Son hurt me. With this (pic)

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My son is 16 he kept going on at me over food . I feel ill. I have food in freezer /cupboards . He does not want it. He would not leave me alone. I feel total shit. My other kids are ill as well. I told him to leave me alone.

He then went to his room. He still kept messaging me over food. I'm the end I went to his room and said stop we are ill you need to stop your 16 your old enough to sort yourself food.

He told me to get out . I did I closed the door. He then came out a throw a bottle at me. It don't seem like much but it really hurt . He's been aggressive in the past. And really nasty . But he's never physically touched me.

I can't take this anymore. I told him tp leave he's gone I have no idea where i think he will contact out of hours social services.

Well it's really up to you how far you take this. You can call the police and they'll contact social services, or you can just contact social services. He's 16 so you're still somewhat responsible for him.

He can call out of hours social services. He knows how to do it. He's not coming home. He's now got physical with me.

He's 16, still your responsibility. You need to call social services. You can't just throw him out onto the streets, whatever happened.

Is this the parenting strategy then? You just leave it to the public services to sort out your kids for you instead of teaching them how to get their own food and not throw things at women? I don't think it's going to give you very good results if I'm honest. Also even if you're ill you still need to look after your child, it's part of the job.

It was my mom's strategy and I didn't even throw things at her! Disgusting to put a 16 year old child on the streets. I have very many mental health issues now that I truly believe stem from this.

Uh huh. Really? Was there a purpose to the picture? You may be feeling ill, and he may be old enough to sort out his own food, but if your response is to make a 16 year old homeless and disown him then your parenting leaves much to be desired. I wonder who he got his irrational behaviours from?

He's 16 and a violent male. She does not have to serve his wishes and submit to his violence.

He's probably gone to a friends or a relatives rather than calling social services surely.

What do you want to happen?

He's 16 and a violent male. She does not have to serve his wishes and submit to his violence.

100% this

You could go to social care for some support instead of kicking him out to who knows what. It sounds very tough and I am sorry you are going through this x

She feels like he's crossed a line by hurting her physically. She's told him to leave presumably because she needed to protect herself and her other children?

What would you do in your home if they threw a bottle at you? Whip them up a lasagna?

My mum made me out to be an incredibly violent horrible person. She failed to mention what led up to my outbursts. It's not a two sided story here and it would be stupid to judge it with anything but neutrality.
The child is 16, the OP is responsible for their safety and needs to call social services and or the police of she wants him out of the house. The gender doesn't really matter.

Wow my son has been violent towards me and theses are the replies I get. It's a whole new low.

I'm surprised someone hasn't said that the brand of hand wash will be a reason behind his behaviour!!
You sound at the end of your tether and this space may be just what you both need. He cannot be violent when he doesn't get what he wants.

@Ds16dv You must be in a horrid shock right now.
He has crossed a line and you shouldn't feel, ever, unsafe in your home.
Nobody should.

The fact he has done this out of entitlement and you being poorly shows he isn't respectful towards you, have you looked into some type of help with this prior to him lobbing bottles at you?

I'm sending you a hug, everyone thinks they know what they'd do in this situation but we never do until we're in it. X

Children sometimes lose their temper and throw things. It’s not right and he needs punishing, but you can’t just throw him out on the streets. Grow up and parent him.

I'm sorry you're ill and his behaviour is completely unacceptable.

He is still a child however. Do you believe this behaviour may be repeated? Have you tried any strategies with him around his previous aggression?

He's assaulted her so it's not about sorting out his own effing food is it? Maybe he's got his "irrational behaviours" from his maleness

Surprised at some of the responses here.

He sounds an absolute shit - he’s sixteen, not six. At sixteen he should be able to make some food for himself without throwing a tantrum and throwing things at his mother.

Is his dad around OP? One of you needs to give him an absolute bollocking over this so that he doesn’t dare think twice about doing it again.

This ⬇️

Children sometimes lose their temper and throw things. It’s not right and he needs punishing, but you can’t just throw him out on the streets. Grow up and parent him.

He’s a bloody child! Not an adult.

Yup^

Yes. He's a teenager, they can be absolute shits but you don't disown them over it.

Glad you told him to leave might make him think twice violence is wrong and his entitlement isn’t great yes teenagers are entitled but they all don’t go around assaulting their parents

How does he know how to ring social services?

My DD is 15 and she wouldn’t know how to call them.

What he did was wrong and completely out of order, no one would disagree with that.
But if you want advice then you need to give us more of a backstory so we can try and help.

I personally would have told him once that there is food in the fridge/cupboards and if he doesn’t want to eat it then he can go to the shop himself or go hungry.
I would not have gone into his room and pandered to him.
I also would not have told him to leave as at 16 he has no where to go and is your responsibility.
If this isn’t the first time then I would have absolutely called the non emergency police to have a word with him.

You say he’s been aggressive before.
Do you have social services involved?
If so give them a ring.