My beloved husband just bought me beautiful earrings

[AvaCallanach]

He really did buy me beautiful earrings for my birthday. This is not a complaint. It makes me smile. He tries so hard. He took the kids shopping, did me proud.

But bless him, he bought these beautiful earrings which he has bought me 4 times before. Twice in blue, twice in green. This is the third blue pair. They are obviously his style!

He adores me ( played me To The End by Blur after work, we are off on holiday without the kids next week). I love him. He's wonderful. But why can't he remember these earrings and yet keep choosing them, lol.

Does he have any neurological or memory issues? Does he do repetitive things day to day and forget things? I'd honestly find this concerning from a health perspective! (Yes, I work in healthcare!)

No, he has bought them 5 times over about 10 years, not in the last month.

He is super busy at work, v high in his organisation. I think it might be something to do with ticking off a mental list "buy Ava's birthday gift" without really processing what he's buying.

Can we have a picture?
Your husband reminds me of my sister- She bought my mum a China goose once, which my mum liked and told her so. 4 China geese later my mum had to say - I don't want any more China geese.

I suspect your husband thinks you like them so will keep getting them.

A week before your next birthday or Christmas show him all the earrings and say, darling, I love these so much, and I do not need any more 😊

Is he buying them or is he outsourcing "buy wife a birthday gift" to an assistant or something like that - then that person is buying a standard "wife" gift for various members of staff? Could be he just told someone to choose jewellery?

Oooh this is tricky! I've bought my DIL the same gift three times, just managed to avoid doing it for the 4th (is in my drawer now!). I've also just bought DSis the same gift for the second time but remembered in time before giving it to her.

It's tough to remember! You see things, think ah yes, loved one will like that, and forget you've done that road before!!

Lots of spares incase you lose any! Genius imo!!

Do you wear those often?? I just wonder whether he notices you wearing them a lot and must think you love them so much!

Could be worse - my husband bought me earrings but I don't have pierced ears...

My DH has done this several times with rings. I think in his case, he doesn't know what to buy so works through the same thought processes each time. For example he'll decide to buy me a ring, so he goes to the well known jewellers website he's familiar with, search for rings, pick the cheapest one in his price bracket.

Definitely not - he went off to John Lewis last weekend with the kids.

Attaching pic of the 4 surviving pairs, I took one of the blue pairs back last time he (re) bought it but it's got embarrassing now, like when you don't ask someone's name for too long and then you can't. Today's pair are top left blue ones.

I did say 'they are lovely, Darling, but haven't you bought these before?' when I opened them. He was very sure he hadn't. I didn't push it, he's like an excited puppy watching me open them and I can't kick the puppy. I have evidence that he has bought them before though, lol.

I might try quietly taking them back. He need not know, after all I will still have a pair!

I suspect your husband thinks you like them so will keep getting them.

They are the same earrings. Why would he think she likes them so get the same ones multiple times?

OP, this is shitty thoughtless behaviour. If he's really busy, he surely doesn't need to get you any gift, I'm sure you'll wait till he has time, if necessary.

It does just sound like a box-ticking exercise & one he's really poor at.

Are you sure there's no neurological issues at play? As I don't understand how he could buy identical ones so often.

I know you said there isn't but seeing as he sounds like a decent guy, I'm just checking again.

And sorry OP, they are just such generic, not very fashionable earrings too ...

That is really odd! Or really lazy and crap-I’m not sure which.

I would show him that photo and say, ‘Look- you’ve bought them for me three times and I’ve already taken a pair back!’

Then, I’d start an Amazon wish list!

It's definitely not shitty. He is the sweetest man. He's buying nice jewellery because he knows I like it. He has a view of me of slightly gypsy, silver dangle earrings and I think he just goes through the thought process each time as someone says above....

I might try quietly taking them back

I wouldn't. I would tell him nicely but firmly that he's done this. And tell him what you'd really like.

Fair enough.

But lazy, then.

Even if he wants to get you similar styled earrings, he most have gone to the same shop each time, and honestly, there's nothing great about his choice.

If he's dead set on earrings / jewellery he could ask you, and go to a decent jewellers to choose something?

Why can't you tell him he's already bought them?

That’s really funny!! To be honest though, I would tell him and show him. I know you don’t want to kick the puppy when he’s so enthusiastic but it’s best to laugh about it together and for him to realise.

They cost £325, you have to tell him and exchange them for something else that you would
like.

Unfortunately OP won’t be able to exchange or refund them!

I can as long as they haven't been worn? Can't I?

Just seen the cost - he must be loaded to forget buying you thee same earrings five times for that price.

Tell him he the truth op - it's weird that you haven't already.

My Dad sent me the same birthday card for a few years - he liked it. It made me laugh in the end. However, he was only wasting £1.50...

Noooo!

I missed they cost this. That's insane!

Please may I have one of the green pairs? Thank you 🙏🏼😊💎💚(You’ll get a replacement pair from DH next year)!