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DD12 - being scammed by friend?

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Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 22:08

Hey, a bit of a wwyd!…and sorry, tried not to be too long but don’t want to drip feed! DD12 swims 4-5 times a week with a swim club. She & a friend have a locker that they share (we rent it on a yearly basis) so that we don’t have to worry about trailing kit around. In the locker they have their own stuff that they keep separately and a basket/bag of kit they don’t mind sharing. Friend was off for a week and in this time DD12 used a shampoo that was in the shared bag. It was in a supermarket own brand bottle. When friend returned they (and their parent) went nuts because DD had ‘stolen’ their expensive shampoo….apparently it’s a ‘designer’ brand that they had decanted into the own brand bottle and they deny leaving it in the shared section and claim dd took it on purpose (worth noting here it would not have served her hair type well in any way!). We have already stood our ground (it was ugly😬) and thought it had gone away but they’ve started demanding a replacement again after today’s training session. They want DD to give them £30!! Part of me thinks we should just give them the cash and never have dealings with them again but the other part of me is questioning what example that sets for DD - just acquiesce every time you’re accused of something wrongly?! It’s all bloody daft but has become very unpleasant which is very sad. Actually, don’t tell me what to do, just persuade me that this sort of bonkersness is rare!!

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happyfoot · 26/06/2023 07:29

There are quite a few shampoos that cost that much (and more) as I buy them (my hair is fine and really difficult) however its ridiculous that 1. they decanted it (why on earth would they do that- usually the bottles are made for the consistency of the shampoo inside- highly suspicious) and 2. They want you to pay for a whole bottle.

I'd pay for what she used and not a bloody penny more.

Shadesofscarlett · 26/06/2023 07:30

I wouldn't pay a penny either - they are scamming bastards and can get knotted.

Ironytheoppositeofwrinkly · 26/06/2023 07:31

ButterCrackers · 26/06/2023 07:06

Your dd used the shampoo from the shared box and used what she thought was cheap shampoo. It’s their fault. Tell them that you’ve noted their thirty pound demand. Do report this to the police and the swim club. Tell them as well that you’ve reported them to the police and swim club. It sounds like a scam as no way does one shampoo use cost thirty pounds. Tell them to get another locker.

Report to the police? You sound as unhinged as the girls parents. Please tell me you wouldn't actually phone the police over shampoogate and not die of embarrassment as you wasted their time?!

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CinnamonJellyBeans · 26/06/2023 07:31

ThePM · 26/06/2023 06:06

Under No circumstances give them anything. Because it validates their narrative that your daughter did ‘steal’ it and that she is, in-fact, a thief.

Don’t do that to her. You have to face these people down.

This.

ChrisPPancake · 26/06/2023 07:36

Doopersuper · 25/06/2023 22:13

@Rainbowqueeen - thank you, yes - I’ve offered to pay for what was used - they said that wasn’t good enough and they want a whole bottle!

Then they're cheeky fuckers who deserve nothing!

The dd nicked mum's shampoo and mum has since found out is my guess. Was it the daughter who demanded cash first or the mum?

Glad you've spoken to the coach. They should be able to stop any bullying/badmouthing.

ButterCrackers · 26/06/2023 07:38

Ironytheoppositeofwrinkly · 26/06/2023 07:31

Report to the police? You sound as unhinged as the girls parents. Please tell me you wouldn't actually phone the police over shampoogate and not die of embarrassment as you wasted their time?!

Anyone demanding money from me that I don’t owe I would report to the police. I would go to the police station and report it.

Makemyday99 · 26/06/2023 07:39

I wouldn’t give them a penny & I’d tell them they are getting FA. Your DD wouldn’t have used it if it wasn’t in shared & any sane human being won’t think your DD is a thief they will just think these people are total nutjobs

Batalax · 26/06/2023 07:39

The daughter is trying to save her own skin and is lying to her mother in some way.

Who pays for the locker? Have you just left them with the locker and got a new one?

Whatever you do, don’t give cash. They deserve nothing but if you want to keep the peace, give them the shampoo itself not cash.

fancreek · 26/06/2023 07:40

Buy a bottle of the cheap own brand and give it to her, saying you've decanted some expensive stuff in it as that's clearly how the the kids like it these days, smiling sweetly Grin

Don't know why everyone's so disbelieving about the price though, loads of shampoos cost that - no one heard of Olaplex?

babbscrabbs · 26/06/2023 07:42

Lemonclub88 · 26/06/2023 00:15

For satisfaction's sake I'd ask the brand, buy a bottle then decant the two dollops into a little tub in front of her.

