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End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

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Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:15

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

OP posts:
Backatworkmum · 09/06/2023 09:21

Kids birthdays are expensive anyway with the pressies etc, so to also pay for a party for X amount of kids is for many people right now difficult.

bussteward · 09/06/2023 09:26

originalglazedsingle · 07/06/2023 12:42

I didn’t come on her all angry and pent up, it was a question. Perhaps MN isn’t for you.

angry and pent up is literally the definition of AIBU posters OP 😂😂

It’s a sweeter release than trepanning or electric shock therapy. A virtual blood letting. And cheaper than therapy!

OldHouseLover · 09/06/2023 09:40

God so much angst from posters about a party bag!

OP I'm with you. My dc are late teens now so it's been 10 to 12 years since they were 6 year old going to parties & even then the party bag was a staunch feature of the party.

I loved doing them & my dc loved receiving them.

They were usually paper bags & mostly had things like a fancy pencil/ eraser or a bouncy ball or small character from a show they all watched or a packet of seeds to plant.

Maybe a tub of bubbles & some stickers.

And something to eat. A lollipop & some moam chewy sweets & a Cadbury mini bar

Putting cake in the bag wasn't a thing that happened here. The cake was eaten during the party & leftovers brought home by the family.

I can't begrudge a bunch of 6 year olds a small party bag.

I just can't get so worked up about it...

HauntedPencil · 09/06/2023 13:03

I think people are far more aware generally about single use plastics nowadays than 10/12 years ago and tend to just give a sweet bag or a book than something like bubbles, if they do anything at all.

GUARDIAN1 · 09/06/2023 15:37

Not rude at all. I think the whole party bag thing has got out of hand and although it adds quite a bit on to the cost for the parents of the birthday child, results (usually) in a lot of junk going home with each child.

user1471538283 · 09/06/2023 15:39

It would have been unusual but I would have been grateful. The only bit my DS was interested in was the cake.

My friend gives out small Easter eggs which I think is genius!

Reigateforever · 10/06/2023 17:54

When I was young parties were few and far between. That been said, first born had parties but bags were not heard of ‘till the second and third DC then I felt I had to give them out, pressure in the playground, putting pencils and sweets in. However, when my DC received a bags with sweets, the unwrapped ones went in the bin

Ukrainebaby23 · 10/06/2023 22:22

FlounderingFruitcake · 05/06/2023 16:22

Weird. There’s no need for the plastic tat but they should have had a bowl of sweeties for each kid to choose one- we went to one that did that plus a balloon animal each and it went down very well.

Good tip, like that idea

ilovesushi · 11/06/2023 09:21

Can remember a mum once giving out a pair of neon socks, nothing else to each child at the end of a party. They were delighted (amazingly!) and I was happy - no plastic, no sweets, no cake they wouldn't eat. Extra pair of socks always welcome.

WombatChocolate · 11/06/2023 09:38

Mine went to a party where they all got given a pair of stripes toe socks at the end instead if party bags - the ones like gloves, that have a bit for every toe. They loved them. It was much better than a party bag and the Mum said she could buy them for about 1.50 a pair.

Also saw people give a small sticker book or a beanie hat, or the party was a craft activity and the take-home craft (build a bear type thing, sweets they had made, beautiful cup cakes in boxes, etc - more for 6-10 year age range rather than tiny children) was the take-home. Also saw Easter eggs given out cost £1 each and better than a bag of plastic that will be in the bin by the end of the day.

There are good ideas out there that kids love.

Bignanny30 · 13/06/2023 20:26

Why should the host and/parent of the birthday child have to give the guests a gift of any type. They’ve already been invited to a party, which even if held at home probably cost enough. I’ve always thought that giving the guests a party bag was an odd idea.

BloominLovelyLady88 · 19/07/2023 15:52

It's a bit weird. I mean, isn't it kind of a tradition to hand out bags with bouncy balls, bubble wands and squashed cake to all the kiddies that attend?!

VeraMay · 19/07/2023 19:11

Why? I had 3 girls, which adds up to 48 + Birthday parties. Each child went home with a prize, a piece of cake, and if they hadn't burst them all, a balloon.
The only issue I had with one Birthday party, was complaints from my youngest's friends that I hadn't organised games. They were only 17 years old. 18th Birthday party I did games...

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