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My beloved husband just bought me beautiful earrings

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AvaCallanach · 18/07/2023 21:49

He really did buy me beautiful earrings for my birthday. This is not a complaint. It makes me smile. He tries so hard. He took the kids shopping, did me proud.

But bless him, he bought these beautiful earrings which he has bought me 4 times before. Twice in blue, twice in green. This is the third blue pair. They are obviously his style!

He adores me ( played me To The End by Blur after work, we are off on holiday without the kids next week). I love him. He's wonderful. But why can't he remember these earrings and yet keep choosing them, lol.

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ChiquitaCat · 19/07/2023 19:56

I’m sorry that I don’t have any advice about the earring debacle. I just wanted to say that your relationship sounds incredibly loving, supportive and genuine. Your husband sounds like a thoughtful man doing his best for you and your family and he’s lucky to have you too.

Ellaelle · 19/07/2023 19:57

Maybe he buys it for many and can't remember who he's bought it for does he have a mum, sister's cousins aunty's or.....

quantumbutterfly · 19/07/2023 19:59

Wear them everyday for a month to fix them in his brain, one of each colour if you only have one piercing in each ear. 😀

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Redlorryyellowlorryblue · 19/07/2023 20:11

Once was cute, twice was funny but 5 times?!

Qwerty21 · 19/07/2023 20:12

This thread is so depressing, why are people so eager to try and bring people down? The op isn't at all upset with her husband, thinks it's funny and typical him, not a lack of love or red flag. She's the only one here involved in the relationship and knows certainly that he loves her and her him. But so many people have to make digs and try and suggest problems where they are none.
@AvaCallanach you're relationship sounds lovely. I'd take repeat earring gifts quite happily as a trade off for a loving relationship too

ILoveYourFace · 19/07/2023 20:15

you're relationship sounds lovely. I'd take repeat earring gifts quite happily as a trade off for a loving relationship too

I expect both, thoughtful gifts that are not a duplicate AND a loving relationship. 🤷🏻‍♀️

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 19/07/2023 20:16

I saw your title OP an thought you were going to get your arse handed to you, and you have. With an added portion of 'your husband really doesn't care, does he?'

Are you new here or just a masochist? Anybody who posts about anything nice that somebody does for them - extra kicking if it's your husband - is going to cop it.

As for the multiple earrings, I would put them out together and say that you have enough now, thank you. He needs a visual prompt to lay off with the earrings.

Rachie1973 · 19/07/2023 20:23

lucasnorth · 18/07/2023 23:02

Love the necklace idea.
Makes me think of the Joan Aiken story about a necklace of raindrops

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Oh my! I love that story, forgotten about it until you mentioned it.

My DH does have occasional memory issues due to a heart attack and oxygen starvation some years back.

However, it’s random things that could be funny. Like ‘I got you a tuna sandwich from the shop as I know it’s your favourite’. I don’t eat tuna, I’ve never eaten tuna. 20 years in, I’m not about to start eating tuna.

Hedjwitch · 19/07/2023 20:25

Dh does similar. Its frustrating as the ones he chooses are ok but there are others I would like better.

I'll take a green pair off your hands OP

xogossipgirlxo · 19/07/2023 20:28

OP, can you gently suggest exchanging them for another pair? My husband bought me once earrings I didn’t like. I felt so sorry for telling him that I didn’t like them (and he was bit devastated that he doesn’t know my taste lol), but we exchanged them for the pair I like and I wear them almost every day.

Appleofmyeye2023 · 19/07/2023 20:31

AvaCallanach · 18/07/2023 22:43

They are white gold and aquamarine, not glass and silver

Tho tbh I would be just as happy with glass and silver.

Really? Jeez they look more like topaz in that picture and silver
and the green ones look like peridot

please get something that looks like it cost £325 😱🙄🤷🏼‍♀️

ladyvimes · 19/07/2023 20:32

some of mumsnet like to equate these sorts of things with shit husbands. I would gently show him this picture and maybe suggest some alternatives! (They are beautiful earrings by the way!)

My husband is crap at gifts and by mumsnet standards I should leave him, but he always buys what he thinks I would like, it’s just that often he misses the mark by miles!! Not thoughtless just not very good at choosing gifts. He’s amazing and I love him to pieces!

ILoveYourFace · 19/07/2023 20:33

Oh god, just seen the sock ‘relative’. Why do people do this? 🐴 💩

HumanBurrito · 19/07/2023 20:35

Oh do sod off. OP is my sister, is that so hard to believe? I recognised the earrings in the picture because she showed us them in a family zoom call last night.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 19/07/2023 20:38

How did you know she'd posted here, HumanBurrito? It does look like a summoning charm, you popping onto the thread.

It's only amusing when everybody's in on the 'joke'.

HumanBurrito · 19/07/2023 20:40

I didn't 🙄 we are both regular MNers, I happened to open the thread in chat because I am on holiday and then recognised the earrings (and obvs knew it was her bday yesterday)

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AvaCallanach · 19/07/2023 20:42

ILoveYourFace · 19/07/2023 20:33

Oh god, just seen the sock ‘relative’. Why do people do this? 🐴 💩

Oh, been rumbled. I went out and spent 1300 on 4 pairs of earrings just so I could pretend to have a mildly amusing husband anecdote, and then invented my sister (some time ago, so she'd have a full posting history too) to back up the story.

