End of a 6yr olds party- no party bag

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NC! Quick one- end of a party, nothing handed out to the children- (money not an issue)- would you think rude or perfectly fine?

Not rude, but the children will be disappointed. It's definitely the 'done thing' at age 6.

ive never received or given a party bag! absolute nonsense - isn't the party enough

Your kids have never received a party bag? How odd.

It's the politest way to tell the children to fuck off home. Even just handed a slice of cake and no plastic crap would be a clear signal that party is over.

Very unusual not to have anything at the end of the party. A bag filled with plastic tat used to make my heart sink, but a bit of a cake and some sweets are kind of the expected norm.

I wish the whole practice of party bags would die out. You host a party, is that not enough?

People can’t win though: if a party bag was just cake (which I think is the best party bag - no waste), there might be a thread complaining about the hosts for giving more sugar to their kids after already having enough at the party.

not rude but I would be confused and my child would be disappointed.

It’s a bit weird to not even give a slice of cake. Did the birthday child blow their candles out on cupcakes?

The last few I have been to handed out books, another one handed out cardboard paw patrol masks.

I think it's a bit rude, considering each child will have brought a gift, not to give them a favour to take home. But I also agree that plastic tat is horrible.
We discovered that a good way to get out of party bags without sending people home empty-handed, was to give out the balloons that were decorating the room. Each child got a slice of cake and a balloon on their way out - it made clearing up after the party slightly easier as the bulk of the decor went out with the guests!

Why would you be confused, ffs?!
Life must be so hard to navigate for someone who’s thrown into a tailspin when a party bag fails to materialise.
Torturous way to live.

I agree.

My kids have attended parties with no party bags and couldn’t have cared less.

I never did plastic crap in party bags but offered something like some sweets instead.

I don't think its rude just a bit unusual but I'd actually be quite pleased there's nothing more annoying then someone giving your kid a whistle in a party bag

I'd be delighted. Honestly.

I'd find that a bit odd tbh and yes, my ds would be disappointed.
We've been to a few where there's been a like a sweetie bar (like a pick and mix) at the end (bowls of different wrapped sweets and chocs) and they get a little paper bag and can choose one of whichever ones they want - that's gone down VERY well!

My kids are older now, but honestly, I'd have been grateful. It was usually tat.

I wouldn't have needed to 'manage my children's expectations' either, as they never held their attention for very long, and most times, I'd end up finding them in the car door pockets a week later. I also tended to know when the party was over, because the invitations had a finishing time on them

Unusual! Would be a pain for my DS who’s autistic as he recognises that we get a party bag or bag of sweets and then it’s time to go! Definitely the done thing at this age IMO.

Unusual but hats off to the parents prepared to go against convention. Most party bags are full of crap

More parents should do this. Say no to Party Bags!

Unusual but I don't think it's rude! Although DD would inevitably be rude by doing a stage whisper 'Where are the party bags?' as we left 😬

Have you been to a party without them or are you planning a party and thinking of
skipping them?

I never did party bags. I was always upfront - made it clear that for environmental reasons I didn't do them. Kids all got a massive slice of birthday cake in a paper bag with a handful of celebrations chocolate and it was fine.

In fact by year 3 most of the parents stopped doing it as there were a few other parents who felt the same and it became seen as ok.

Maybe the parent just forgot?!