtomorrow · 30/09/2023 19:31

I mean…is it really that bad?

They prank each other anyway.

Unless he was publicly humiliated by it somehow I think it’s an overreaction on your Dsis part. She could have just said to your dd it was inappropriate and she crossed a line. It’s not like she’s posted something about him online.

FridaySpark · 30/09/2023 19:35

Your daughter and nephew do pranks on each other. They're both adults so I don't know why your sister is involving herself or you to this degree. It's not really a big deal.

FridaySpark · 30/09/2023 19:39

And I reckon your nephew will be plotting a prank to get revenge. Your daughter needs to be ready for it. 😅

KM123456 · 30/09/2023 20:10

Calling this a "prank" is minimizing how malicious and hurtful this behavior was. No wonder your sister is angry at you. Either your daughter is nasty and spiteful because she is jealous of her cousin for some reason, or she is a bully who delights in making others suffer.

And she dragged the10 year old sister of her victim into this. How horrible. Your daughter is a terrible influence on this impressionable little girl, and if I were her mother (your sister) I would make the ten year old apologize to her brother, and forbid her from seeing your daughter again. No second chances. The little girl has to understand how badly your daughter behaved, and how she should never associate herself with or lower herself to behave like this. "You lay down with dogs, you wake up with fleas". Your daughter is a dog in this context.

You really don't seem to understand how horrible your daughter is. No wo Der the others are angry at you too.

Lovely13 · 30/09/2023 20:16

Pranks are horrible. Hate them. Humiliation dressed up as humour.