My beloved husband just bought me beautiful earrings

[AvaCallanach]

He really did buy me beautiful earrings for my birthday. This is not a complaint. It makes me smile. He tries so hard. He took the kids shopping, did me proud.

But bless him, he bought these beautiful earrings which he has bought me 4 times before. Twice in blue, twice in green. This is the third blue pair. They are obviously his style!

He adores me ( played me To The End by Blur after work, we are off on holiday without the kids next week). I love him. He's wonderful. But why can't he remember these earrings and yet keep choosing them, lol.

John Lewis don’t exchange or return earrings.

I agree with the many PP saying this is not normal (maybe once would be, not four times). Does he repeatedly default to the same gift for other people, or just you?

@AvaCallanach

Usually no - any earrings I've ever bought / received, can't be exchanged - but didn't you say you exchanged a previous pair, so maybe?

I'm reeling that they cost £325. I am very much a low-cost person, with only a few expensive jewellery items, I honestly did not think these looked expensive.

You need to talk to him - that's well over £1200 on duplicate earrings😵‍💫

I've done this a few times, seen something I think the person will love, only to realise I've bought them it before, it's a bit of a joke in our family now. I put a lot of thought into gifts, it's not lazy or uncaring at all, I just have a really bad memory.

I think you should wait a few days and then show him the earrings, tell him you really like them but you don't need any more. Maybe seeing them all together will help him next year.

You're reading way too much into this and being mean for the sake of it. They may not be your taste but lots of people Wil lthink they're lovely.

This was my first thought 🤔
No wonder he keeps buying them. Maybe she's acting ecstatic each time?🤔

The second time he bought them I would have told him in a jokey way.

It's a bit weird to keep accepting them, no?

On a separate note he's got to have memory issues as this is not normal

You're reading way too much into this and being mean for the sake of it. They may not be your taste but lots of people Wil lthink they're lovely.

@Jacksfesteringresentment

Er, I'm not? You really think someone buying the exact same set of earrings five times is not really unusual and worthy of checking if there are any issues? Especially as they cost £325?!?

I don't particularly like the style but you are missing my point. If he did think OP liked that style there are lots of other options that honestly are nicer (and I now realise) cheaper, from nice jewellers, not a department store.

I'm not 'being mean for the sake of it' & wonder how you could know that anyway?

Show him! "These are gorgeous, darling, but look..." Then go together to return them, so he can choose something different.

Puppy? No, more like an ass

For the love of god, show him the collection and let him know you'd like to choose the next jewellery item.

I'm sure he's a grown up and will cope.

Yeah, when you mentioned they cost £325 this got weirder

Wait, £325 ?!?!

Fuck me. I've seen ones that look the exact same on our locally hippy stall for twenty quid.

I can think of a million things I'd rather have for £325 than another pair of SAME earrings.

I think you're just going to have to tell him.

Or hope they bring out a new colour

Where does it say they cost £325?

OP I feel for you! My DP bought me two almost identical watches at Christmas. He knows I always wear the same second hand Cartier Tank he bought me years ago, which I love. Didn't know what to say after opening the first gift box and saying thanks, it's lovely to then open the second one to see the same watch in another colour!

I just told him. He says he has the receipt and we can switch them. Apparently the older pairs were less expensive.

I like the earrings, that's not the issue!

threefiftysix I wondered that too. They are pretty but just have glass stoned.

Just wandering how on earth you managed to get JL to refund a pair as they have a strict no returns/exchange policy on earrings.

They are white gold and aquamarine, not glass and silver

Tho tbh I would be just as happy with glass and silver.

It’s so silly- why wouldn’t you tell him? It’s funny, something to laugh about.

I cannot abide the waste of it more than anything else- they are expensive. Think what you could do with £325? You could go out for a really special meal together and toast his forgetful mind. You could stay a night somewhere decent and start a new tradition. You could give the money to your favourite charity.

I do know what you mean about not saying- but it IS fundamentally thoughtless (but not malicious) of him to be so….unaware, big job or not.

Just seen your update- well done op!

No, JL have a hard line on this. You won’t even be able to exchange.

Unfortunately you cannot return earrings

Is he getting them off Amazon or Etsy?maybe they are coming up as items you may like?My partner did this to me twice with silver necklaces.

So he remembers the details of having bought them before? But still bought another pair?

Very easy solution OP. Buy a second home. Kelp your spare set(s) there.