Most areseholy thing a ‘friend’ has said to you

[Dontmissyou]

I will start.

When I was in my mid 20s I was having some relationship worries and was freaking out a bit. In retrospect they were justified 🤣. I wasn’t really one for confiding in my friends but I had a friend over for tea and confided in her.

I arranged to meet her in a week or so and she cancelled on me with an excuse and I thought nothing of it.

At a later date she randomly told me that she has cancelled on me because last time I’d seen her I’d ‘brought her down’ when telling her about my relationship worries. I was flabbergasted. I didn’t say much but think she knew she’s messed up by admitting that by my shocked face.

I stopped telling her anything of substance after that because I realised she was only a fun time friend. The relationship dissolved because amongst other things like her announcing the pregnancies of people I knew extremely vaguely after I’d just had a miscarriage, she said I kept things from her and never told her anything about my life. Erm true 🤣.

Tell me your so called friend arseholery please.

oh my goodness.. 😔

Not friends but colleagues (I don't have kids):

Me: Anyone read any good books recently ?
Colleague A: No... I have CHILDREN instead of books.

My friend, two weeks after I discovered a mutual and very good friend of ours was shagging my husband and I was still devastated and shell shocked. ' it's been weeks. You need to stop banging on about it' and then proceeded as she always did to talk about her own, self inflicted problems all night.

And then it turned out she knew about the the mutual friend and my husband. Nice.

I was out with a friend, who I knew was a fatist, when some larger ladies walked in the pub and she started with some loud mean comments. I said it’s not nice being overweight and it can affect your confidence. Her reply was “well you are fat but you aren’t shy”!!!!!! There were no words - I felt completely crushed.

Was she not just making a joke!?

A friend after i’d had fgm asking whether ‘it felt like having a penis’
my sister after having a car crash - ‘that’s kind of what I wished for. ‘
another friend who was infertile telling me that children are hard work and trying to discourage me from having any.

I can sympathise. I know I've done it at times, especially when I was younger and more self absorbed. I am a bit of a blurter sometimes.

I interpreted this as I WISH I had time for books, but children get in the way.

I remember well how years went by before I could read book on a holiday, say.

However, tone isn't always easy to convey.

I won a holiday and took my friend. She got drunk and starting slagging off my husband. She ended up saying he hasn't got a lot going for him. This is a man who is highly intelligent, has a great career and has been so good to my friend all her life as she was widowed young. He would do a good turn for anyone . I am still annoyed years later 😒

A ‘friend’ said to our group she doesn’t understand why we get more attention than her when we’re out because she’s obviously the most attractive out of our circle and it must be because men knows she’s out of their league whereas the rest of us are on their level. And that most women hate her because they’re jealous and know their men fancy her.

Or maybe it’s because she’s constantly got a face like a smacked arse and looks down her nose at any decent men.

Needless to say she rarely gets invited out with us anymore.

Did they just completely not understand what FGM is?

stupid and insulting.

I have to admit I could appear on those 'spotted in walmart' type things because I view the world like that too. Its just the shops people should mind their business not judge me for not looking dolled up.

I have plenty of confidence, I think thats why I'm this way because I don't feel the need to primp & preen for others or apologise for simply existing in my natural state. If people think my hairs not done enough or my old t-shirt and jeans are too casual or I should wear make up thats solely their issue.

I would see a comment like that more as a reminder that you actually look fine 'as is' rather than an insult.

After a long struggle with my health, told my friend that I finally had a diagnosis and was disabled and eligible for PIP and some other support. She said "If I were you I'd just get on with it, I couldn't handle being sat down all the time I'd just have to get up and carry on as normal." So frustrating trying to tell able people that I don't choose to be this sick!

The same friend told me openly that the last time she saw her dying mum she said to try acupuncture and positive thinking to heal her terminal cancer, and if she wasn't healed by her next visit she wasn't trying hard enough. Then when her poor mother died a few days later she said "I told her what to do, it's her own stupid fault for not following my advice".

I've always looked stupidly young for my age. When I was 16, my best friend at the time told me that others were laughing at me and saying I looked about 11 years old. The same friend said 'You know, your brother sounds just like Adam. Like really gay.'
Not as bad as some of the others on here but still hurtful.

I’m not a very touchy feely person, except with my kids. Someone said to me just recently, that after my daughter died (first baby, full term, stillborn, 10yrs ago) that I didn’t hug them or give them the comfort/love they needed…. Ummm WTF??!

and actually it was a close family member not a friend!

I thought the same.

So early pregnancy, someone from work was getting married, they sent invite in a group chat. I wasn't close so a little surprised and said I'd let them know (hadn't announced pregnancy yet). They then replied that it was the wrong chat and none of us were invited.
Day after the wedding I found out it was just me not invited, none of my friends told me they were going, i found out by seeing all the photos they posted. I wasn't fussed at not being invited (they were a lot closer), it was the secrecy and lying to me about it.
A couple of weeks later, I started telling people I was pregnant. Someone mentioned it to them and they went mental that I hadn't told them first. They didn't message me about it or anything. They removed themselves from every group chat I was in and got angry at the friend that told them.

@Notsayingittwice

I do see what you mean, but the tone was definitely "the magnificent fruit of my loins provide me with all the interest and entertainment I could ever conceivably wish for, so I don't need books, unlike you you sad barren cow". It was a bloke. More likely a woman would have said it in the way you interpret.

😲

I'm all for positive thinking and meditation but your friend is one of those people who indulges in magical thinking to the point I just eyeroll. It's psychological weakness to be honest.

After reading all these, I'm glad I prefer spending lots of time on my own.. :-0

I had a super CF friend who laughed when she saw my baby bump (of a much wanted and hoped for baby) and said we would need to plan a day out before I became a whale.
She was also generally a massive see you next tuesday though so it felt good cutting that off.

The leader of my NCT group who, after an emergency CSec at 37 weeks as breech baby had cord around neck & was in distress, delivered to Scbu etc said: "never mind, perhaps you'll do it properly next time". I was a hormonal mess & I cried. She also knew I'd had IVF after miscarriages too. Utter witch.

Thanks for support!

After losing my dad a couple of friends with divorced parents told me “we’ve all lost a parent though haven’t we!”

I guess, tbf, the NCT person wasn't strictly a 'friend' but it was still horrible.