How could he cheat(update)

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Hi guys! Hope your all well. Just wanted to let the people that have supported me let them know I’m still hanging on there. Went see solicitors today went ok and also had some face to face with knobhead.

OP

If you haven't got your work laptop yet I would report it to the police and ask for police presence while you collect it asap. If needs be ask work to report it also

just wanted to give you all a update but it’s not the update I wanted to ever give. I woke up this morning positive, I was told by PIL that KH has gone away with work for a whole day which I thought great I can move some stuff out and also collect my laptop. FIL was going come with me which was fine while my MiL stayed with the kids. FIL parked up and I checked the road and no car was there which was great so I told FIL he can wait in car as I won’t be long due to him having back pain this morning and he was really struggling. I came into the house and went straight upstairs to collect kids clothes and as I went in the study room I saw KH sitting waiting. I was in shock and just said I’m just here to collect the laptop and why he told his parents he was away with work.

I’ve never seen his eyes like that in my life. He came up to me and pushed me against the wall and started yelling at me saying I’m a bitch and I’ve messed up this family. I was so scared that I told him il come back just get off me. He tried grab me by my throat as I tried push him away and as I screamed my poor father in law came at bottom of stairs shouting my name. KH tried lock the door and within mintutes my FIL and KH where pushing the door. I just started cry and father in law ended up calling the police. KH came out the room saying really horrible stuff to his dad as he ran out the door.

I can’t stop crying. Fil is in shock and police came and took a statement from me and FiL.

Im at their house and I don’t know what do anymore

FIL said he just felt something wasn’t right so followed me in the house few minutes after and thank god he did

I can’t believe he has put his hands on me!! After everything he tried attack me!!!!!! How could he do that to me

FIL broke down, I’ve never seen him like that. He’s so hurt and I feel partly to blame

So KH played your FIL. His own father! All to lure you to the house alone with him. He gets more despicable every time you post.

Please press charges OP. And tell your solicitor. You're not safe with the man. He will do anything and everything including use his own father to try and hurt you.

I hope you're doing okay, and your poor FIL. Hang in there. You're amazing and so are your inlaws. You have a fight ahead but you're winning. And you will win in the end.

Rights of women. Court applications are a priority now.

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applying for a non mol order and police have said men like them are the most dangerous that can play their own family’s aswell

Please, please press charges

He’s an utter cunt

You need an injunction and your address needs to be flagged on the police database. He has lost control and he’s dangerous

Is moving near your Granny an option?

I’m 10 years and first time he has raised his hands on me. I went police station to have my pictures taken.MIL is distraught and so is my SIL. FIL told MIL if he ever comes back in their life then he will walk away aswell as this is unacceptable.

I just have a hand mark where he has grabbed me by my throat. I was lucky I moved away when he heard his dad otherwise the punch he hit the wall would of been in my face

He didn’t “need” to raise his hands before now. You were compliant

What if I came in with the kids? I can’t stop crying at what they would of seen

But they didn’t. They’re safe and they didn’t see anything

As heartbreaking as it will be for FIL, thank god he was there

Please don’t be harsh on yourself worrying about what the kids could have seen. Please. You have enough on your plate without worrying about what could have been

As I was talking to the police, the lovely policeman held my hand and said you do know u have been in a abusive relationship for the last 10 years……and there it was BANG

I can’t see the end of this tunnel

I’m just getting PIL involved and it’s such a fucking mess right now! I think I need to move away with kids away from everyone.

Op I am so sorry this has happened to you, it must of been so scary. My only hope is that now an order can be put in place to stop him communicating with you. You have done nothing wrong, he has brought all of this on himself and refuses to take responsibility for his own actions. Did you tell the police about him emailing your manager from your work lap top ?

Have you thought about getting signed off work by the doctor for stress that way your not using your holiday to deal with all of this and can save it for a later date ?

This is going to be the absolute lowest you’ll be. You’ve been ground down for a decade. You’ve been abused, cheated on, assaulted

As the shock and distress becomes easier to deal with you’ll find yourself moving towards the end of that tunnel

Work have reported it, my manager rang earlier to let me know they are investigating this as it’s a criminal offence.

Yes. This is horrid but you are gaining momentum toward a better life.

You are amazing, you can do this. deep breath one min at a time.
You PIL need you as much as you need them, let them help you.
What an evil dangerous man. He will lose everything.
I am sure he will be charged.
Head up high this is not your fault.

I really believe he was trying to kill me today