Ruined Fathers day and feel like shit

[RuinedTheDay]

I went shopping with dd, while texting other dc who were away with Dh on friday night. Booked a meal for tonight. Bought cards and wrapped presents. Gave dd her card. Put other dc card in their room. Updated all dc with plans.

Told dh a meal was booked. He said cancel it as no need. Couldn't cancel.it at the time we spoke (late sat night) so cancelled today while I was at work. As we were having issues at work, I failed to update dc. Poor communication on my part.

Dh didnt realise dc knew, so dd found out from him dinner was cancelled. And threw a massive wobbly at me via text at work and is now not talking to me. (Shes 13)

I came home and have cooked a roast. Apologised for my poor communication. Spoke to one ds who got mad, I apologised again, he apologised, all good. Plans were made to gove presents at dinner. Checked in with the eldest dc, checked plans were ok, said right tell your brother we are all agreed, make sure you get buy in from dd (who had given card at this point) as didnt want her saying I hadn't left her out in the communication.

Dh upset as apparently only dd said happy fathers day. This is my fault as, unknown to me, they had agreed to do cards and presents at the meal. But that doesnt stop them saying it, but there we go. Hence the upset of everyone.

So I have cooked a meal. Set the table, reorganised plans. Made cute little menus and wrapped the silverware to make it all look a bit special and not a normal dinner. Presents sat in the middle.of the table.

I updated everyone on what i was cooking and when it would be ready. Apologised again for the miscommunication of earlier.

Dh has stopped off for a drive. I said but I am about to serve. He said, well you said 45 mins 20 mins ago. It wasnt 20 mins ago. Anyway I didnt argue cos everyone is obviously feeling a but raw.

So now, table set. Dinner ready. Presents ready.

Noone at the table and we are all waiting for dh.

I feel like shit. All because I didnt let them know I cancelled dinner. Yes, it was a mistake, but i was dealing with a lot at work and I got caught up.

Jesus what a rude and spoilt bunch, who didn’t communicate with you about their gift giving plans btw. So what do they do for you on Mothers Day?

This is not normal. This all sounds very intense, does it need to be like this? is it always like this?

Jesus Christ, what a palava. Husband needs to keep out of the Father’s Day arrangements ( should be a surprise) and kids need to be told they need to grow up and get upset about trivial, yes trivial matters. 💩 happens they need to get over it or you are not preparing them for life. You have done an amazing Father’s Day, they just all seem unappreciative.

I wouldn’t accept being spoken to like that by my husband or children. Rude, ungrateful brats all of them. Next year don’t bother and let them sort their own shit out.

This is so fucked up. Your family treat you like shit. You sound like Dobby the house elf.

I'd love to know what happens on mother's Day...

This?

Stop apologising and tell him to grow the heck up. He is behaving like a 5 year old.

Let them sort it next year OP, what a bunch of spoiled children, your husband included.

Do they make this amount of fuss over you on mother's day OP? It sounds absolutely bonkers

I would apologise 1 time. Stand up for yourself now. Don’t have your children shouting at you. I’d tell them to piss right off and leave them to it in future

Excuse me? You bought a card for your 13 year old DD to give to her father? And you bought cards for the other two DC who, given that their DF was away on a uni visit with one of them, seem to be older than 13 year old DD? Your DC, including the 13 year old, don't organise and buy their own Fathers' day cards and presents for their DF? Err sorry none of this computes. At 13 I might have still been reminding my DC that Fathers' Day was coming up and not to forget, but they'd choose their own cards and their own presents, which they'd pay for out of their pocket money!
This is not your fault, this is because you have too much on your plate and are running yourself ragged trying to be everyone's everything whilst also holding down a job!
Please take more care of yourself and start letting your DC stand on their own two feet a bit more?

If any of my family acted like this after all the effort you have made I would tell them all to do one.
What a bunch of brats!
They are old enough to sort out their own cards and presents.
Your dh cancelled the plans that you had arranged, this set off the chain if events that ruined it all.
Tell them all to get a grip.

Fuck that. They sound a lot of selfish entitled fuckers people.
Tell your DC that from now on they will be organisising FD cards, gifts, meal themselves as clearly your best efforts are not good enough. And be out all day so your dc and their df can celebrate together .