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Would you choose your partner again if you met now?

158 replies

Ceramekin · 25/08/2023 07:36

I guess it’s a question to those who have spent some time together… Knowing their character, taking into account how you both have changed physically and in personality, would you marry them?

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PinkPlantCase · 25/08/2023 07:37

Yes 😊

Mindymomo · 25/08/2023 07:38

Most definitely, 33 years married today, we are best friends.

MrsTired1983 · 25/08/2023 07:38

Probably not 😔

Nsws2015 · 25/08/2023 07:42

In a heartbeat, couldn't imagine being without him now

NotaCoolMum · 25/08/2023 07:44

Yes over and over again x

MoserRothOrangeandAlmond · 25/08/2023 07:45

Yes!!
I've known him since we were pre teens and 22 years later i would still marry him in a heartbeat!

MiniTheMinx · 25/08/2023 07:46

Yes. However I'd do things differently. I would not get married again. I had always been fundamentally opposed to marriage and even now very unhappy being married. I don't like being legally 'one person' and it makes me feel claustrophobic and trapped. I've always preferred to make an ongoing conscious decision to be with someone rather than a one time commitment that essentially has made me feel trapped. I've always found myself in long relationships and yet I'd always had one eye on the door, and felt more comfortable knowing I could easily walk if I wanted.

Dreamerdeciever · 25/08/2023 07:47

No way. He's a know it all t* who through his domineering attitude, intensely fussy (will dwell on the most insignificant details) and apparent contempt for me has reduced me to a no confidence wreck.
I'm planning to leave him.
Wanker.

foulksmills · 25/08/2023 07:48

Fuck no!! I'd kill to go back in time and run like Hell at the very first red flag that my young, dumb, insecure self stupidly ignored.

Dreamerdeciever · 25/08/2023 07:49

To be frank I despise him.

HashBrownandBeans · 25/08/2023 07:52

Definitely yes, been together 9 years and I still get butterflies at the thought of him. He’s amazing

MrsJamin · 25/08/2023 07:54

100% - he's my best friend and I am so happy we will grow old together. (married nearly 20 years)

Noicant · 25/08/2023 07:54

Yup 100% best thing that ever happened to me.

Cas112 · 25/08/2023 07:54

1million percent

bakewellbride · 25/08/2023 07:55

Yes. He's the most hard working person I know and is very kind, I love him.

saltrocking · 25/08/2023 07:56

I'd marry him a million times over, then hunt him down in the next life and do it all again

EdieLedwell · 25/08/2023 07:57

Yes. He's a wonderful husband and father. Our dc (now in their 20s) absolutely adore him.

We have a very medically challenged SEN daughter, so life isn't all rainbows, and he's been a rock through it all.

Love him, love him, love him.

Poontangle · 25/08/2023 07:58

Absolutely. 29 years and getting better all the time. I can't believe my luck, tbf.

ThunderclapCloud · 25/08/2023 07:58

Yes. Second marriage and fifteen years in. He's kind, hardworking and makes me laugh every day.

Sunnydale1999 · 25/08/2023 07:58

Hell no. We've grown up to be two totally different people with nothing in common other than children and a shared history. I know for a fact he wouldn't choose me either.

Waterweir · 25/08/2023 08:00

Every time. I love him to bits.

randomusernam · 25/08/2023 08:02

Yes and a million more. Had some really shitty BFs in the past and I view him as my karma. I thank my lucky stars every day that I wait to have kids with this man.

BIossomtoes · 25/08/2023 08:04

In some ways yes. He’s still all the things that attracted me but I wish I’d chosen someone with more shared interests.

AllotmentTime · 25/08/2023 08:06

Yeah I would, how could I live without the snoring wind up merchant 😁😁😍

Asyousayit · 25/08/2023 08:12

God no! He's a useless father and so self centred. At this point I'm staying for the kids, and as soon as I can gain more independence once my youngest is in full time school his ass is gone.