My beloved husband just bought me beautiful earrings

[AvaCallanach]

He really did buy me beautiful earrings for my birthday. This is not a complaint. It makes me smile. He tries so hard. He took the kids shopping, did me proud.

But bless him, he bought these beautiful earrings which he has bought me 4 times before. Twice in blue, twice in green. This is the third blue pair. They are obviously his style!

He adores me ( played me To The End by Blur after work, we are off on holiday without the kids next week). I love him. He's wonderful. But why can't he remember these earrings and yet keep choosing them, lol.

I haven’t read every post but please ignore the nasty or spiteful comments. Your husband sounds nice, if a tad scatty, but he thought about what you would like. I think that’s nice even if the thought was the same.

so many here have crap husbands so are just jealous.

also really £300 is really not that much money. There are earrings that cost way more than that and you don’t buy them at JL, so no humble bragging here - which could be the case of you were showing diamond earrings 10 times the price

I think the Blur lyrics are very romantic. So is the story of how you met. I’m wondering if many people can relate to a time before Tinder anymore if you know what I mean. It’s a shame. Although, after all the not so light hearted threads I’ve read on here, I can understand why everyone is so jaded.

His assistant bought them. She buys them for all the girls 😞

I once got the same book three times in 10 months from my ex husband
valentines, Mother’s Day, birthday
Not going to lie I was upset by the birthday one because the other two were prominently together on the bookshelf in obvious view

ROFL

He doesn't have a PA and works in an office with one other person, a bloke

Report me then...?

@AvaCallanach
I think your husband sounds lovely and I can genuinely imagine mine doing similar, it is the thought that counts 😄 seems like we are just lucky! Well meaning, kind men seem to be few and far between.

op you and your husband sound lovely.
there are a lot of twisted nasty people on this thread

We made it to the end... of our relationship.

How exactly are you interpreting "infatuated only with ourselves, and neither of us mean what we say" as a declaration of love?

You don't know the song, do you?

Also... I don't know any woman who hasn't had to piss in a park/field/ car park etc at some point on the walk home.

Pissing outdoors on the way home featured in the early phases of my relationship with my husband. Can't say either of us ever found it astonishingly shocking or daring or sexy.

Nor him holding my hair back while I puked in bushes. Perhaps I'm missing something.

just wanted to say that your relationship sounds incredibly loving, supportive and genuine. Your husband sounds like a thoughtful man doing his best for you and your family and he’s lucky to have you too

It really doesn’t. It sounds like a man who doesn’t give a fuck. And I do feel sorry for all of you on here that think a husband/ partner who pays no mind to what their partner’s like or love and instead just buys the same thing year after year is something of a romantic gesture. It’s the gesture of a man who Does. Not. Give. A. Fuck

expect more

@Windercar you sound quite grabby materialistic.

I keep buying the same lipstick every year or so. Not because I like it that much but because I've forgotten!

@Windercar, are you ok dear? You have been very determined in this thread that you know my husband better than I do, know that he doesn't love me, doesn't give a fuck about me, that the song he thinks is about a lifetime of love is about a breakup and so he's a shit and I should expect better.

Has somebody hurt you to make you so bitter?

Now, I have listened to your viewpoint, am not finding it helpful, and don't particularly value your opinion, could you kindly step back from your assumption that you understand my partner of 34 years better than I do? Thanks.

I think the earrings are absolutely lovely. So nice that I would be perfectly happy with lots of very similar pairs. The account of how you met is lovely too.

I think it's quite easy to buy the same present for a person if you like it and you think they like it too. A glass and silver version of the earrings is exactly the sort you might have worn when you first met.

Years ago I made a comment about liking cloth napkins, rather than paper ones. My two best friends kept on buying me napkins for ages after that. Basically, the list of people in a private household in the UK with the largest collection of napkins goes....

1. King Charles
2. Duke of Westminster
3. Nettie434

Other people’s relationships are so odd. If my partner bought me an identical gift I would never in a million years hold back from saying so. It’s not ‘kicking a puppy’. You could just have a laugh about it and move on!

OP, you and your DH sound lovely. I hope that when you return them, you can choose something together (in a different style).

I find it endearing that he really thinks you would look good in these earrings! It's made me and my teenage DD smile.

You could share the earrings out at the next family gathering, and all wear them at the same time, in DH's honour :) See if he notices!

Some proper angry weirdos in this thread isn't there? Very "old man yells at cloud" meme

Happy birthday OP

This would annoy me. Maybe just ask for something specific next time there’s an occasion for a gift. Ask for a blue/green jumper or socks or something. You can never have enough socks, even if they’re all the same, unlike earrings.

Tell him, would he please ask you what you want. To avoid getting a 6th pair of the same earrings.

There really are!

I'm struggling to understand why they think it's ok to keep telling the OP their husband doesn't love them, is cheating on her and her earrings look like shit. All on her birthday!

What possible reason is there is there for trying to hurt a stranger so thoroughly. By all means explain why such a gift would not be for you or why you'd be hurt over a repeat gift. But to slag the earrings off so bluntly and to keep insisting the OP's husband does care about her. Fucking hell.

Put on some hoop earrings and hook all the pairs of earrings onto the hoops and see if he notices.

I guarantee this will get you a result.