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Ceramekin · 2023-08-25T06:36:35+00:00

I guess it’s a question to those who have spent some time together… Knowing their character, taking into account how you both have changed physically and in personality, would you marry them?

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 25/08/2023 13:25

I'm not sure.

Being completely honest here, we've been together 20~ years and while most of it has been good, I kind of wish I had spent more time single. We got together when I was 21, he already had a child which massively complicated things.

I am happy now with my life but I settled down too quickly.

WeeBastard · 25/08/2023 13:45

foulksmills · 25/08/2023 11:11

We don't find out til it's too late 😔

Mine's turned into a paranoid conspiracy theory freak since Covid. And he gets actually angry that I don't want him spouting his nonsense at me (he doesn't talk to me, he talks at me). He thinks I should be fawning over him. He thinks everyone should be!

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Bloody hell. There's two of them. Mine has done the same and grown a godawful beard.

I wouldn't go anywhere near him if I met him now, sad to say. I wish it was different, but it's not.

GreenOli · 25/08/2023 13:51

Yes, 100%. We've been together 20 years (since we were 21, and were friends before that). The thought of anything happening to him scares me shitless.

user1471556818 · 25/08/2023 13:53

Yes totally, 39 yrs in
Ups and downs like everyone but so glad he is in my life.

MrsHsGirl · 25/08/2023 14:15

Yes. Probably more quickly. He is aging very well 😍😂

I on the other hand 😬

nzborn · 25/08/2023 14:16

Yes in as heart beat as he was the love of my life and soulmate but he dumped me and so it's not an option. Nb he wasn't perfect when we met.

Acornsoup · 25/08/2023 14:18

No if I could still have my DC.

longlostauthor · 25/08/2023 14:20

I love him but if I knew then what I know now about how spineless he’d be when it came to putting me and our family first over his toxic mother I’d choose differently. His failure to stand up to her has ruined some of the most important parts of my life (wedding, having babies etc). I’ve gradually lost respect for him over it and feel very distant from him emotionally in some ways now. It’s sad as we have a wonderful marriage in other ways, it didn’t need to be like this.

Newtrix · 25/08/2023 14:22

In a heartbeat, he's absolutely the other half of my soul.

ShimmyingThroughTheChaos · 25/08/2023 14:44

longlostauthor · 25/08/2023 14:20

I love him but if I knew then what I know now about how spineless he’d be when it came to putting me and our family first over his toxic mother I’d choose differently. His failure to stand up to her has ruined some of the most important parts of my life (wedding, having babies etc). I’ve gradually lost respect for him over it and feel very distant from him emotionally in some ways now. It’s sad as we have a wonderful marriage in other ways, it didn’t need to be like this.

Mine is like this too. I underestimated how toxic his mum was before we married, and overestimated his ability to behave in a broadly reasonable and boundaried way. I'm really sorry, it's so so hard 💐

ParisDispatches · 25/08/2023 14:47

Yes! 100% yes...I would do it all again in a heartbeat. We've been together 23 years and it only gets better and better!

Justcallmebebes · 25/08/2023 15:10

Yes, I'm very lucky but then so is he

FreshStart12345 · 25/08/2023 16:18

No.
He's a wonderful man, brilliant father, kind with a heart of gold but we are not right together. We are such different people with different goals and ambitions and every compromise we have to make for one anther means the other person is slowly loosing their dream life.
We should have just remained friends.

DizzyDaisy321 · 26/08/2023 13:03

I already married my hubby twice and I'd do it again no question

Isthisexpected · 26/08/2023 13:07

It was ONLY fine because we took it slow, discussed everything, etc., that we knew we were right for each other.

^ I disagree with this. Sometimes you can be in synch and it's great but then life changes one of you and no amount of taking it slow, or knowing them for years beforehand can protect your relationship from the fallout of one person changing.

whoamI00 · 26/08/2023 13:22

No

Rocknrollstar · 26/08/2023 13:26

Not the way things have turned out, no. But would he marry me?

MustBeGinOclock · 26/08/2023 13:36

Definitely yes. I'm very happy. 21 yrs married.

thisbetheverse · 26/08/2023 13:41

I stupidly asked my partner this question earlier this year and he said no (my own fault I told him to be honest).

I’ve not really got over it but he seems to think it’s no big deal because he’s still in love with me.

ActDottie · 26/08/2023 14:36

Yes ❤️❤️❤️

Maxiedog123 · 26/08/2023 14:52

No

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 26/08/2023 18:08

100% yes. Every time. His hair’s receding and he makes a mess but he is the kindest and most supportive man. We’ve been married 5 years this year and been together 10. He’s spent the day spoiling me and making sure I have complete peace considering I’m pregnant with our third child and beyond exhausted. He does his best to be the best husband and dad he can be and I’m lucky to have him.

TroysMammy · 26/08/2023 18:10

No. I've found out I don't do living with people. I enjoy the peace and my own mess.

Lilibert456 · 26/08/2023 18:12

No.

PTSDBarbiegirl · 26/08/2023 18:13

Oh yes! We met at school and he is simply the best guy I've ever met. I adore him and after an abusive marriage in another life I know what a good one is!