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My beloved husband just bought me beautiful earrings

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AvaCallanach · 18/07/2023 21:49

He really did buy me beautiful earrings for my birthday. This is not a complaint. It makes me smile. He tries so hard. He took the kids shopping, did me proud.

But bless him, he bought these beautiful earrings which he has bought me 4 times before. Twice in blue, twice in green. This is the third blue pair. They are obviously his style!

He adores me ( played me To The End by Blur after work, we are off on holiday without the kids next week). I love him. He's wonderful. But why can't he remember these earrings and yet keep choosing them, lol.

OP posts:
LadyGAgain · 19/07/2023 00:41

He's a keeper ♥️.
He sounds wonderful OP.
Congrats on your many years together, I'll raise a glass for many more.

TooManyNameChanges12 · 19/07/2023 00:46

Both you and your Dh sound really lovely. Happy birthday 🎂

LimePi · 19/07/2023 01:15

Trollfeet · 18/07/2023 22:19

They cost £325, you have to tell him and exchange them for something else that you would
like.

£325 for this?? 🙈

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MrsMorrisey · 19/07/2023 01:31

If you said you really like them then he probably thinks you'll like a different colour.

MrsMorrisey · 19/07/2023 01:32

AtrociousCircumstance · 18/07/2023 22:26

Please may I have one of the green pairs? Thank you 🙏🏼😊💎💚(You’ll get a replacement pair from DH next year)!

😂😂😂

Gymnopedie · 19/07/2023 01:54

I've just clicked the link. To find that '70 people viewed this in the last few hours' 😀I wonder why??

Sugargliderwombat · 19/07/2023 03:03

Quisisana · 18/07/2023 22:06

Could be worse - my husband bought me earrings but I don't have pierced ears...

🤣

starfishmummy · 19/07/2023 03:09

LimePi · 19/07/2023 01:15

£325 for this?? 🙈

My thoughts too. I have some very similar (silver and peridot) that were under £20 a few years ago. Goodness knows what these are made of to be £325.

aloris · 19/07/2023 03:17

Next year tell him you really want earrings in purple. Just keep repeating purple. that way at least if he gets you the same earrings, they'll be a different color

😁

TheLadyofShalott1 · 19/07/2023 03:31

EarringsandLipstick · 18/07/2023 22:13

Are you sure there's no neurological issues at play? As I don't understand how he could buy identical ones so often.

I know you said there isn't but seeing as he sounds like a decent guy, I'm just checking again.

And sorry OP, they are just such generic, not very fashionable earrings too ...

"And sorry OP, they ate just such generic, not very fashionable earrings too ..."

I hate the sheerly nasty words that spew out from people like you @EarringsandLipstick. The OP has already said how lovely the earrings are, and I agree with her - but that is not the point - the point is just how horrible and completely unnecessary it was of you to to make such a comment.

Maybe your partner pops over to Tiffany's in NY to buy all of your jewellery, because you are all about designer and cost - if it didn't come from what you consider a posh enough jewellers, and if it didn't cost at least a month of your partner's salary (for every single piece of jewellery he or she buys you) then it isn't good enough for you?

They are lovely and quite simple looking earrings, but that makes them all the more beautiful in my opinion. I can't stand ostentatious jewellry/furniture/picture frames etc.
I think that they generally (but of course not always) look ugly, and actually often look a lot cheaper than they probably were. So, I think that the OP is very lucky to have her partner - even with that endearing hiccup he suffers from once every year - and I think that he is probably even luckier to have the OP, who sounds delightful, and just wants to be given ideas on how she can very kindly stop him from buying the same earrings every year!

@AvaCallanach I think that maybe you should bring out your jewellery collection a couple of weeks before you think he will be going to John Lewis for your earrings - including your multiple identicle earrings - and tell him that now that you have got the heir 'main pair and a spare' in two lovely colours, you wondered if you could be very cheeky and ask him to look for a ring/bracelet/pendant that would go well with those earrings - making it clear that you don't expect him to find the identicle design to actually match them (unless you know that they do sell them, and you would like that as your present)?

If my idea is no good for you in your circumstances, then I am sure that you will have had lots of good ideas from other PP's! By the way, I love the sound of the relationship that you and your husband have - it warms the cockles of an old woman's heart ❤️
Oh, one last comment, I only got as far as EarringsandLipsticks comments, which so frustrated me that I came straight here to give my view, so I don't know if anyone else made a comment about her post. I will continue reading your thread now OP, thanks.

TheLadyofShalott1 · 19/07/2023 03:43

Redroses27 · 18/07/2023 22:45

Is he getting them off Amazon or Etsy?maybe they are coming up as items you may like?My partner did this to me twice with silver necklaces.

I was going to suggest that he should shop from Amazon in future, because they actually tell you if you have already bought the item before, and how many times - it is usually birthday cards that I nearly buy again, and usually for one of my children's birthdays!

TheLadyofShalott1 · 19/07/2023 03:53

sunshinesupermum · 18/07/2023 22:39

OP I feel for you! My DP bought me two almost identical watches at Christmas. He knows I always wear the same second hand Cartier Tank he bought me years ago, which I love. Didn't know what to say after opening the first gift box and saying thanks, it's lovely to then open the second one to see the same watch in another colour!

I would have loved that!

Firstly because I love watches - not all watches of course, but I do have quite an elective taste in watches😉

And secondly because they would go with 2 different colour co-ordinated outfits - or against them if you like to rebel a little 😁

TheLadyofShalott1 · 19/07/2023 04:07

EarringsandLipstick · 18/07/2023 23:22

@ReadingSoManyThreads

That's a horrible comment ...

