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End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

413 replies

Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:15

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

OP posts:
flexigirl · 05/06/2023 16:23

Was there a piece of cake to take home? I think kudos to the party givers. Bags are a fucking hassle anyway

Greenfree · 05/06/2023 16:23

I don't think it's rude. I've always done a paper party bag filled with sweets and cake as it lets people know the party has ended

Timeflieswhenyourehavingfun · 05/06/2023 16:25

Rude ? Of course not.
The meaning of the word rude seems to be misunderstood on MN.

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Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:28

flexigirl · 05/06/2023 16:23

Was there a piece of cake to take home? I think kudos to the party givers. Bags are a fucking hassle anyway

No- a cupcake at the party

OP posts:
bussteward · 05/06/2023 16:29

Normalise no party bags! Imagine what a generational triumph it would be to end the scourge of tat.

paradoxicalfrog · 05/06/2023 16:32

"BUT it does go against the norm so i would have appreciated the heads up beforehand so I could manage my child's expectations"

Jeez!

Life is full of disappointments. Best to let them learn this.

Newnamenewname109870 · 05/06/2023 16:32

It’s fine. No one would complain but might be surprised. Not as bad as no cake!

But honestly op I love making them! Why not just get paper bags and shove the rest of the cake in there?

edwinbear · 05/06/2023 16:33

A bit unusual, yes, but not rude. My DC would have been absolutely fine with it and just appreciated the invite and a fun time with their friends, but I did always find them useful to signal home time. Both with parties I was hosting and ones we were invited to.

StormShadow · 05/06/2023 16:34

Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:15

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

Great, less plastic shit.

mushroommummy · 05/06/2023 16:34

Oh well looks like I have to rethink Fridays party with no party bags! I wasn’t going to give them out this year, plastic crap, credit crunch, very scaled back party.

tattygrl · 05/06/2023 16:36

Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:19

Just to add- I say party bag, but I mean nothing (no sweets, book etc- whatever people choose to give out), not party bag specific

A book?! Is it a thing now that books get handed out at the end of kids' parties? I'm not being snarky, that just really caught my eye and surprised me!

JenniferBarkley · 05/06/2023 16:36

I would be delighted. My 5yo would not, and I would be frantically hoping my whispered insistences not to be rude were heard.

I wonder if they forgot and are now looking at 20 bags of tat and wondering what to do with them Grin One of DCs's friends left her party a bit early and came to say goodbye and thank you. She was looking up at me very sweetly expectantly and I was so confused Grin it was only later when everyone else was leaving that I copped.

SchoolHours · 05/06/2023 16:36

In my case it was usually because I'd forgotten to give them out 😳and we had to deliver them over the following days. One more party to go and never again 😂

Marsyas · 05/06/2023 16:37

Fine of course, but my children would have noticed and probably commented to me at that age, and been a bit disappointed, but hopefully not to the party giver. Of course I would have explained to them party bags are not a necessity, and I always told them children coming to their party didn't have to bring a present, but in practice every single party did give a party bag so they would have been surprised at the break from the norm.

Plutonium7000 · 05/06/2023 16:40

My kids have been to a few parties recently where no party bags were given out. At my son's 9th party some people didn't bring presents.

I'm all for it! Cut out the crap and focus on having fun.

(Make sure that you have a way to make it obvious that the party is over tho that is something thst party bags are useful for!)

gabsdot45 · 05/06/2023 16:41

I didn't do party bags at my kid's parties. I was trying to change the world one hoodie bag free party at a time.

Paperlate · 05/06/2023 16:42

I think it's a bit mean really.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 05/06/2023 16:44

Some parents don’t want kids to get plastic tat and are also keen on less sugar.

If it were me being healthy I’d give pop chips small bag or Ryvita mini bites, a baby bel, fruit and cake. Plus maybe pencils and pad.

massivesalads · 05/06/2023 16:45

Literally wouldn't even think about it.
Would just be grateful for the parents arranging a party and inviting my child!

wistfullyfocused · 05/06/2023 16:45

Acunningruse · 05/06/2023 16:17

I wouldn't find it rude and completely understand the reasons for not wanting to do party bags (plastic tat headed straight for landfill, sugary treats not good for DC, cost, etc) BUT it does go against the norm so i would have appreciated the heads up beforehand so I could manage my child's expectations.

Priceless 😂

Gazelda · 05/06/2023 16:46

I'd admire a family that went against the pressure to do party bags.

I really like a suggestion up thread to do a bowl of sweets and invite all the guests to take a sweet on their way home.

And I guess it might be helpful to spread the word beforehand so that parents can manage their child's expectations.

The more people that don't party bag, the quicker it will spread and the expectation will reduce and expire.

And for the poster who commented on the book as a end of party gift - I imagine the host bought a bulk batch of picture books from The Works or similar. You can generally get 10 for a tenner or similar. Works out cheaper than a party bag.

CarolDunne · 05/06/2023 16:47

I have never done a party bag. Total waste of money. I hate the kids getting them as well

I leave them behind if I get an opportunity

FloweryName · 05/06/2023 16:47

Weird IMO but I love a party bag.

Summerishere123 · 05/06/2023 16:48

As a parent I wouldn't care but I run a play centre and I can tell you the kids would be fuming! There was a kid this weekend demanding to know where the party bags were at the end of a party.

BrutusMcDogface · 05/06/2023 16:48

Absolutely fine by me, but my children would be disappointed if they went to a party without a party bag/favour of some kind.