How could he cheat(update)

[howcanhedothis18]

Hi guys! Hope your all well. Just wanted to let the people that have supported me let them know I’m still hanging on there. Went see solicitors today went ok and also had some face to face with knobhead.

OP you need to report to the police him hacking into your emails and sending ones out from your account. He's broken the law. He's attempted to cause humiliation, embarrassment and loss of income with malicious communications.

Log everything with them, you're going to need a paper trail because he is unhinged and nasty.

His poor parents must be mortified. Remember that when push comes to shove they may 'side' with him, however they currently think they will feel in future.

But they sound like lovely people who care for you and your children deeply. Don't rely on them completely but do accept help if it makes life easier / safer for you and your children.

My god, he threatened your lovely granny. I could cry for you OP, he's a monster. It sounds like you're going to find out just how unhinged and awful he has been to people in the past, in the coming weeks and months. We will all be here for you

How can u threaten a elderly woman? She’s so lovely to him and opens her house to us.

Everyone saw him for who he was yet I was walking round with my eyes closed

@howcanhedothis18, it would be a terrible accident if one of the locks broke and so you needed to replace it, whilst keeping the keys in all of the others for fire safety, wouldn't it?

Don't be so bloody ridiculous

It will get easier overtime, continue staying strong.,

@howcanhedothis18 my heart goes out to you

You sound so much like me. When I look at how I let people treat me I go between feeling ashamed (when I should not) and being upset someone who was supposed to love me, was supposed to be my 'other half' could use my lak of confidence and self esteem.

You've had really good advice on here re. the legalities and PLEASE believe me when I say this will all be worth it.

If your poor Granny (bastard him doing that her!) had already noticed you were, for want of a better phrase, a 'people pleaser' (this was always me...now only to a tiny extent) then being with someone like him has dragged your self esteem down to the ground.

HE has been complicit in your lack of confidence. He is acting erratic, you will get through this and get what you deserve in the settlement and have a lovely life with your children.

He knows he doesn't have control this time, that's why he is doing this and undermining you. He can't control you divorcing him so is trying in other ways.

You will get through this my lovely and be sooo much better for it, you just can;t see it yet.

Please send OW husband the proof. He needs it for his piece of mind. Sounds like she is trying to bully him into taking her back like KH is to you.

Bastard

Hey, I have read through your threads. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this.
This is really tough on you and I'm sure you feel like you're going through hell. Just try and hold onto the thought that once you have gone through this, life will be much happier for you.

OP - Glad you came back! What a trooper you have been throughout this nightmare - and a lovely person. So much respect for you. Everything will get better for you now. 🌷🌺

So sorry you, re going through this lovely. KH sounds deranged. His life has turned to shit, all his own doing. PIL sound lovely at least you have them backing you. Try and stay strong, easier said than done, it wonted always be this bad.

Stay strong OP, don't let the bastard's win. You deserve a good life and you will get it, just hold tight to your kids and you will get through

I hope you take your pil's house. It makes sense to me

Can your work press charges for stealing your computer? That wouldn’t be fun for him.

You are sweetheart, you have got this. I know it must be hell on earth to deal with, but he's the loser all round.

Sending love and support x

PS please send that bitch's poor husband everything. He needs to know.

And don't let that bastard grind you down.

I didn’t see the previous threads, but I’m guessing KH stand for Knob Husband. Good luck OP.

Don't reject their offer; that would be foolish.

Your stronger than you realise OP.

Leave the children with MIL go with FIL to get your laptop etc.

He's imploding because he can't control you anymore. Keep logging things don't delete messages etc.
Consider your PIL offer and hold your head up high you have zero to be ashamed of.
OW is also lashing out because she can't control her situation either send the proof to her H make his life easier in this too

OP please just take it one step at a time.

Report what he did with your computer to the police, that's a serious crime.

Send OW husband the proof, he deserves it too.

Accept PIL house offer, for your children if not for yourself.

Continue with solicitors and only contact KH through them.

Stay strong.

@howcanhedothis18 all this illegal and unreasonable behaviour strengthens your case for a non-mol and occupation order. Please speak to Rights of Women today.

Just adding my voice to others who've said the OP should take up PIL's offer of a house and other assistance, especially if that offer won't impact on their standard of living. He and his wife are trying to ensure her and their grandchildren have a secure roof over their heads. They must be horrified at their son's behaviour and part of their reasoning could well be a misplaced feeling of guilt about him.

OP, your pain is very real, but so is that of your PILs. Their offer of assistance isn't just kind; it's will help them overcome the feelings of failure they probably feel about their awful offspring. You and your children are still part of them and their wider family; they want to preserve that relationship no matter what. Please reconsider.

The very existence of the children is even after the divorce is done and dusted, the family connection will always be there - and the grandchild/grandparent relationship is special, despite the behaviour of the children's father.

He is diabolical op. Utterly disgusting what he is doing to you. Abusive man.

I'm really glad your PiL are cut from a different cloth

Fuck him. For everything he is doing to you. Bastard man.