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My beloved husband just bought me beautiful earrings

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AvaCallanach · 18/07/2023 21:49

He really did buy me beautiful earrings for my birthday. This is not a complaint. It makes me smile. He tries so hard. He took the kids shopping, did me proud.

But bless him, he bought these beautiful earrings which he has bought me 4 times before. Twice in blue, twice in green. This is the third blue pair. They are obviously his style!

He adores me ( played me To The End by Blur after work, we are off on holiday without the kids next week). I love him. He's wonderful. But why can't he remember these earrings and yet keep choosing them, lol.

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AvaCallanach · 18/07/2023 23:08

Drip feed is that DH is a coding guru techie and ds is autistic so there could easily be a bit of neurodivergent thinking going on. He's loyal and kind and lovely and absolutely not doing this on purpose.

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ErrolTheDragon · 18/07/2023 23:10

FartyBrainedHippo · 18/07/2023 23:05

Obvious answer is to pierce your ears another four times.

That's what I was going to suggest (well... three more, she took one of the five pairs back) but the necklace idea would be saner.

ikno · 18/07/2023 23:11

Can you even return earrings? Thought they were excluded due to hygiene issues

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GardeningIdiot · 18/07/2023 23:13

Salience? If you were buying him a second guitar you wouldn't randomly wander into a store and buy one, you'd research/ask what would be an upgrade for him. Equally he could have looked at your current jewellery, noticed what you wear, asked you or your DD. Retained an idea of what he bought you last year as it is important to him.

It not that DHs can't possibly remember/think about jewellery, it's making an effort to chose something appropriate for that person. Which he has spectacularly failed to do.

I think this was meant to be slightly humble braggy, OP, but...

ErrolTheDragon · 18/07/2023 23:14

ikno · 18/07/2023 23:11

Can you even return earrings? Thought they were excluded due to hygiene issues

But if the op takes her other pairs along to prove she'd have had no earthly use to put them on maybe they could make an exception? (Probably not, even though it would make sense)

ILoveYourFace · 18/07/2023 23:14

I’m baffled that you can’t just tell him. He is your husband. Communicate with him ffs.

Mulhollandmagoo · 18/07/2023 23:14

I wonder if he thinks 'ohhhh, she's got the green ones and she likes them, so I will buy her the blue ones' and so on and so forth until you end up with 5 pairs of the same earrings?? 😂

Iloveanicegarden · 18/07/2023 23:15

I've had two birthday cards and 1 valentine card with the same picture!

Superfood · 18/07/2023 23:15

Ummmm... have you ever actually listened to To The End? It's not exactly a love song.

Pinkneonballoon · 18/07/2023 23:17

This isn't cute

PrincessFiorimonde · 18/07/2023 23:18

I'm slightly baffled as to how he must have seen you wear your earrings and still buy you not a similar pair, but exactly the same pair.

But He's loyal and kind and lovely and absolutely not doing this on purpose. And that's great.

Good that you pointed this out to him, though, OP!

Hope you had a lovely birthday. And have a brilliant holiday next week.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 18/07/2023 23:18

Quisisana · 18/07/2023 22:06

Could be worse - my husband bought me earrings but I don't have pierced ears...

He must have mixed up the gift, they were for his fancy piece!

MucozadeOnLucozade · 18/07/2023 23:20

Lol this story has me amused! Let's hope the shop stops selling them!!

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AvaCallanach · 18/07/2023 23:21

How on earth is it humble braggy? I now have 4 pairs of virtually identical earrings (and sadly, 2 very similar but luckily not identical matching necklaces)

DH always spends a lot on presents, that doesn't matter to me, it's the way he was brought up. I bought myself some birthday earrings too, mine were 3.99. it's not about look how much he spends. I didn't know until another poster said.

DH says To the End is like a wistful looking back over a life on a deathbed and it makes him think of me and us as we get old, especially the "you and I collapsed in love" bit. I don't care what it actually means, it's what it means to him.

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EarringsandLipstick · 18/07/2023 23:22

@ReadingSoManyThreads

That's a horrible comment ...

gah2teenagers · 18/07/2023 23:26

He’s literally ticking a box and putting no effort in as much as you try and deny it. Tell him for gods sake.

Puppylucky · 18/07/2023 23:26

I haven't read all the posts but I know that when my husband gets it right about any present I can expect to get repeats over and over again. It's just really noticeable with jewelry - I am the proud owner of 3 diamante cuffs from Butler and Wilson - ie one more than I have a wrist for, simply because I was so enthusiastic about the first one !

Jibo · 18/07/2023 23:28

This is sweet. I think we all gravitate to things we like! A friend of mine at uni once went home from a houseparty with a handsome stranger for a ONS and only realised halfway through the sex that she'd also met, pulled and randomly shagged him about 18 months earlier...

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 18/07/2023 23:29

I have about 8 of the same lipsticks, I keep forgetting I have already bought that shade. I can see myself doing the same as your husband as I do it with clothes too!

UsernameNotAvailableArghh · 18/07/2023 23:30

gah2teenagers · 18/07/2023 23:26

He’s literally ticking a box and putting no effort in as much as you try and deny it. Tell him for gods sake.

Absolutely this ^

Clymene · 18/07/2023 23:30

Aw well done for telling him. He won't do it again.

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AvaCallanach · 18/07/2023 23:32

gah2teenagers · 18/07/2023 23:26

He’s literally ticking a box and putting no effort in as much as you try and deny it. Tell him for gods sake.

A) I have told him
B) in what way would it improve my life and marriage if I stopped regarding this as my lovely DH making a quirky error by accident and started reframing it as symptomatic of him ticking a box and putting no effort in?

He bought several other things, took my autistic DS out on two separate days, took my other kids out and helped them choose things. He tries. I choose to interpret this as a strange and amusing quirk (shame it's so pricey) and as I have been with this man 30 years, I reckon I know our situation quite well.

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MysteryBelle · 18/07/2023 23:34

It’s a shame you returned one of the five pairs. I’d put on some silver or white gold hoops and hook all the pairs on and go up to dh with a big smile and say ‘Stop buying me the same earrings over and over. Hahahaha!!!!’

BadNomad · 18/07/2023 23:37

That is something I do with myself! I see something I like and think "ohh that's nice!", buy it, then forget about it. Until I see it again and think "ohh that's nice!" and buy it again.

Clearly, he thinks those earrings are nice and that you will like them. Each time he sees them. 😬

GardeningIdiot · 18/07/2023 23:37

Get off MN and enjoy your birthday night!

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