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sister furious at me and DD over DD's prank

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namechangedfri29 · 29/09/2023 14:50

I feel mortified and I don't know what to do or tell DSIS to try and make things better between us.

My DSIS' son is 18 years old and has recently started taking driving lessons. He's got a 10-year-old little sister.

My DD is also 18 years old and very close to DNephew.

My nephew has recently entered an online "raffle" type of competition in the hope of winning a car.

Now, here's the problem. My DD thought it would be funny to pull a prank on her cousin and offer her 10 year old cousin to join along.
From my understanding, they sent a text message from a what seems to be a fake number generated by an online app. The text message was sent to my nephew and congratulated him for winning the car and asked him to come get it from the raffle company's office as soon as possible.
It was only once they were about to go in the car that DD and my niece told them all about the joke.

My DSIS and BIL are now furious at their daughter, my daughter and myself.

OP posts:
DonaNobisPacem · 30/09/2023 20:16

KM123456 · 30/09/2023 20:10

Calling this a "prank" is minimizing how malicious and hurtful this behavior was. No wonder your sister is angry at you. Either your daughter is nasty and spiteful because she is jealous of her cousin for some reason, or she is a bully who delights in making others suffer.

And she dragged the10 year old sister of her victim into this. How horrible. Your daughter is a terrible influence on this impressionable little girl, and if I were her mother (your sister) I would make the ten year old apologize to her brother, and forbid her from seeing your daughter again. No second chances. The little girl has to understand how badly your daughter behaved, and how she should never associate herself with or lower herself to behave like this. "You lay down with dogs, you wake up with fleas". Your daughter is a dog in this context.

You really don't seem to understand how horrible your daughter is. No wo Der the others are angry at you too.

I hope OP will ignore this completely bonkers spewing of bile. In fact, I hope OP is out with her DD having cocktails right now and doesn’t even see it.

This thread has made me think of Jon Ronson’s So You’ve Been Publicly Shamed. A very interesting book and worth reading on why people on SM tend to up the ante when it comes to shaming people for perceived infractions, especially women.

lilkitten · 30/09/2023 20:17

I hate pranks, this reminds me of my brother taking my bike from outside my friend's house and hiding it, he only came clean after my parents had come down on me like a ton of bricks. Not that I'm not speaking to him or anything but I don't forget (might be my neurodiversity, but I can't get over when people are cruel to me). Perhaps she didn't know it would be so upsetting or go so far, hopefully she's learnt from it though.

Fireisland · 30/09/2023 20:22

Jesus the replies on here! It was just a prank. People really need to get a grip

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DunePeyton · 30/09/2023 20:26

How could you be so gullible not to double check to see if you had really won…

mamaandbabas · 30/09/2023 20:30

Yeah it was a bit mean and your nephew will hopefully see the funny side of this in the future. He is a grown up and should suck it up. Is he the little price if the family that no one can upset. Parents reactions are a bit OTT

mamaandbabas · 30/09/2023 20:33

Would be interesting to know how his parents would have reacted if the prank was in your DD OP??

rollonretirementfgs · 30/09/2023 20:53

Wow what a horrible child you have created!

Adkim · 30/09/2023 21:44

This is so stupid it's not worth my time.

MMAS · 30/09/2023 22:22

Fake number bla bla and you are quite content with that not alone how nasty this prank as you call it is ? You accept this as normal behaviour - oh sorry my mistake, quite forgot this generation kids mothers have given a do what you want to anyone ticket and it is fine as their darling kids can do no wrong and need to show no respect to anyone let alone their feelings. Well done you on parenthood not. Would love to know just how much respect of your feelings she shows. At 18 she is an adult - if she isn't that is down to your parenting.

Gingerwarthog · 01/10/2023 07:24

Hi OP - did you say that DD and DN do this sort of stuff to each other all the time?

In that case, this time it got out of hand - can you get everyone together and talk it through? Explain they've been doing this for years but it has to stop now? If they are close then they'll understand that.

Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 01/10/2023 07:51

I think your sister is just upset because she fell for it. It was a joke. Admittedly not a funny one. This just means you need to come up with something better to prank DD with. Or agree no more pranks. It was a silly thing to do, I’m sure your DD realises that. You don’t need to punish her. The natural consequence will be enough. Your sister sounds a bit pathetic.

Boysnana · 01/10/2023 08:16

That's really nasty. Be ashamed

Diddlyumptious · 01/10/2023 09:49

That's way out of order!! Your poor nephew no wonder your sister is annoyed.

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Pebblesandwaves · 01/10/2023 14:59

I'm in the minority here but I don't think it's as huge as others are making out. It was a thoughtless, teenage prank, they seem to have that sort of relationship. This will be something they look back and laugh on in years to come. It sounds like she's learnt her lesson but I wouldn't be too hard on her.

NewDogOldTricks · 01/10/2023 15:48

My dad said he’d bought me a car and then presented me a key box with a die cast Lightening McQueen in it.

I saw his lottery ticket and wrote the numbers down on the top of a newspaper and he thought he’d won the lottery.

This type of stuff was very much swings and roundabouts between us for years and the source of many, many giggles. I mean, don’t get me wrong, expletives were present each time for a few minutes but what an absolute howl we have looking back on it.

GrannyHelen1 · 01/10/2023 17:10

It's a really mean, malicious 'joke' that must've been devastating for the victim. Maybe your DSIS needs to hear that you've taken the issue seriously and played merry hell with your DD over it. It's very disappointing that your DD has so little empathy or insight into her cousin's feelings that she would think this was an appropriate prank. How does she plan to apologise?

GrannyHelen1 · 01/10/2023 17:12

How is it funny? What's funny about being conned into getting really excited about something, just to be made a fool of and humiliated?

AvocadotoastORahouse · 02/10/2023 01:32

HelenTherese2 · 30/09/2023 16:55

Kids have always played horrible pranks on each other. It’s what toughens kids up and stops them being soft.

Pretty well conceived and planned in my opinion.

Ugh what a lousy attitude. This sounds more like a knuckle dragging man than a "helentherese"

SemperIdem · 02/10/2023 01:41

GrannyHelen1 · 01/10/2023 17:10

It's a really mean, malicious 'joke' that must've been devastating for the victim. Maybe your DSIS needs to hear that you've taken the issue seriously and played merry hell with your DD over it. It's very disappointing that your DD has so little empathy or insight into her cousin's feelings that she would think this was an appropriate prank. How does she plan to apologise?

Has everyone really lost a hold on what is ‘devastating’?

Being made to look a bit daft is not devastating, for gods sake.

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