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Should I tell our neighbour we can see her through the window?

259 replies

sendinganangel · 07/09/2023 09:01

So often when I go up to get my daughter sorted in her room, my neighbour is visible from what I assume is her room.

She has 2 young children of her own for context

My daughter is 4 and said this morning 'look mummy, the neighbour lady has her boobies out' Grin

Would you tell your neighbour you can see them? Do you think she knows this and just isn't putting curtails up

I and my husband have also seen her in the evenings, when we've put the bin out or something... she will be standing there at her sink washing up and appears completely naked... definitely topless

We live across from her so can see in

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OneMoreCookieMonster · 07/09/2023 11:30

My god, I think I might be you're neighbour! And, if I got note through the door, while what I'm doing isn't intentional, I'm in my own home which I've paid for and I'll enjoy it however I please. Also, breastfeeding so tits are constantly out. I won't be made to feel uncomfortable in my home.

I will make sure every blind and curtain is always fully open from now on. You'll be the one left feeling embarrassed and seeing more than you want.

Mistressanne · 07/09/2023 11:31

At dsil’s last week in living room and she said
‘I do wish neighbour opposite would pull his bathroom blind down.’
He has frosted glass but it was obvious from the height of his head that he went from sitting on the loo to standing up.
It’s this in between time of year when curtains are not drawn until late but lights need to be on.

coffeeschmoffee · 07/09/2023 11:31

We are in a heatwave!? I'm sure she wont be doing it in the depths of winter. Just close your own curtains if it bothers you that much. Its only breasts, hardly the shock of the century

Malificent1 · 07/09/2023 11:33

How old are her kids? Is she breastfeeding and then forgetting/not bothering to put them away?

I’d nicely tell her that you can see in her windows from your house.

bobby81 · 07/09/2023 11:36

I walk around my house naked sometimes, never occurred to me it would be a problem for anyone else. As long as she isn't standing at the window making it obvious I can't see why it's anyone else's business. If my neighbour approached me about it I would think they were the strange ones for looking into my house.

PinkNailpolish · 07/09/2023 11:36

VeridicalVagabond · 07/09/2023 09:09

If she's the kind of person who is very comfortable naked (ie doing the washing up tits akimbo) I doubt she's the kind of person who's going to give a toss anyone can see her.

I say this as someone who regularly wanders my house naked and doesn't much care if someone sees me. If someone put a note through my door I'd probably just laugh.

Creepy that you don't mind children that aren't yours seeing you naked. You can't expect neighbours to constantly have their curtains closed. Any woman or man who knowingly and enjoys doing this is a flasher.

Bigsurly · 07/09/2023 11:37

I don't understand the issue?

bluejumping · 07/09/2023 11:37

I think she knows

Come on. You know when your tits are out and you're near a window

HalebiHabibti · 07/09/2023 11:38

ZadocPDederick · 07/09/2023 10:37

If I received that note, I'd wonder what the hell was preventing the neighbour from drawing their own curtains.

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Because in my house at least, the kids would open the curtains if closed and actively seek out the hilarious naked woman?!

runrabbit77 · 07/09/2023 11:38

PinkNailpolish · 07/09/2023 11:36

Creepy that you don't mind children that aren't yours seeing you naked. You can't expect neighbours to constantly have their curtains closed. Any woman or man who knowingly and enjoys doing this is a flasher.

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No one has said they enjoy it? Way to stretch the truth there.

bluejumping · 07/09/2023 11:39

Next time, knock and wave ?

Inkpotlover · 07/09/2023 11:39

sendinganangel · 07/09/2023 09:19

You wouldn't cover up if you knew a neighbour could see you and found it unsettling?

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If I was the kind of person who did the washing up topless (which I'm not), I probably wouldn't. I imagine she'll see it as 'my house, I can wear as much or as little when I'm in the privacy of it' and think it says more about you for feeing uncomfortable by her nudity.

