Jonah Hill - wtf?!

[Frankola]

I know there's a lot of other scandal going around this week 😬 but has anyone else been watching the Jonah Hill story unfold?

His ex girlfriend, a surfer named Sarah Brady, has come forward with a load of texts and screenshots sent to her by Jonah during their relationship (and afterwards) where he seems to show himself as an absolute narcissistic, emotional abuser. Telling her she wasn't allowed to surf with men, she needed to remove any photos of her in a swimsuit from her socials, and that if she didn't do this she was breaking his 'safe boundaries' and disrespecting him blah blah blah...

Unbelievable!

He’s weaponised therapy terms to control her. It’s not “boundaries”: he knew she was a professional surfer when they met, and that she was surfing with men and posting pics of herself in her work getup (as someone said above). Just control, plain and simple.

I agree, he's clear what he's comfortable with . What is wrong is him doing it by text when it should be face to face .

I can't believe people are defending this pathetic little man. Sadly, his behaviour isn't new - so many men seek out these beautiful, free-spirited, fun-loving, adventurous women with the express intent of clipping their wings. If he wants a girl who won't do all the above, he should find someone already like that, not bend her to his will

@Farmageddon you don't think it's controlling and abusive to tell your partner what they are/nt allowd to do?

How about him telling her she isn't allowed to surf with men or post surfing photos in a swimsuit when her career is as a surfer?

Sat on the texts for a year and released them within weeks of him having a baby with someone else 🤔

The comment that he’s “one of the worst ones” in Hollywood is hysterical given what some of them get up to.

Nobody comes out of it well, it’s a private matter than never needed airing. If she felt his new partner needed to know what he was like she could have contacted her directly.

I've no idea who Jonah Hill is but she clearly didn't like his "rules" so she exercised her right to dump him.
End of story imho

It's a depressing tale as old as time isn't it, man meets woman who does x and has y hobbies and believes the gift of being with him is so great that the woman should happily give up everything in their lives just because they're not comfortable with stuff they were doing before meeting them. I agree people do change a bit when in a relationship but a man saying stuff like this is gross, I can't believe some (not on here) agree it's fine and normal

To the posters who think it’s ‘just setting boundaries’; imagine you have daughter who is a county level swimmer and works as a lifeguard.

She puts a picture up on her social media in a swimming costume at a swimming gala. A guy messages her on based on the pictures. They get to talking, go on some dates and become official.

6 months down the line, he starts saying she shouldn’t post pictures of swimming galas; shouldn’t go to swimming socials in case male swimmers are there and if a male approaches her in ANY FORM at the pool, she should ignore him. Because those are his boundaries.

Would you really be saying, ‘Those are just his boundaries, love’? Because I’d sure as shit be educating my daughter about coercive control and emotional abuse.

This is exactly it!

@PretendUsername I did not "throw around" the term abuse. I am a domestic abuse survivor myself so I am completely knowledge in how the cycle works.

Infact, this is exactly the way my own relationship started to become abusive. When my partner decided to set rules for me to follow. Much the same was JH is here.

I recommend looking up "houseinhabit" on Instagram; she does independent journalism and has the screenshots that show the other side of this conversation. I'm not saying JH is squeaky clean but Sarah Brady also really isn't the victim she is making herself out to be. She has admitted that she waited until his fiance had the baby to release this stuff for maximum impact and upset. From having looked at the whole picture, she comes across as a bitter ex who is annoyed that her ex moved on quickly. People all over the world experiencing breakups, have unhappy text message exchanges, often. Normal people don't save them for over a year and release biased parts of them strategically to cause damage.

Even without knowing who Jonah Hill is or any backstory, I can’t believe anyone would look at this and think is ISN’T controlling or emotional blackmail. Telling women what they’re allowed (or not) to do isn’t boundaries, it’s misogynist control.

@bunnypenny yes. People seem to be commenting on this thread without having actually read any of the news story. There are a lot more examples and backstory.

@Worldgonecrazy @LivingForPinkGin @FlounderingFruitcake finally - people commenting who have actually read the articles on this!

@RunningFromInsanity She's a surfer. As part of her job she wears a bathing suit and surfs with men. This was her career before he met her.

He decided he didn't want her to surf with men and didn't want her wearing a bathing suit. That's how she "broke his trust".

I read a screenshot where she said she waited for his fiancée to have the baby so as not to cause stress during pregnancy.
Fascinating how people choose a slant.

This reaction is why women don’t speak up.

How do we know it's real?

@SirChenjins unbelievable isn't it!

@Farmageddon in my original post I asked if people were following the news story and what did they think....

I assumed that would make it clear this is a discussion for people following the story?

There are far too many screenshots to posy but here's a couple more. A quick Google shows them too.

@BigCheeseSandwich according to the articles he didn't just weapons therapy language, he actually used their therapist too! Apparently the therapist recommended that when she was surfing, if a male colleague approached her she should tell them she was about to meet her boyfriend and swim away...

There's no therapist on earth that would ethically recommended that!

I came across all of this on Twitter, and read open-mouthed.

He's completely awful. Yes it's completely abusive behaviour.

But I also don't like putting all this out on social media as some kind positive action on her behalf, particularly sharing private messages in this way.

Thing is his a shut bag then. Ok cool leave him. Oh wait she did. Job done.

No need to wait till his new partner has just given birth to decide to get your revenge or whatever. Move on or do it at the time.

No I've only read the one you posted so was basing my opinion solely on that

@Jigslaw Yep. At times it feels very much like we're still in the 50s. A woman meets a man, then she must give up her career and live by the rules he sets for her. 🤢

From what you posted OP I would say he is a major prick but not necessarily abusive. I haven’t read any more, this is enough for me to not really be interested in watching any of his future mediocre films