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Should I tell our neighbour we can see her through the window?

259 replies

sendinganangel · 07/09/2023 09:01

So often when I go up to get my daughter sorted in her room, my neighbour is visible from what I assume is her room.

She has 2 young children of her own for context

My daughter is 4 and said this morning 'look mummy, the neighbour lady has her boobies out' Grin

Would you tell your neighbour you can see them? Do you think she knows this and just isn't putting curtails up

I and my husband have also seen her in the evenings, when we've put the bin out or something... she will be standing there at her sink washing up and appears completely naked... definitely topless

We live across from her so can see in

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ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 08/09/2023 02:26

FarEast · 07/09/2023 15:58

Why don’t you close your curtains instead of policing what someone else does in her own home.

Exactly this.

FarEast · 08/09/2023 07:08

What I have a problem with is people committing indecent exposure in their own homes. I do have a problem with more than one poster on this thread doing that and promoting committing a sexual offence,

We have reached peak Mumsnet.

Nakedness in one’s own home is a sexual offence.

I suggest you get some curtains @shearwater and stop peering into your neighbour’s house.

shearwater · 08/09/2023 09:36

FarEast · 08/09/2023 07:08

What I have a problem with is people committing indecent exposure in their own homes. I do have a problem with more than one poster on this thread doing that and promoting committing a sexual offence,

We have reached peak Mumsnet.

Nakedness in one’s own home is a sexual offence.

I suggest you get some curtains @shearwater and stop peering into your neighbour’s house.

And I suggest you RTFT and stop quoting people out of context.

shearwater · 08/09/2023 09:44

ZadocPDederick · 07/09/2023 23:32

"You're upsetting me" doesn't necessarily equate to alarm and distress, and the test is not a subjective one. Further, it's quite difficult to claim you are distressed if you take no steps to avoid looking at the naked person. In this case OP and her family seem to be looking quite deliberately into the neighbour's bedroom where they could simply draw their own curtains, so I doubt that the CPS would want to rely on them as witnesses.

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You are not required to draw your curtains in your own home to prevent you seeing anything untoward outside the home.

You are advised to draw your curtains if you are going to walk around mostly or fully naked and someone may see in. Or go and live somewhere where you don't have neighbours.

Personally I think peak Mumsnet was reached when someone first suggested the OP draw her own curtains.

Interesting the number of posters here advocating basically anti-social behaviour - hey as long as it isn't against the law it's all good. Hope they are just trolling and not actually as thick as they come across.

beeswaxinc · 08/09/2023 10:21

shearwater · 08/09/2023 09:44

You are not required to draw your curtains in your own home to prevent you seeing anything untoward outside the home.

You are advised to draw your curtains if you are going to walk around mostly or fully naked and someone may see in. Or go and live somewhere where you don't have neighbours.

Personally I think peak Mumsnet was reached when someone first suggested the OP draw her own curtains.

Interesting the number of posters here advocating basically anti-social behaviour - hey as long as it isn't against the law it's all good. Hope they are just trolling and not actually as thick as they come across.

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Crikey, we're all naked under our clothes you know!

Don't know what is so distressing about it really and I would actually say that if there is something that is triggering or upsetting to you but you know objectively is being done non maliciously and well within the norms of everyday life then maybe it is on you to take a bit of action to mitigate your exposure.

Lorieandrews · 08/09/2023 10:33

beeswaxinc · 08/09/2023 10:21

Crikey, we're all naked under our clothes you know!

Don't know what is so distressing about it really and I would actually say that if there is something that is triggering or upsetting to you but you know objectively is being done non maliciously and well within the norms of everyday life then maybe it is on you to take a bit of action to mitigate your exposure.

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Great quote! ♥️

I agree. Breasts are nothing to be distressed about really….

LlynTegid · 08/09/2023 13:37

I think you should talk to her, because it would be awkward for her if your DD spoke to her DC and made comments about being able to see in. Your DD may not yet be able to realise what should not be said to others.

Minimooncat · 09/09/2023 09:51

We have the same and they shower together and rub shower cream all over and my daughter can see everything. Awkward!

lassingd · 13/09/2023 15:49

This has been mulling over in my brain, and I think the key thing is intent.

If the person is intent on causing distress, then nudity or otherwise, the state of undress is just a means to an end. This is why some nude protestors get arrested

If it's just someone living their preferred life, that's totally different. Nobody has ever mentioned my nudity to me, if they did I would probably take steps to reduce their distress, assumign they asked nicely

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