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Jonah Hill - wtf?!

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Frankola · 11/07/2023 13:38

I know there's a lot of other scandal going around this week 😬 but has anyone else been watching the Jonah Hill story unfold?

His ex girlfriend, a surfer named Sarah Brady, has come forward with a load of texts and screenshots sent to her by Jonah during their relationship (and afterwards) where he seems to show himself as an absolute narcissistic, emotional abuser. Telling her she wasn't allowed to surf with men, she needed to remove any photos of her in a swimsuit from her socials, and that if she didn't do this she was breaking his 'safe boundaries' and disrespecting him blah blah blah...

Unbelievable!

Jonah Hill - wtf?!
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SirChenjins · 11/07/2023 13:43

Not knowing who Jonah Hill is I’d say she was well rid of him (if this is genuine) - apart from the sexual pictures. I wouldn’t want my partner doing that either, there’s no need for it,

AuroraForever · 11/07/2023 13:47

Yeah I really liked him in a lot of films but after seeing this stuff it’s just put me off him. What an absolute dick. It’s yet another eye-rolling ‘got fame and money I can behave like a dick and get away with it’ situation. He’s obviously got inferiority issues. And probably a small dick. The more women who come forward and out this kind of shit the better.

GoodChat · 11/07/2023 13:51

To be fair, he's setting out his boundaries and they have now separated so it wasn't really a bad thing that he did.

bbyno2 · 11/07/2023 13:53

GoodChat · 11/07/2023 13:51

To be fair, he's setting out his boundaries and they have now separated so it wasn't really a bad thing that he did.

That's not what boundary setting is. You can't control other people's behaviour and call it your boundaries

Farmageddon · 11/07/2023 13:54

Honestly, it doesn't sound abusive. He is stating quite clearly things he doesn't like, but that if it makes her happy then fine, but that means they are not compatible.
Yes it's a bit presumptuous and maybe arrogant of him - but to say it's abusive is a stretch.

GoodChat · 11/07/2023 13:55

@bbyno2 you can say "I'm not comfortable with you posting bikini pictures online" etc.

I agree the things about the friends are controlling and isolating.

PinotPony · 11/07/2023 13:56

Those aren't boundaries for him, they're rules for her. Twat.

PretendUsername · 11/07/2023 13:56

The word abuse is thrown around so much these days it's lost its meaning. He didn't manipulate her to follow his rules, he said what he was comfortable with and supported her to move on if she doesn't feel the same way.

Speaking as someone who has been in abusive relationships this kind of casual use of the definition really grinds my gears. People are allowed preferences, what he isn't allowed to do is try and push or force her to comply with them, which this text doesn't show at all.

Bramblecrumble22 · 11/07/2023 13:59

I don't know, I feel like this is lacking context. On it's own it looks bad, eg first and last point. However, we don't know the rest of the conversation. Maybe he's trying to break up, and she's coming back with something. So he's listing off everything possible he doesn't like, from a niggle to deal breakers to try anf have her dump him. Coward, but not abuse.

Gothambutnotahamster · 11/07/2023 13:59

I agree @PretendUsername

bunnypenny · 11/07/2023 14:00

She was/is a professional surfer, so the no bikini photos, no surfing with men etc is insanely controlling.

Worldgonecrazy · 11/07/2023 14:00

The point is that she was doing all these things when they met. The ‘sexual pictures’ were her modelling in swimsuits, not pornography. Once he thought she was hooked he decided he didn’t like her doing any of these things. In effect, he was telling her is she wanted to be with him she had to quit her job as a surfer and swimsuit model.

I think it’s great that she was secure enough to walk.

LivingForPinkGin · 11/07/2023 14:01

She was a professional surfer when he met her. Already posting pictures of her surfing in bikinis and with men when he met her. He only had a problem with it when she got with him. That is controlling not setting his boundaries.

FlounderingFruitcake · 11/07/2023 14:01

A swimsuit is literally her work uniform.

Controlling twat.

Worldgonecrazy · 11/07/2023 14:02

forgot to add. He may or may not be abusive, but this is often how abuse starts, with controlling behaviours. It’s a massive red flag.

RunningFromInsanity · 11/07/2023 14:02

I’m 50/50.
The way he says at the end ‘based on the way these actions have hurt our trust’ suggests she may have done something involving one/all of these that have affected their relationship. And he’s suggesting actions/boundaries that he would be willing to continue the relationship with.

blahblahblah1654 · 11/07/2023 14:03

They both seem as bad as each other.

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Frankola · 11/07/2023 14:04

@SirChenjins the 'sexual pictures' are photos of her surfing in a bathing suit. She's a pro surfer. Infact, he first contacted her on Instagram based on her surfing photos in a bathing suit!

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Frankola · 11/07/2023 14:04

@SirChenjins the 'sexual pictures' are photos of her surfing in a bathing suit. She's a pro surfer. Infact, he first contacted her on Instagram based on her surfing photos in a bathing suit!

Oh really?! No, that’s not on - I thought he was referring to sex stuff.

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Frankola · 11/07/2023 14:05

@AuroraForever it's so strange because at first he seemed so anti Hollywood and now he appears to be one of the worst ones of the elite club 🤔

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Frankola · 11/07/2023 14:06

@GoodChat have you actually seen the screenshots? This is the kindest one.

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Frankola · 11/07/2023 14:08

@bbyno2 completely agree. It's so weird how some people seem to feel like it's acceptable to control someone's behaviour as long as you refer to it as your "boundaries"

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Mummysatthebodyshop · 11/07/2023 14:09

It's not controlling to have boundaries.
He does not have to stay with her if those are his boundaries. likewise as it very clearly states, he supports her if those things bring her happiness. It's laying all the cards and options on the table.

Controlling would be to stay with her, use threats manipulation emotional blackmail etc etc to bend her to his will and keeping the relationship.

wutheringkites · 11/07/2023 14:12

I can't believe posters are supporting this as having 'boundaries'.

She's a professional surfer so these boundaries basically add up to her giving up her career so she can be with him.

This is abusive and controlling.

Farmageddon · 11/07/2023 14:13

Frankola · 11/07/2023 14:08

@bbyno2 completely agree. It's so weird how some people seem to feel like it's acceptable to control someone's behaviour as long as you refer to it as your "boundaries"

OP all you posted is that one screenshot - how are we supposed to know the whole backstory?
From the looks of that text he is telling her what he is not happy with, and is she's not comfortable with that then they are not right with each other. What me and others are saying is that's not necessarily abusive.