Janieforever · 07/09/2023 11:40

Whatswhatwhichiswhich · 07/09/2023 10:24

Why are you looking through someone else’s window? Seems odd that you keep staring into her house. She’s legally entitled to be as naked as she wants in her home and garden so long as she’s not performing sexual acts in front of you. Being naked in itself is not a sexual act. Stop looking through her windows. And I say that as someone who is entirely uncomfortable with nakedness.

Love responses like this, like it’s totally abnormal to happen to look out your own window 😂😂😂😂

Wakemeup17 · 07/09/2023 11:41

sendinganangel · 07/09/2023 09:15

I guess my next question is, what if she doesn't care or refuses to put up any blinds etc?

It's not very nice having a child see her and be caught off guard by the local naked lady

Teach your kid not to look. The neighbour has the right to do as she pleases in her house.

jotajil · 07/09/2023 11:43

I personally would not tell the neighbour. You could put up venetiians or nets.

PinkNailpolish · 07/09/2023 11:44

runrabbit77 · 07/09/2023 11:38

No one has said they enjoy it? Way to stretch the truth there.

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The person I quoted said she doesn't mind anyone seeing her naked and would laugh if someone told them that their child could see them flashing. This sounds like they enjoy being seen like this. Doesn't take long to put on a top or crop top if you're going to stand by a window without curtains or blinds.

Lackinginspiration1 · 07/09/2023 11:45

its no different to what you might see on the beach on holiday, and it’s her own home. Leave her to it, and teach your kid that it isn’t a big deal!

runrabbit77 · 07/09/2023 11:46

PinkNailpolish · 07/09/2023 11:44

The person I quoted said she doesn't mind anyone seeing her naked and would laugh if someone told them that their child could see them flashing. This sounds like they enjoy being seen like this. Doesn't take long to put on a top or crop top if you're going to stand by a window without curtains or blinds.

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That doesn't mean she enjoys people seeing her naked though, does it? It means she isn't embarrassed if someone looked into her window and saw her.

AllTheChaos · 07/09/2023 11:46

PinkNailpolish · 07/09/2023 11:44

The person I quoted said she doesn't mind anyone seeing her naked and would laugh if someone told them that their child could see them flashing. This sounds like they enjoy being seen like this. Doesn't take long to put on a top or crop top if you're going to stand by a window without curtains or blinds.

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They also said they live remotely so the only ‘people’ that might see them are sheep…

Fink · 07/09/2023 11:47

I think you should tell her (face to face, not via a note) in case she doesn't realise. But if she knows and isn't bothered by it, just drop it. So what if your kids can see her breasts? It's not a big deal.

eggsandbaconeveryday · 07/09/2023 11:47

Hang on a minute , if this was a man standing topless doing the washing up I seriously doubt anyone would be complaining ! why should it be an issue that a woman is topless in her own home ?

marblesthecat · 07/09/2023 11:47

Let it go. It's just some tits.

Janieforever · 07/09/2023 11:52

eggsandbaconeveryday · 07/09/2023 11:47

Hang on a minute , if this was a man standing topless doing the washing up I seriously doubt anyone would be complaining ! why should it be an issue that a woman is topless in her own home ?

Cmon now. You lose full credibility if you pretend you’ve no ide there is a difference between a man and woman topless.

jotajil · 07/09/2023 11:54

The thing is there is no intent. She is in her own house probably cant be bothered to keep pulling the curtains or cover up in her own territorry. To me it doesnt matter. Being relaxed about it could help your daughter. After all breasts are not sexual objects, shameful or funny. I remember seeing my nans breasts - long and thin. I was intrigued as to the shape. A biology lesson.

Olive19741205 · 07/09/2023 11:54

WeWereInParis · 07/09/2023 09:26

It's not very nice having a child see her and be caught off guard by the local naked lady

Don't look in her windows then. I don't see why it's a big deal really.

Don't look in her windows? How does a person avoid that? My neighbours across the road, I can see straight in when I walk across my landing upstairs towards the bedroom. I would need to walk with my head down to avoid it...as in not look where I'm going. Obviously at night we both close our blinds but other than that there's no avoiding it.