Pot and black comes to mind! And @ReadingSoManyThreads was joking - I think - whereas you Earrings were not...

LibertyLily · 19/07/2023 04:25

This reminds me of a thirty-something (male) friend who was sent to the corner shop by his wife ahead of a dinner party. He went sans list but knew he had to get three items from said shop.....

He returned home with three rolls of aluminium foil - his reasoning being he knew tin foil was one of the items needed but as he couldn't recall what the other two were, he decided to just get three of the same thing!

Men, eh!

Lovely earrings, btw @AvaCallanach and definitely something I could imagine my DH doing. He's certainly bought me the same art/architecture book once or twice over the course of 30+ years, although usually he's pretty good at remembering what I have, its just I collect books on the subject and have 200+ of them so fairly hard to remember them all! So far he's never done it with jewellery, probably because he knows now I'd rather choose such personal gifts myself.

Downunderduchess · 19/07/2023 04:43

I would think it’s a thoughtless present, as in he hasn’t given much to to what he bought for you previously. If he had he might have realised been there done that, several times in fact. I would honestly prefer nothing to getting the same thing over & over.

Tomatoblush · 19/07/2023 05:14

Windercar · 18/07/2023 23:55

All those dirty words
They make us look so dumb
Been drinking far too much
And neither of us mean what we say
Well you and I
Collapsed in love
And it looks like we might have made it, yes
It looks like we've made it to the end

yeah pretty sure that’s a break up song op

its not ‘cute’ it’s showing a complete lack of care.

interested how you returned your last pair though without a receipt and considering it’s illegal to return earrings due to hygiene factors.

also these aren’t the ones from John Lewis. The only similar ones are Amethyst and look pretty different. These look like glass

What a nasty post. You sound very jealous.

KingKhazi · 19/07/2023 05:43

Completely not the issue but £325 for those? They look like the sort you get at festival stalls for £3

LosingTheBelly · 19/07/2023 06:06

I love those earrings (and have a few pairs with a few varying stones myself).

We are on holiday and DH bought himself at the airport WH Smith the same book he has bought every single time we go away. Something about The Templars. I reminded him that not only do we have 3 copies already, the only reason we only have 3 is because I have already charity shopped the book before. Twice.

He never remembers it. It's wierd. Like a needle on a record player 'Going away- buy book- buy THIS book'.

AvaCallanach · 19/07/2023 06:20

Windercar · 18/07/2023 23:55

All those dirty words
They make us look so dumb
Been drinking far too much
And neither of us mean what we say
Well you and I
Collapsed in love
And it looks like we might have made it, yes
It looks like we've made it to the end

yeah pretty sure that’s a break up song op

its not ‘cute’ it’s showing a complete lack of care.

interested how you returned your last pair though without a receipt and considering it’s illegal to return earrings due to hygiene factors.

also these aren’t the ones from John Lewis. The only similar ones are Amethyst and look pretty different. These look like glass

You're nice.

The make is E W Adams, they are, I have discovered from this thread, white gold and aquamarine (white gold and peridot for the green pair) and he bought them at JL.

The price is nothing to do with the point of this post, I didn't know it when I started the post.

You say it's showing a complete lack of care, well he's MY husband and I know for certain that it isn't. And it's not for you to police what I find endearing. We can both agree it's lucky it's not you who is married to DH, you 'd both be very unhappy.

I am confused at how I returned a pair. It was pre COVID, and DH usually puts the gift receipts folded in the base of the jewellery case. He hadn't this time.

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Nagado · 19/07/2023 06:20

KingKhazi · 19/07/2023 05:43

Completely not the issue but £325 for those? They look like the sort you get at festival stalls for £3

That’s a bit unnecessary, don’t you think? She’s said she loves the earrings, so why try and belittle her taste in jewellery just because they aren’t your cup of tea?

AvaCallanach · 19/07/2023 06:23

AngeloMysterioso · 19/07/2023 00:13

DH and I have been together ten years and I could probably recall every Christmas and birthday gift I’ve ever bought him.

Lol
DH and I have been together 34 years and have 5 kids. It gets harder to recall!

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sashh · 19/07/2023 06:24

ikno · 18/07/2023 23:11

Can you even return earrings? Thought they were excluded due to hygiene issues

I bought a jewelry set for my niece, necklace, bracelet and earrings, she didn't have pierced ears but might be getting them done, the shop put them in a sealed bag so they could be returned.

I've also bought from an independent that allowed you to try them on, as well as return, they had a policy of cleaning earings if they had been tried on.

Go on, everyone, own up, when did you last clean your earings?

OP

I was going to suggest you give him the picture of the earings next year, but he might think it is a suggestion.

AvaCallanach · 19/07/2023 06:32

"I was going to suggest you give him the picture of the earings next year, but he might think it is a suggestion."

Yep can't risk it!! Lol.

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Slavica · 19/07/2023 06:42

Thank you, OP, this thread cheered me up. I think you and your husband are both very sweet. Enjoy your earrings, blue and green ones!

MySoCalledWife · 19/07/2023 07:15

I think this is a really interesting thread

at the base of is a relationship where you think his feelings are more important than your feelings

you try to resolve it by asking your daughter, another female, to gently steer him in a different direction next time

must the male ego (and feelings ) be spared at all cost?

it’s interesting how women are conditioned like this