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My pet just died unnecessarily

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Luckycatyellowsky · 23/05/2023 20:28

I’m really upset. I don’t know what I hope to achieve from this post- but I need to write down what’s in my head. I feel so heartbroken.
I had a beautiful pet tortoise. I know she was “just” a reptile and maybe she didn’t really care for me- but I loved her.
today I had to go in to work early and asked my husband to put her outside in her run after the school run whilst he worked from home. He agreed. He forgot. When I got home she’d gotten stuck upside down under her heat lamp. She had blood coming out her nose and was so so hot. I can’t get the of her out of my head. I tried to revive her- but she was gone. I’ve buried her in the garden and will plant a rose bush over her. I feel sick with guilt I didn’t put her outside myself- I chose not to as it was still cold here at 7 and the grass was damp. My husband sat in the same room as her all day and says he just didn’t notice. I’m so angry with my husband I can barely look at him. I know it was a mistake on his part- he wouldn’t hurt an animal on purpose….but I still feel so cross with him.

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SnackSizeRaisin · 24/05/2023 09:19

tara66 · 23/05/2023 23:07

Avoid having children with this man.

oh come on. It was the OP who set up the heat lamp so it could get too hot. Not husband's fault. OP is blaming him for some reason, probably because she feels guilty herself.

Lidale · 24/05/2023 09:20

There are plenty of threads on here about how someone has a dog with their dp and he struggles/fails to take care of it so they are advised not to have a child with them if he can't even cope with the care of a dog.

This man couldn't even cope with a tortoise 🤦‍♀️

Onepotatoetwopotatoe · 24/05/2023 09:41

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Onepotatoetwopotatoe · 24/05/2023 10:26

I think you clearly love animals and should consider using this passion in a positive way, eg fostering animals if time allows. But I really do think perspective is needed in this situation.

jojogoesbust · 24/05/2023 10:34

Nothing to add except i am so sorry, heartbreaking. Poor thing :(

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kerstina · 05/12/2023 13:01

Am so sorry OP that has choked me up just reading it ,I can’t imagine how upset you must feel and yes I am not sure I could forgive my OH for that.

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