End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

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NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

I’d be relieved, I just check that stuff immediately in bin. So wasteful.

Of course not rude, but as above, unusual and missing a great "now go home" gesture 😄.

Why do posters on MN always think party bags are synonym of "plastic tat" exactly?

Books are the most common, they work out very cheap, but so are sweets, sweet cones, hot chocolate cones, friends also gave seeds to plant, cake ingredients in a jar, marbles, medal (possibly tat, but they mean a lot when you are very little).

Anything is gratefully received, but the snobbish attitude on MN against party bags is strange.

we should make this a thing. Unite against the plastic crap!

do you also bin birthday presents given to your child? What a strange attitude.

I don't understand how/why so many children would apparently be disappointed in not having a party bag. If it is the first party they gave been to they surely wouldn't be expecting anythingunless their parents have told them that they would get one Then at future parties would they assume this is the norm? When I hosted my DC's first party at age 4 I was flabbergasted at one mother saying that they had to leave a little early, so could her DS have his party bag now. Yes, I provided them, but was bemused at the cheek. We can all do without the tat, and stop telling out DC that they are entitled to a gift after someone's hospitality.

Havent stated if it’s our party or one I’ve been to as I didn’t want it to sway the conversation towards me either being a rude host or ungracious guest :)

I’d give a book.

Or we would do a craft activity and the finished item was the ‘gift’.

Went to one where everyone got an Easter Egg - that was good.

Slice of cake in a napkin and balloon.

It’s not good when even the parents expect there to be a party bag.

Perhaps the host forgot to buy anything or forgot to hand it out….easily done when everything frantic.

The problem is the sense of entitlement to something. Children and parents need to realise it’s lovely if you get given something, but if you aren’t, you still smile and say ‘thank you for the lovely party’ - not enough children taught to do this these days…too many excuses about them being young etc. No. Even 3 year olds can learn manners…if they are taught them.

I think party bags are tacky. Very few of our children’s friends do them, they hand out cake. It’s greedy to expect.

A bag is a good way to signal home time. The only party bags I'm not keen on are the ones containing bouncy rubber balls that are the just the right size and shape to be a massive choke hazard😬

I would welcome this and I hope it will become the norm. We need to ditch plastic NOW and tech our kids about climate change and stop consuming tat. And who wants more sweets for their kids after cake etc?
I hate party bags I hope they will soon be gone.
OP those parents are environmentally conscious, nothing to do with money.

Very unusual and rude. Poor kids.

Our sons always had a paper bag with a cone of mix sweets ( I used icing piping bags) with a little tag on them thanking them for coming , signed by the boys even when it was just a little scribble. Our Daughter, we normally did a craft . got small terracota pots.. a bag of soil.. some seed and a bunch of paints and they made their own. I also for her, instead of cake always made candy pizza. She is turning 35 this month, and now her kids, and two of her best friends all her life.. all request a candy pizza for their goody bags , Kinda hard now as I live in the carribean hhahahahahaha. I always refused to buy the plastic tat.

We live in the sticks so parties are us driving the birthday child and friends an hour to some kind of activity in the nearest city and back. To be honest I haven't thought about doing a party bag since we've lived here and had this arrangement for parties. I used to do them when we hired a hall or something.

My kids went to parties when they were young where the mums were on the bones of their arses (and I wasn't far off it at one point when I first unexpectedly became a lone parent). No party bags. 'Home time' was already written on the invitation and, well ... announced.

I think we all did well to open up our houses to a group of children for pass the parcel, mad dancing and bowls of crisps / sandwiches / sausage rolls / iced gems / pop for a few hours.

I didn't do party bags in the modern sense either. The children could take food home with them though and/or cake, in a paper napkin.

Disclaimer: I am ancient.

Oh boys got a slice of cake also

There are some very peculiar people about 🤦‍♀️

Fine. People (and their children) expect so much these days!

the ones with slime are a good one too... thankfully they are very rare!

It's not rude. It would be rude to expect something.

It would be unusual not to give something though. Bag of sweets, cupcake in a box, book split from a multipack or bubbles for young kids would be fine. Agree with pp's that handing out the party "bag" is a sign that it's time to go. So can be useful especially if it's a party at home or in a hall.
If it was a particularly expensive party with a strict timeframe then perhaps easier to not do it.

@originalglazedsingle do you keep all the tat the kids bring from parties?
I don't, and I hate it. I like my home to be clutter free and feel awful about the environment. I normally put all that stuff in a box and send it to charity hoping someone will like it and use it but feel its wasteful and totally unnecessary.

I used to have a basket with mini snack size chocolate bars in and got the kids to pick one as they left.

"tacky" really? 😂. You sound fun, poor kids.

I do agree, it's greedy to expect but looking down at party bags is precious at best, downright rude at worst!

They’re shit and wasteful and I admire your stance. I’d probably save the cake and give out a slice of that as they were leaving.

Why is it rude?

Hopefully the way things will be from now on.