I'd do this too

DO NOT give them cash

Sonyrec · 26/06/2023 07:42

pinkginfizz9 · 26/06/2023 05:49

This shared basket thing sounds unlikely to me Can't think of a situation where it would he ok to use someone else's shampoo without asking.Abd you are showing your ignorance regarding the price of premium shampoo

Good morning! Tell Op what your daughter's massively overpriced shampoo was so she can buy a bottle and decant a couple of dollops for you. 😅
I tell you what does sound unlikely - that parents would bother decanting some expensive shampoo into a cheaper bottle just for their child to wash their hair after swimming.

happyfoot · 26/06/2023 07:43

Buy a bottle of the cheap own brand and give it to her, saying you've decanted some expensive stuff in it as that's clearly how the the kids like it these days, smiling sweetly

Haha! love this and clearly they like decanting so they cant complain!

Jifmicroliquid · 26/06/2023 07:45

Hand them a fiver with the words “This is worth far more than the amount my DD used, but have it.” Then be done with it.
What crazy people!

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 26/06/2023 07:46

Hang on. Have they been using your locker rent free this whole time?

RedHelenB · 26/06/2023 07:49

junebirthdaygirl · 26/06/2023 00:13

I would pay . Just to get them off my back and especially off your dds back. There is a danger they will make her life miserable at swimming so give them the dam 30 and never speak to them again. They sound like they love a fight so by giving them the money you close everything down and they can get lost.
Your poor dd l hope she can continue to enjoy her swimming and move on from this.
They are 100% out of order but you can take the higher ground and make sure dd never shares one thing with their dd again.

No, that will open OPs dd up to further lunacy as they know she's easily bullied. At best, a squirt of shampoo or appropriate portion maybe£1 at most.

bumblebee2235 · 26/06/2023 07:51

That's insane! Even my shampoo from hairdressers for bleached hair wasn't that much 😂 why would they give a child a £30 shampoo... if that's the case it can't be good for their skin 😅 plus putting into a cheap looking bottle?? Scammers 😂

I'd just be laughing at them, calling a child a thief and being outraged over a shampoo in a shared locker.. ask them if they would like to log a police report? Or go to a small claims court.. 😂😂

OhFGSwhatTFnow · 26/06/2023 07:53

I think they sound batshit and as other PPs have suggested more than likely the other kid has messed up and is lying to her mum to cover her arse, however…

If your DD is swimming 4-5 times a week and used the fancy shampoo after every session, possibly double washing…that’s not an insignificant quantity, and it’s quite feasible that someone swimming that often would use expensive shampoo.

I think I’d text the other parent along the lines.

”It’s unfortunate that a genuine mistake has been blown completely out of proportion. I will not be giving you £30 cash but am happy to replace the bottle of shampoo if you text me the details.”

Billybagpuss · 26/06/2023 07:56

With shampoo costing that much I hope dds hair felt as silky as a fairies fart after she’d used it.

Coffeetree · 26/06/2023 08:03

Absolutely don't pay.

Block and ice them out. If either of them mentions it again, ask for an invoice and then block.

GameOverBoys · 26/06/2023 08:03

I would replace the bottle then never speak to them again.

MagicBullet · 26/06/2023 08:07

Well I’d be tempted to ask them what shampoo it was exactly and that you will look into buying a bottle yourself.

1- because I’m struggling to think about a shampoo that costs that much.
2- because it forces them to accept a product rather than money they can do whatever they want with.

Then decide what you want to do.

But yes this is bonkers.
To start with, how on Earth did they see that your dd had used that bottle? I mean it’s not as if half the bottle had disappeared.

MagicBullet · 26/06/2023 08:08

VegetablesFightingToReclaimTheAubergieneEmoji · 26/06/2023 07:46

Hang on. Have they been using your locker rent free this whole time?

Good point.
Who is paying for the locker?

MeridianB · 26/06/2023 08:09

They sound nuts. Totally nuts. I’d ignore and block.

WickedSerious · 26/06/2023 08:10

It's a blob of shampoo,give them a quid and tell them to get in the sea.

Twillow · 26/06/2023 08:11

I'm guessing they're well-off? I always hear this kind of arsey behaviour from people who can afford not to worry about it. Normal Joe's or breadline survivors like myself would absolutely write it off as a mistake by one of the girls and absolutely not worth losing a friendship over.
It's only boys that can use a whole bottle in a week in my experience, anyway😂

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