Upset my daughter was left to walk hone on her own.

[Sixmonthcruise]

Dd is 15.
Yesterday 3 of her friends came over. They stayed in her bedroom for a while listening to music etc then decided to go out for a wander around 7.30pm.
We live in a village and they tend to wander around, get some chips and pop to the park etc.
It was a lousy evening, raining and darker than usual because of the crap weather but teens being teens they still wanted to go out.
At 9pm I text her to ask where they were and that I’d like her in now as it was getting dark. I didn’t hear anything from her so waited 10/15 mins. Still nothing so started to worry a little and had a quick drive around but couldn’t see anyone.
Around 10pm she came home, soaking wet and annoyed.
It transpired that her phone was only partially charged when they went out and then went dead, two of her friends where picked up by a parent at 9.30pm and she was left with the other friend. At 9.45 the other parent came, picked up their child and just drive off leaving dd to walk home, in the dark and rain, on her own.
It is only a 10-15 min walk across the village but I can not understand a parent doing this. I appreciate they are under no obligation to offer my dd a lift but it would have been nice if they had asked her if she was ok and maybe called me so I could have come and picked her up.
I would never leave any of her friends on their own, especially at night in the pouring rain. I always offer to take her friends back home or drop them off somewhere just could not leave them standing there.
Obviously, I have explained to dd to always keep her phone charged up and I will download a phone tracing app in future but I’m still pissed off.

@Sixmonthcruise OP I think you're completely in the right here. I'm a parent/stepparent of younger girls but no matter what age, I would always offer anyone a lift home. Unfortunately the world isn't safe for girls and I couldn't go to bed at night knowing I'd left to 15-year-old to make her own way back home

TBH she is 15 why didn’t she ask to borrow a phone??

The OP has already said in one of her updates that her DD doesn't know her number by heart. She is addressing this by writing it down in case she needs it in future.

If her phone was dead, how was she speaking to her friends on loud speaker?
I wouldn't want my child doing a 15 minute walk in the dark even in a small village. Very bad of the other parents.

It will be after she got home and while it was charging @Stewball01

My daughter walks all her friends home then gets me to pick her up, if her friends are at mine i drop them all off, no other parents offer to pick my daughter up or drop her off, i would never let a child walk home alone though, so i am the official taxi driver but at least i know they are all safe

My son, who is 19, was collected by my husband who also gave 2 of his friends a lift. They couldn't get a cab and were far from walking distance home.
People saying your daughter should not have expected a lift are being very unreasonable. And the parents who didn't offer are just weird and very inconsiderate.

I had a very similar experience when my daughter was just 10 out with her mate the same age in a shopping centre which she was unfamiliar with, but her friend knew her way around. It had been arranged they would travel back to her friend’s house where we would collect her from, but the dopey parents decided to collect their daughter from the shopping centre without offering my daughter a lift, leaving her panic stricken there all alone. Luckily she had charge on her mobile & I fetched her within 1/2 hour, but I was hopping mad! I rang the mother who’s voicemail was on & left a furious message on it, which I don’t regret to this day 10 years later.

So I agree with you, the last parent who picked up their daughter leaving yours alone in the dark acted totally inappropriately. It’s awkward though because at age 15 falling out with your daughters parents could disrupt future social gettogethers between the friends, and it’s the parents who were at fault, so it’s probably best chalked up to experience, and hopefully a vital lesson in being prepared has been learned by your daughter. Let your daughter decide if she wants to tell her friend how upset she was being abandoned or not, though what’s done is done now.

@agonyau Good for you! What did the parent say back to you after the voicemail?

Still surprised that with the current levels of violence against women and girls, some people think the 15 year old child is unreasonable 🙄

I am sorry @agonyau but there is such a massive difference between a 10 and 15 year old this is irrelevant.
A 10 year old is highly vulnerable alone. A 15 year old not so much
Most children don't have a phone aged 10 which would make this even more serious.
Did you confirm with the other girls parents beforehand that your understanding was they were in charge ?

No there isn't

15 year olds are just as vulnerable. So are people in their 30s. I'm afraid bad intentions arent ageist.

The phone argument is irrelevant. What does anyone think having a phone is actually going to do?

The op never suggested the parent ‘get out of their car’ to discuss how they were going to get home (in rain / dark) just a simple call out to them to offer a lift was necessary. I don’t know why you assume it was offered by parent & refused by teenager? That was clearly not the case stated in original post, besides what vulnerable female teenager would turn a lift in those circumstances? FFS!!!