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Should I tell our neighbour we can see her through the window?

259 replies

sendinganangel · 07/09/2023 09:01

So often when I go up to get my daughter sorted in her room, my neighbour is visible from what I assume is her room.

She has 2 young children of her own for context

My daughter is 4 and said this morning 'look mummy, the neighbour lady has her boobies out' Grin

Would you tell your neighbour you can see them? Do you think she knows this and just isn't putting curtails up

I and my husband have also seen her in the evenings, when we've put the bin out or something... she will be standing there at her sink washing up and appears completely naked... definitely topless

We live across from her so can see in

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WorkingItOutAsIGo · 07/09/2023 09:34

There have been cases of this which were clearly flashing, and went to court and people were told to cover up if they were visible from outside, even if in their own home. There are limits to what you can do even in the privacy of your own home.

Fecksakereallygodreally · 07/09/2023 09:36

Isn't everyone naked in this heatwave!!!

LondonPapa · 07/09/2023 09:36

sendinganangel · 07/09/2023 09:15

I guess my next question is, what if she doesn't care or refuses to put up any blinds etc?

It's not very nice having a child see her and be caught off guard by the local naked lady

Why should she change or go out of pocket to suit you? She is on private property doing private things with a reasonable expectation to privacy. You're peeping over and staring at her tits. Just explain to your child what the situation is and move on. If your neighbour is comfortable, let her be.

CharlotteBog · 07/09/2023 09:36

Thegoodbadandugly · 07/09/2023 09:03

Put a note through the door.

Don't do that, unless you identify yourself. It would be really creepy to get an anonymous note.

CharlotteBog · 07/09/2023 09:37

Don't think too much about this OP. Knock on the door and just tell her.

Awumminnscotland · 07/09/2023 09:38

If I was the neighbour is just think you were being a wird and precious. Some people walk around naked. Sometimes they they a chance and have to go into rooms with open curtains to get things or whatever.
I don't think you can go around telling people how to be in their own home. You're presuming she really cares what others think.

icallitasplodge · 07/09/2023 09:41

I walk around naked and would be mortified if someone could see me so just write a note saying - close your curtains for modesty

CrotchetyQuaver · 07/09/2023 09:43

I would tell her, if you're uncomfortable doing it face to face then a note signed with your name and house number sounds reasonable
If she carries on then you know either she's not bothered or gets a kick out of doing it.

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sendinganangel · 07/09/2023 09:43

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 07/09/2023 09:34

There have been cases of this which were clearly flashing, and went to court and people were told to cover up if they were visible from outside, even if in their own home. There are limits to what you can do even in the privacy of your own home.

That's what I thought

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midnightblue12 · 07/09/2023 09:44

I would literally die if someone came round to my house telling me this, like literally never recover 🙈😳😅

Mrs86 · 07/09/2023 09:44

My husband was told very nicely by our neighbour that our bathroom window is see through. It faces the street so anyone down on the street can see. I always shut the curtains now when I'm in the bathroom. I always thought that the frosted glass was enough to distort the view 😂

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 07/09/2023 09:45

I disagree-naked in your bathroom with frosted windows - fine; naked downstairs doing the washing up - not fine. You don’t have an expectation of privacy and you know you can be seen. More than a little exhibitionist IMO.

I would drop a note-“no problem with you walking round your own home naked but would appreciate you shutting the blinds as it’s becoming a bit of a talking point amongst the children, thanks. All at number 10.”

WaxhamSeals · 07/09/2023 09:46

sendinganangel · 07/09/2023 09:43

That's what I thought

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It’s not flashing if all you can see is her boobs. Would you have a problem with a topless man washing up?

JSmithIloveyou · 07/09/2023 09:46

She could be a naturist? But if she is.. maybe she needs to keep curtains closed.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 07/09/2023 09:49

Many people, understandably, question whether it is possible to be guilty of committing indecent exposure in your own home. The answer to that question is heavily context dependent and centres around the issue of intent.
For instance, it is usually possible to tell if someone is able to clearly see into your home. So, if someone intentionally performs certain actions and/or certain interactions without any clothing, they could be liable to face an indecent exposure charge.

Clymene · 07/09/2023 09:50

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 07/09/2023 09:45

I disagree-naked in your bathroom with frosted windows - fine; naked downstairs doing the washing up - not fine. You don’t have an expectation of privacy and you know you can be seen. More than a little exhibitionist IMO.

I would drop a note-“no problem with you walking round your own home naked but would appreciate you shutting the blinds as it’s becoming a bit of a talking point amongst the children, thanks. All at number 10.”

She's not naked, she's topless

Devilsmommy · 07/09/2023 09:52

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 07/09/2023 09:45

I disagree-naked in your bathroom with frosted windows - fine; naked downstairs doing the washing up - not fine. You don’t have an expectation of privacy and you know you can be seen. More than a little exhibitionist IMO.

I would drop a note-“no problem with you walking round your own home naked but would appreciate you shutting the blinds as it’s becoming a bit of a talking point amongst the children, thanks. All at number 10.”

This is perfect 👏

Aquamarine1029 · 07/09/2023 09:52

I would tell her because I see this as a possible safety issue, for her. I would hate to think that she's unaware she can be seen, and some local pervert has discovered this free "show." I'd tell her right away.

peekaboo1986 · 07/09/2023 10:01

How about close your own blinds/curtains and stop looking through peoples windows!

travelogue · 07/09/2023 10:01

I once told a neighbour anyone walking down the street could see family members naked if they happened to glance in that direction. Big full length windows, lights on.

Might get a return visit after this week when I've been walking about in next to nothing because the house is like a sauna.

SplendidUtterly · 07/09/2023 10:03

SpamPie · 07/09/2023 09:05

Change your WiFi name to 'We Can See Your Tits'

Please do this OP😂

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/09/2023 10:04

Please do. This happened to us. We have blinds but our (adult) kids never bothered rolling them down. Lady behind said in her characteristic way, tell them we’d be getting a right bloody eyeful if you didn’t have obscure glass 😁
They roll them down now!

evrey · 07/09/2023 10:06

Happened to me ,got a Christmas card from neighbour with a friendly note inside telling me the frosted glass was not enough . I was mortified

HalebiHabibti · 07/09/2023 10:08

I'd send her a note saying:

We can see your tits from my bedroom window
My 4yo comments on them whenever it happens and will.not be distracted
If you could please pull the curtains across that would be great as it gets a bit dull discussing your tits every other morning
Kind regards

ActDottie · 07/09/2023 10:10

She may be too busy with her kids to care. Tbh my neighbours may have seen me a bit naked when I come out the en-suite and forget to put the shutters down in the bedroom etc. but I just don’t really care when I’m super busy and just feel lucky to be getting a shower in.

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