Should I tell our neighbour we can see her through the window?

[sendinganangel]

So often when I go up to get my daughter sorted in her room, my neighbour is visible from what I assume is her room.

She has 2 young children of her own for context

My daughter is 4 and said this morning 'look mummy, the neighbour lady has her boobies out'

Would you tell your neighbour you can see them? Do you think she knows this and just isn't putting curtails up

I and my husband have also seen her in the evenings, when we've put the bin out or something... she will be standing there at her sink washing up and appears completely naked... definitely topless

We live across from her so can see in

Definitely this 😂

I said Bat and Balls. It was a bit of humour. Sorry * knuckles rapped * i forgot mumsnet cant have a laugh 🥺

You ought to have taken a photo and made it into a Christmas card for them this year 😂

As has been gone over in the thread, the short answer to that is ‘it depends’.

The long answer involves information on legal arguments as to intent, case law on the same etc.

I mean its all very funny until we start accusing people of being sex offenders on here!

?? Who accused anyone of that 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’d brush it off with your dd - oh she’s busy she’ll get a T-shirt in a minute.

and just ignore

no way would I confront

It's not some random man or lone woman with a kink though. This is a busy family woman with two young children.

LOL if you think people with families don't have kinks

If it was me, I would want someone to discreetly tell me. What's the worst that could happen? Pick a quiet moment, knock on her door and just tell her what you've seen.

Don't look in her windows? How does a person avoid that? My neighbours across the road, I can see straight in when I walk across my landing upstairs towards the bedroom. I would need to walk with my head down to avoid it...as in not look where I'm going.

I don't think we have a particularly wide gap between our house and the house opposite but if I'm just going about my business in my own house, I don't notice really anything happening in the windows opposite. At night if they had the light on I would, but in the day time I don't have to actively avoid the window to not see into the houses opposite. I don't really think about it, I'd have to specifically be looking to notice someone sitting on the sofa for example.

I forget to put the dishwasher on sometimes and often I forget to take my reusable bags with me when I go shopping.

I don't think I've ever forgotten to put my tits away when I've finished with them though....

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I dont understand why people are saying to tell her- if you do the washing up topless right in front of your window and there are no curtains, you 100% know people can see you. I dont believe for one second this is going to come as a shock to her. I would come at it from a polite request to cover up due to kids being around and safety reasons rather than just informing her because even if you tell her, she probably doesnt care and will be like so what? but if you request for specific reasons its going to be more compelling.

I like the word boobies😅

Maybe she's a naturist?
20 years ago our retired neighbours loved to sunbathe naked in their garden (which was overlooked by flats) and he did the ironing in their bay window (no curtains or blinds). The ironing board was luckily about waist level so covered his bits.

I think she needs privacy film on the lower part of her windows! Could you apply for a catalogue or get a few samples and pop them through her letter box? You could even add a photo of her that you've taken from outside to ensure that she takes the hint!

😂😂😂...tup uts too late to tell them

I often walk around naked with curtains open. As does my 4 year old.

If someone put a note through my door, I'd treat it a bit like a noise complaint, probably dial it down a bit but not stop completely.

Personally I prefer it if the neighbours draw their curtains.

I agree. If you want to be naked in your own home it's no one else's business - whether they can see you or not. If someone finds it 'discomforting', I reckon it's on them to close the curtains, draw the blinds or just look away.

We can see your tits when you're washing the dishes
It's great you've been blessed by the boobie fairy's wishes
But my husband can see them when he takes out the bins
And it's frightening the children and pissing off the missus

OK but I'm not rambling naked through the streets of London with a butt plug in or anything am I, I'm hoovering naked in my own house. Don't look into people's houses if you don't want to see them going about their business in whatever state of undress they seem suitable.

Again, find me the police officer who'd take that call seriously and I'll take you seriously.

Is she still visible if you don’t climb onto your DD’s wardrobe.
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Have the same prob and unfortunately can also see my neighbours wiping their backside whilst I'm doing the washing up! Lovely!! They have a blind but only use it on hot days.

What will happen to your daughter if she sees boobs???

I’d make her aware she is visible. Nakedness fine. But she and/or her partner were getting intimate /ding anything private I would want my kids witnessing.

To people saying close the blinds/don’t look. Do you usually keep the blinds closed all the time in your kids rooms?? What are you? Gremlins?

Do you never catch a passing glance of something unintentionally?

PS. Kids are curious little things by and large. It s how they learn about stuff. If you tell them not to look at something it usually doesn’t work.

There's nothing you can do. She can be naked as much as she likes in her own home