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End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

413 replies

Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:15

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

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originalglazedsingle · 05/06/2023 19:22

StemStem · 05/06/2023 19:21

What’s shit about a balloon?

how do you make a balloon environmentally friendly exactly?

ReadtheReviews · 05/06/2023 19:23

The last few years I put tons of thought and effort into those fucking things and nobody ever mentions them again. This year...hmm...a slice of cake and one small toy.

Foxglove22 · 05/06/2023 19:23

I wish party bags had never been invented. If you haven't received one, hats off to the party organiser for not feeling pressurized to provide one.

EatYourVegetables · 05/06/2023 19:24

I hate party bags but have no idea how to extract my children from a party without them.

Hannahsbananas · 05/06/2023 19:26

EatYourVegetables · 05/06/2023 19:24

I hate party bags but have no idea how to extract my children from a party without them.

Seriously?

Bedtimemode · 05/06/2023 19:26

I think it's perfectly fine, 5 year old DS would think it was criminal.

The last party we we to they got a cone of sweets at the end which felt better than tiny plastic toys

notsurewherenotsurewhy · 05/06/2023 19:30

I dislike party bags and wish it was more normal to not give them. Even the wholesome ones are often clutter we don't need (stationery receptacles are overflowing 😫), not as wholesome as it's cracked up to be (yes it's a book... an abysmally poor quality Aquaman book 🙃), or create an extra job for me in a weekend I've already obvs had to do gift shopping and party taxi in (seed bombs for our non-existent garden, mini craft activities, I'm looking at you).

I've never had the gumption to not do them at all, though. Children do expect them. I have two kids, eldest now 11, and I think I've only known one party bag free party over all those years (and I have to say that family was in many ways quite eccentric, so i guess not bothered about upsetting any applecarts).

boomboom109283 · 05/06/2023 19:32

My kids would definitely be disappointed if they didn't get one.

ZenNudist · 05/06/2023 19:34

Not rude but how do you end a party without giving at least a slice of cake or a balloon as a signal to leave?!

Dacadactyl · 05/06/2023 19:54

ZenNudist · 05/06/2023 19:34

Not rude but how do you end a party without giving at least a slice of cake or a balloon as a signal to leave?!

Just round all the kids up, say " there's a climate crisis on kids, so we're not doing party bags. Its all plastic rubbish that gets binned in 5 minutes. It's time to go now, see you at school. You'll thank me when you grow up!"

clpsmum · 05/06/2023 19:58

Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:15

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

I'd be delighted they're usually full of junk

chaosmaker · 05/06/2023 19:58

ArDi · 05/06/2023 17:07

I think it's a bit rude, considering each child will have brought a gift, not to give them a favour to take home. But I also agree that plastic tat is horrible.
We discovered that a good way to get out of party bags without sending people home empty-handed, was to give out the balloons that were decorating the room. Each child got a slice of cake and a balloon on their way out - it made clearing up after the party slightly easier as the bulk of the decor went out with the guests!

Teach the kids that you don't give to receive, easy.....

Delatron · 05/06/2023 20:05

Good for them. Let’s hope they are starting a trend. They were the bane of my life.

You could always just hand out a piece of cake to signal the end of the party. If the trend stopped then kids wouldn’t expect them.

Newmum110 · 05/06/2023 20:08

Wouldn't expect anything when leaving, going to the party is enough & expecting more is greedy.

HauntedPencil · 05/06/2023 20:26

It's unusual but it's definitely not rude. I wouldn't care at all, especially when they get older it's just a bag of absolute crap or more sweets usually.

Glassfullofdreams · 05/06/2023 20:28

Definitely not rude. In fact I think it's quite rude to expect one.

Neolara · 05/06/2023 20:29

I'd be absolutely delighted that I didn't have another bag of plastic tat to deal with.

SleepingStandingUp · 05/06/2023 20:33

It's fine op, the other parents will be grateful to not have plastic crap in their house and the kids won't be overly bothered.

Did you do a cake with candles tho? I'd think it odd you hadn't given that out but I wouldn't be egging your house.

SpringIntoChaos · 05/06/2023 20:45

Just hand them a slice of cake and a balloon! Who needs a bag full of shite?? 🤦‍♀️

Seriously! Such entitlement is beyond me! "Manage my child's expectations"!!! Ffs! 😱🤣😱

originalglazedsingle · 05/06/2023 20:47

again, who needs a bloody balloon? Talk about plastic tat!

liveforsummer · 05/06/2023 20:48

Not rude and is fine but kids love the bags of plastic crap and sugar so it will be noticed by the guests

ConscriptMother · 05/06/2023 21:43

I am really, really surprised by this! The vast number of parties my children have
been to don’t have “party bags” or favors given. They may bring home a craft if it was a crafting party. Of course they usually eat food/cake there. It wouldn’t occur to me to be offended with no party bag or think it unfair - my child got to go to the fun party, after all. When it’s time to go, we just go. Like everyone else. Money def not a problem either!

I am not in the UK btw.

Hannahsbananas · 05/06/2023 21:46

When it’s time to go, we just go
Well, quite…
I had to laugh at the “but how would I persuade my child to leave if there’s no party bag?” wet lettuces 😂

SleepingStandingUp · 05/06/2023 21:50

ZenNudist · 05/06/2023 19:34

Not rude but how do you end a party without giving at least a slice of cake or a balloon as a signal to leave?!

Turn the music and the lights off

StemStem · 05/06/2023 21:51

originalglazedsingle · 05/06/2023 19:22

how do you make a balloon environmentally friendly exactly?

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I’m not asking about the environmental viability of them. I’m asking what’s shit about them? Don’t you smile when you hold one?

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