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End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

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Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:15

NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

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OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 05/06/2023 16:16

Unusual but fine. It's just normally a bag filled with plastic crap.

SavvyWavvy · 05/06/2023 16:16

Perfectly fine. Parties are optional, as are party bags. They’re full of tat that ends up in landfill and are a total waste of money. I wish nobody handed them out.

dementedpixie · 05/06/2023 16:17

I always found that telling people there's a party bag was a good way to get them to leave at the end.

Quite unusual not to have one.

mintbiscuit · 05/06/2023 16:17

I wouldn’t even think about it. In fact I like the idea of it. They are filled with shite

Acunningruse · 05/06/2023 16:17

I wouldn't find it rude and completely understand the reasons for not wanting to do party bags (plastic tat headed straight for landfill, sugary treats not good for DC, cost, etc) BUT it does go against the norm so i would have appreciated the heads up beforehand so I could manage my child's expectations.

dementedpixie · 05/06/2023 16:18

I tended to put sweets, crisps and cake in ours rather than plastic rubbish

mintbiscuit · 05/06/2023 16:18

Acunningruse · 05/06/2023 16:17

I wouldn't find it rude and completely understand the reasons for not wanting to do party bags (plastic tat headed straight for landfill, sugary treats not good for DC, cost, etc) BUT it does go against the norm so i would have appreciated the heads up beforehand so I could manage my child's expectations.

A ‘heads up’?! Are you for real?

Just4this1 · 05/06/2023 16:19

Just to add- I say party bag, but I mean nothing (no sweets, book etc- whatever people choose to give out), not party bag specific

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NineOfNine · 05/06/2023 16:19

It’s certainly unusual.

I can’t recall ever going to a party with the DC where there was nothing handed out at the end.

GrinAndVomit · 05/06/2023 16:19

Unusual but fine.

RightWhereYouLeftMe · 05/06/2023 16:20

dementedpixie · 05/06/2023 16:17

I always found that telling people there's a party bag was a good way to get them to leave at the end.

Quite unusual not to have one.

Yes, we went to a party a few weeks ago where the invitation didn't state an end time and they didn't have party bags. It was a 4 year old's party so all parents stayed. It was a bit awkward towards the end, no one knew whether the party had finished or not. Previous parties the party bags have been a clear "home time now!" sign.

But I didn't find it rude at all.

Jank8 · 05/06/2023 16:20

Perfectly fine, does it really matter? Personally I can't bear the (usually plastic) tat given out, I have boxes of the stuff! The expectation of them also annoys me, parties are not cheap nowadays surely that's enough! Each to their own though or maybe they just forgot?

dementedpixie · 05/06/2023 16:20

Did they get cake?

InDubiousBattle · 05/06/2023 16:20

I wouldn't find it rude as such but at that age it would be pretty unusual not to give out party bags.

NancyJoan · 05/06/2023 16:20

Not rude, but surprising.

Comedycook · 05/06/2023 16:20

I'd find it awkward as I know my DC would be expecting one and I'd have to whisper in hushed tones that not everyone does them and not to make a fuss or say anything!

BlameItOnTheGoose · 05/06/2023 16:20

It's not rude, although some kids would be disappointed if they didn't get something to take home.

Personally I would be glad if the practice of party bags died out. We don't need more junk food, plastic tat or stale wildflower seeds in our life.

CherryLingo · 05/06/2023 16:21

Unusual I think.
My dc are grown up now, but I imagine the children were expecting something at the end, which would make it a bit awkward.

wildinthecountry · 05/06/2023 16:21

It's just a kids party , step back and breath .

WheelsUp · 05/06/2023 16:21

It's not rude but it's an unusual choice so may raise eyebrows. I wouldn't be surprised if some kids ask their parents about them out loud.

LaMariposa · 05/06/2023 16:21

I’ve always done plastic free party bags. Novelty pencil, foldimal or other cardboard model to make (Eugy are good but pricey), a packet of chewits and a slice of cake.
Mine have been to parties without party bags, as long as I knew in advance so I could warn Dd/DS it wasn’t an issue.

FlounderingFruitcake · 05/06/2023 16:22

Weird. There’s no need for the plastic tat but they should have had a bowl of sweeties for each kid to choose one- we went to one that did that plus a balloon animal each and it went down very well.

Climbles · 05/06/2023 16:22

Unusual but not rude IMO.

WallaceinAnderland · 05/06/2023 16:22

Rude to expect anything

WhoHidTheCoffee · 05/06/2023 16:23

Being honest, I think if money is no issue (and are you sure of that?), it’s a bit off. Yes, it’s fine per se but very unusual not to have them and at that age children would expect something on the way out.

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