Please help - husband has had a psychotic breakdown

[Terrifiedforthefuture]

I’ve namechanged for this as I don’t want it linked to my other posts.

My husband is in hospital after suffering from a psychotic breakdown. He has had problems with alcohol and cocaine on and off for as long as I remember. His behaviour this weekend has been aggressive, paranoid and delusional. He made a completely false and dangerous allegation about me and told his family and mine that it was true. I made him leave the house yesterday and he continued to berate me with aggressive messages so I blocked his number.

The police came to my house this afternoon to do a welfare check on me and the children. They said he had been found in an area about 3 miles from our home (of which he has no known connections) and concerned residents had reported it. Police say he was extremely paranoid and delusional and they were very concerned for his well-being. They brought him to a&e for a mental health assessment. They asked if I wanted to see him and I said I was unsure, they said as he had been aggressive towards me all weekend and was still extremely paranoid maybe it wasn’t a good idea for me to see him right now in case he lashes out at me.

I have contacted his siblings who are all down at the hospital with him now while I am home with our two very young children, one with SN.

I don’t know why I am posting or what I am hoping to get from it but I am terrified and really need a handhold.

And I know people who hadn't drunk for 4 years but relapsed later, it's life long.

And that's just the mild end, they are a danger for seriously hurting or even killing someone, if their delusions take them in that direction.

@Terrifiedforthefuture

Ahh so the professionals assessed him, gathered he didn’t have a mental illness just a drug induced psychosis 👏. Thank god they know what they’re doing at that hospital and have agreed he doesn’t need a bed for his ‘mental illness’.

Thanks for the update, OP. Very best wishes to you. xxxx

Well I have faith in this person. They won't relapse 😊

Not everyone relapses.

Wishing you and your DC the absolute best OP, you deserve it

He’s been abusing alcohol and cocaine for many years - hardly parent of the year material. This is most likely why he’s had a mental breakdown. The OP needs to put her children first, herself second and him last!

I wish you and your little girls all the best. You sound a fantastic Mum and i am sure you and your little ones will be fine and have a great future and be happy as they have you for a mum.

Some times people need a shock of losing a family to make them try and kick the habit. Maybe he will ask for the help he needs.

I think that this will be his rock bottom and finally he will seek help and sort himself out however sadly it is too late for our marriage. I need to put my children first and can never take the risk of having him in the house again. I am utterly heartbroken and can’t stop crying today

Op you are right to think about what you need. You don’t owe him a marriage if you don’t want to continue

It’s very hard on you, lots of support here

You got this.
One day at a time
Be open to friends and family
Speak to ss children with dissbilities team fir sccess to short breaks and priority places afyer school clubs etc
Speak to your gp about support for you and for dc

Good luck, OP!

PLs ignore
Of course is not so easy when you in midst
You doing it now

Talk about kicking a woman when she's down

How are you doing?