Pregnant at 43?!

[Stripypillow]

I haven’t actually taken a test yet because I’m a bit scared to. Mostly because it would be an amazing but terrifying thing to be pregnant! I am 10 days late, and feel pregnant (headachey, sore boobs, sort of strange feeling that I had last time).

DH and I thought we couldn’t have another dc, we were told we had secondary infertility and conceiving naturally would be highly unlikely. DS is 10!

I know I might not even be pregnant. But if I am… anyone else had a baby at 43?! How did it go? I’m terrified for so many reasons! One that I’m not pregnant and have let myself fantasise about it for the last couple of days, another that I am and would miscarry because of my age, another that I am and would feel like an old mum…

I live in an area where women having babies in their 40s is normal. I have friends with babies and toddlers, so wouldn’t be completely left out.

Anyone had a baby at 43? How did it go?

But it is the studies say so, unless science is wrong? Are a lot of these pregnancies frozen embryos or donor eggs? I just feel its wrong to get peoples hopes up.

So did you not use the test then? That happened to me where I had this feeling I was pregnant and hadn’t tested yet. I then went to toilet and like you, had some pink dots so assumed that my period was just starting but I ended up taking the test a day or two later to find I was pregnant.

A lot of women that I know who had children in their early 40s already had children. It's less likely that they used donor eggs, because they're obviously not desperate for a child.

Not myself, but my mum had me at 42 in a time where it was definitely not the norm. As far as I know it was an uneventful pregnancy and I turned out ok! Congratulations and good luck!

So sorry reading your update but still hopeful for you now and for the future. If nothing else your post has helped so many people, me included, with all the overwhelming positive replies! Go easy on yourself revisiting those feelings X

Sorry you didn’t get the results you were hoping for. If this has awakened an urge, you and your partner can always open the conversation of a planned baby. I didn’t have one in my 40s, but it’s common in my social group.

this is one thing about your 40s. Periods can be randomly irregular and then go back to a clockwork schedule. Often best to test after a bit to be sure if you have strong feelings one way or another.

So sorry, I do usually rtft

I'd still do the test OP, I had my DD at 40 and I hadn't realised I was pregnant until 11 weeks in, I'd had a bit of bleeding but when I googled it could have been implantation bleeding which I just though was an odd period.

We'd been trying for 5 years I thought I had an ear infection!! It was only the sore boobs that made me do a test 'just in case' She's a lively little 2 year old now!

I had a brilliant birth at 42. All straightforward, no issues. Fast recovery etc. I also live in a world of mums who give birth in their 40's - it wasn't anything out of the ordinary in my social group.

Good luck OP! x

RTFT!
Sorry guys but come on. 😂

Oh God, I missed your update. I'm so sorry. I was rushing and wanted to reply. Sorry OP.

How are so many people are still posting 40+ pregnancy stories?!

Are people so eager to share them that they don't even read past the opening post? It's not even about supporting op, you're basically talking to yourself.

You definitely didn't read past the title...

I had my first at 41 and second at 43. I think it's more common now. The hospital said lots of women are waiting to start their families. It was fine, I was monitored more closely as I was 'geriatric'! Had a planned C section as she was breech. Lovely birth. Congrats! X

Give over. People - including me - were trying to support the OP. It's always a lesson to remember to RTFT, but there's literally no point in you trying to stuck the boot in.

Anyone who's made the same mistake has backed up and apologised. Stop showboating.

Stop trying to get attention. A four line reply is not a life story.

This is not the right thread to start fighting with people for absolutely no reason.

People tried to help. Mistakes are human. It's standard on MN, but unfortunate on this thread.

Stop needling people and have a bit of grace.

Sending hugs TO! I am a mum of one by circumstances and not by choice. So I can completely understand your disappointment.

Sorry Op, there's still time but deffo actively try from now on if you really want another.
If you are fed up of hearing people's stories I would ask to delete the thread. x

Had DDs at 41 & 42. Like others have said medics rarely let ‘geriatric’ Mum’s go over their due dates. I totally get your concerns and given the option physically I think I’d have had children younger. Mentally, emotionally and spiritually I think I’m a better parent for having had the chance to grow up and get my partying behind me. Congratulations. I hope it all goes smoothly for you 😊

Just. Stop.

You are being ridiculous. Have a little sensitivity and take your thread gatekeeping elsewhere.

The OP does NOT need you doing this.

I had my two at 39 and 41, best thing I ever did. A friend had one at 45 and a cousin, they have had great joy with their children and are so glad they had them.
If you are pregnant, I wish you the very best of luck and good health.

Please RTFT when it's a sensitive subject like this.

OP has now tested, isn't pregnant and is really disappointed.

I’m back! While I’m definitely not pregnant, sadly (it turned into a very heavy period - not just spotting), I am glad that the stories have given some others hope (like a PP said).

After a sad morning with a few tears, I did some exercise, hugged my boy and my DH, and (mostly) feel my normal self again. And I am really heartened to read these stories - honestly - it’s lovely. I would have been overjoyed to have been pregnant, but I am still happy to hear it happening for others!

And thank you for all your kind words too.

Do keep sharing - this thread may be helpful to someone who gets a positive test in their 40s!