Most areseholy thing a ‘friend’ has said to you

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I will start.

When I was in my mid 20s I was having some relationship worries and was freaking out a bit. In retrospect they were justified 🤣. I wasn’t really one for confiding in my friends but I had a friend over for tea and confided in her.

I arranged to meet her in a week or so and she cancelled on me with an excuse and I thought nothing of it.

At a later date she randomly told me that she has cancelled on me because last time I’d seen her I’d ‘brought her down’ when telling her about my relationship worries. I was flabbergasted. I didn’t say much but think she knew she’s messed up by admitting that by my shocked face.

I stopped telling her anything of substance after that because I realised she was only a fun time friend. The relationship dissolved because amongst other things like her announcing the pregnancies of people I knew extremely vaguely after I’d just had a miscarriage, she said I kept things from her and never told her anything about my life. Erm true 🤣.

Tell me your so called friend arseholery please.

Strictly a friend - no
A massive arsehole - definitely yes

My DC died in lockdown.

Ex friend 'couldn't deal with it' and dumped me.
Fucking bitch. I will never forgive her.

So sorry to read such sad and heartbreaking posts. Mine isn’t as bad as some but I wanted to share anyhow.

My oldest friend who I met at primary school aged 4 (who I actually considered to be like a sister) said to me several times over the years…

“Isn’t it funny that when things are GOING BAD for you, things always GO WELL for me”

Eventually I realised that it was actually seeing me unhappy & stressed that made her feel much happier with her own life (and unfortunately there have been plenty of sad life events that fuelled that happiness)

So, after 48 years I walked away from the friendship and funnily enough she never stopped me. Tbh 4 years later I am happier without her sarcasm, the put me downs, and the constant bad advice.

It’s amazing how much clarity you get when you’re not involved anymore, you finally realise that person never had your best interests at heart. Then you start to hear the horrible truth from others who feared to speak out about your friend at the time - in case they caused a problem.

It’s never too late to put yourself first and ditch a toxic relationship!

I had a friend who after hearing I had emergency CS, that it's a shame I didn't power through as I did't have the authentic birth experience that real mums have.

Another one who knew I struggled with breastfeeding due to low supply and was feeling rotten about it kept saying how it was liquid gold and that basically her and her baby is winning at life and me and mine are falling way behind already. I didn't know weather to laugh or cry!

It's so common for some people to be really kind and helpful when you"re struggling but they cut you down at the knees when you're recovering. It's definitely a thing.
I have a school friend who no exaggeration, got me through he'll when I was dumped just before NY 30th. She was a rock as they say. He dumped be because of the "implied commitment of having been together a year at 30" I guess he was honest not stringing me along but I was devastated and she was great. But when I cheered up a bit, she was a bit mean .so strange.
I wasn't fill of myself god forbid. Just a bit more cheerful. Not dating again. Honestly just feeling more positive and then, bam, cut you down digs......

This is quite funny. I was an army wife. There was a wives club but I didn't want to join. When I had my first baby a lovely bunch of flowers was sent from the wives club. Then a member told me I shouldn't have got the flowers as I wasn't a member!

@VintageBlossomHill I hope you slapped her. WTAF.

On my way to hospital, bleeding and having a miscarriage. I called my dad to tell him we wouldn’t be able to come to his birthday party that afternoon. He said, “well as long as you know I’ll be telling people exactly why you’re not here so it doesn’t make me look bad that you couldn’t be bothered to show up.”

my dad has a long history of being a total arsehole.

My beloved husband took his own life, 2 days after.... When I was still in my whirlwind on hurt, pain, upset and confusion etc, my close friend said a fleeting condolence...... And then started complaining about her partner being lazy and how she's getting fed up with him moping around..... I would do ANYTHING to have my husband back. I'd take moping any day. I'm now a widow and have 3 daughters who are fatherless. Our youngest was 16 months old at the time.
She cuts me off mid sentence, even though its an answer to a question. I realise, she's only asking cos she feels she has to, but just doesn't want the answer really. She just wants to moan... And still does now when I see her. I've put distant between us now.

Well she's probably got her stuff on credit.

You're in the long game - welcome.

The day of my wedding, just before I walked down the aisle, my bridesmaid said to me don't be nervous as everyone will be looking at me anyway

Bitch!

Or was it just a silly joke to relieve the tension?

Your friend sounds like an insensitive twat.

No she was completely straight faced and there was a very awkward pregnant pause where everyone just looked at her. After I spoke she said something like "oops I shouldn't have said that should I?". No you bloody well shouldn't have. It was all very uncomfortable and cringey.

That's awful and they aren't friends

An ex friend of mine said to my fairly recently widowed friend that it was worse for her being divorced because you get lots of sympathy when you are widowed but none after a divorce!

Oh well in that case she sounds ridiculous !

My "friend" that I had done loads of favours for, never returned, used coming to my house as an excuse to cheat on her husband.
She asked me to go over one evening for a drink and casually said "you don't mind if I nip down the road to see so-and-so we haven't had a shag in ages".
She used me to watch her kids so she could go have a shag with the guy she had cheated on her husband with.
As soon as we moved to a different town she stopped talking to me. Of course I was no use to her anymore.

Having tea with a group of neighbours a few years ago. I mentioned we were having fertility problems, one said 'my Dh only has to look at me and I get pregnant!'
Thanks... they have 4 kids so true but..

I am so, so sorry. You deserved so much better.

Not friend, but sister. I thought we were getting on pretty well though, friendly I’d say. After my school colleague died suddenly due to post-op sepsis (in our hometown hospital), she said „ooo be careful, so your child won’t end up
in this hospital”. Exactly the thing I wanted to hear while I’m pregnant. Why would you even mention someone’s child/unborn child when you are talking about such a tragic event as sudden death of young person :/ My husband got so pissed off he texted her to stop contacting me about antything negative until I’m back to my normal self postpartum and I am very grateful he did this. I blocked her on whatsapp for the time being, I just can’t read this sort of shit from her.

My mum died very suddenly when I was a teenager and I was left with a friend and her family while my dad went to the hospital, the friends mum said 'well its not as bad as what happened to me, four members of my family died in a car crash' which is obviously awful but not really helpful literally hours after my mum died (I wasn't even crying so I don't know why she said it)

At a gym class - try not to collapse (said deadly seriously). I was only one stone overweight. ONE stone!!

How awful :o And grown up woman said that!!!

Some of these are awful.. I have many but would be outing .. women can be so catty