You are clever, @ILoveYourFace .

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Angliski · 19/07/2023 20:44

I mean, there's hardly a lack of choice in John Lewis is there - how can he keep producing exactly the same pair year on year - just show him and say i want something fresh to add to my lovely collection of jewels that demonstrate our love, blah blah

SaleOfTwoTitties · 19/07/2023 20:50

MangoItaliano · 19/07/2023 08:01

You sound lovely and very happy in your relationship OP. Don't listen to all the negativity on here - I have a similar relationship to you.

Absolutely this. There are some miserable fuckers on here who are clearly nauseous with envy and attempting to find any angle they can to make this 'not as good as it seems'.

All this 'he really doesn't care' and 'JL don't really sell these earrings' and '£325 for THEM' bullcrap. Quite apart from anything else, JL appear to stock at least 2 varieties of these earrings as £325 and have done for long enough for the OP's husband to buy four pairs... rather suggesting they sell well enough.

Obviously, the Negative Ones have to keep living with themsleves. Meanwhile the OP - and all four pairs of earrings - get to keep living a life that appears to have a healthy dose of good humour, money and lots of love.

May next year bring you a fresh set, OP Grin

This is a nice post, op.

I think your obvious love and happiness has upset a few posters, unfortunately.

Whodar · 19/07/2023 20:51

OP.
Say something. What a waste of money!

Whodar · 19/07/2023 20:52

P.s your husband/relationship sounds lovely but speak up! And you’ll get some different earrings.

Snowy2022 · 19/07/2023 20:53

@AvaCallanach you are not wearing them enough so he forgets you have a similar pair? are you sure you like them if you are not wearing them enough?

JustAnotherOpinion123 · 19/07/2023 20:55

AvaCallanach · 19/07/2023 12:09

In a 34 year relationship the examples I could give of my husband being lovely would fill a thread. However...

Picture the scene, Autumn 1989, a Northern mill town. A first year student with a hippie Indian skirt on enters a halls of residence party with friends. A shy guy who she has met a couple of times before, friends of friends, detaches himself from the melee and comes over. He warns her not to drink the "punch" that someone has mixed up in a huge black plastic bin. He has heard a rumour that one of the flatmates pissed into it. Instead, he shows her where his stash of beer is hidden, inside the lining of an upturned chair, and tells her to stick with that because it's safer.

Several hours later it's sleeting and she hasn't brought her big coat. She wraps herself in her cardi and makes to leave. He says he will see her safe to halls and gives her his Withnail and I style second hand coat to wear. He insists he isn't cold, walking along in his t-shirt. She has drunk too much beer and really needs a wee. They duck into a park where she hides behind the bushes to go Al fresco and he says he hasn't ever met anyone who wouldn't care about weeing in a park before, and that she is as cool as fuck.

They stop off at an old bar where a guy is playing the piano, and find a booth, and talk and talk.

34 years later he tells me how much he loves me every single day. He tells me I built his world. He cries at soppy lovesongs. He brings me tea in bed every morning. If the world ended tomorrow I would know with absolute certainty that this man loves me and that we have been happy together. The scale of our shared history and everything we are to each other is not going to be knocked off course because he is forgetful over presents and spends way more than I would!

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I'm far too emotional today to deal with an adorable story like that OP 💜

Your dh sounds lovely and your relationship sounds amazing and healthy and great that you felt that you could tell him about the earrings (I'd struggle as my dh also gets the excited puppy look when gifting!). I can't remember everything I've bought my dh in the last 10 years and my dh asks what I want knowing full well he would buy the same thing on repeat if he didn't ask.

As an aside, my husband and I had a song called Space by Biffy Clyro play at our wedding. The night before our wedding I freaked out thinking people would listen to the lyrics - the song is about lost loves - and think we were deeply unhappy in our current relationship. We played it anyway because we've got some really happy memories associated with it and fortunately I'd remembered to not invite anyone from MN so nobody overanalysed the lyrics 🙄.

It's lovely that he plays your favourite song for you when you come home and I hope my dh is as sweet and caring as yours in years to come.

MuchuseasaChocolateTeapot · 19/07/2023 20:56

OP. Your DH sounds lovely, I’m surprised some people on here ever find happiness.

For my 50th birthday (in lockdown) I declared I was going to not shower and stay in my pjs all day. Unbeknownst to me DH to have arranged afternoon tea to be delivered to various friends and family and then he arranged a mass zoom meeting and called me into the room (me looking hideous) to be met by a dozen peering faces. I’m completely introverted so was appalled but I can’t be cross with him because he thought it was nice and it was very thoughtful! That’s a marriage, he got it wrong in that I found it mortifying, but the intentions and effort were lovely.

love your username by the way. You’re assuming Ava and Luc get married?

Suckingalemon · 19/07/2023 20:57

I've got an image of him appearing at the same John Lewis jewellery counter with the same sales assistant making the same suggestion year after year "Now I've sold lots of these...what colours does she like blue? Green?."

Next year do a pre emptive strike OP, go down there with a photo of your husband and the earrings and ask them not to sell these earrings to this man. Or e mail customer services.

This could be the story line to the next John Lewis Christmas ad.