Pregnant at 43?!

[Stripypillow]

I haven’t actually taken a test yet because I’m a bit scared to. Mostly because it would be an amazing but terrifying thing to be pregnant! I am 10 days late, and feel pregnant (headachey, sore boobs, sort of strange feeling that I had last time).

DH and I thought we couldn’t have another dc, we were told we had secondary infertility and conceiving naturally would be highly unlikely. DS is 10!

I know I might not even be pregnant. But if I am… anyone else had a baby at 43?! How did it go? I’m terrified for so many reasons! One that I’m not pregnant and have let myself fantasise about it for the last couple of days, another that I am and would miscarry because of my age, another that I am and would feel like an old mum…

I live in an area where women having babies in their 40s is normal. I have friends with babies and toddlers, so wouldn’t be completely left out.

Anyone had a baby at 43? How did it go?

I'm a daughter of an older mum - she apparently had problems conceiving and my older sister is about 10/11 yrs older than me (about the same age difference as you'll have if you are pregnant). Mum had bad morning sickness (not so much the actual vomiting but feeling really sick for a few months). Also one if my friends had her first child in her 40's and she suffered really badly with morning sickness - all day and for the whole 9 months. As long as you are relatively fit and healthy you should cope well with it and afterwards.

Think it would be very bad idea

My ds born 2 weeks before my 44th birthday. Really well in the pregnancy . I also have a 27yr old ds. I have had so much more patience and appreciate every single day . Go with it I felt the same as you but he is a blessing.
Congratulations 🎉

There's still time to have another baby if you wanna give it one last try..I had my daughter the day before my 40th, she's 18 months now, and I'm still considering trying for another, may leave it up to fate..

You will never ever regret it. 43 nowadays is not too old!!

I think recent posters should maybe read OP’s updates

Had my first baby at 43 and second at 45
was absolutely fine! Didn’t gain weight … body bounced back first time round… no problems at all .. and I conceived naturally.

you will be fine just take a test … ask for progesterone pessaries from Early Pregnancy Unit .. they help older mums

Yep …. The midwives in the hospital where I gave birth said exactly the same and that it’s not that uncommon

My grandmother had my mum at 43 in 1943

I had my first at 40 and second at 42 (after years of trying and resigning ourselves to not being able). Lovely, uneventful pregnancies and ‘easy’ births, second one in birthing pool. I’m now 50 and am still loving parenting. Very grateful it worked out.
Take a test though, at least know for sure. All the best!

Yes I did, all went very well and was uneventful.

I had my 5th child aged 42. All went fine. In and out in 6 hours and back to making packed lunches for the children and general housework. Husband worked offshore and didn't get back for 3 weeks. I managed and the children were thrilled to help me.

I had my first baby at 40, second at 42 and had my third at 45! All happy and healthy. I’m 52 now and I don’t feel like an old mum. They are keeping me young, I have a few years left at the primary school gate yet though!!!! Good luck x

In most cases I would absolutely agree (I always take a few days to fantasize about winning the lottery before checking my ticket) but if you’ve been struggling to TTC for years and then fantasise about being pregnant when you may not be, it can only lead to heartbreak.

I think it’s better to know and then weigh up the pros and cons, rather than become excited over something that may never happen.

@Stripypillow 💐{{ }}

My DSis had a baby at 42. We were pregnant at the same time, I’m 10 years younger and she had a much smoother experience. I don’t even think she’s been significantly more tired than I have - parenting is exhausting at any age 🤣
My DD’s classmates mum had her at 47 (years of infertility) and she’s doing great too, they’re very active.

I had a friend who gave birth at 56. It was her 4th pregnancy. At that time their youngest was 32. She became a great grandmother that year. They chose adoption because being at parent to a teen at 70 was not doable.

I turned 43 a month after DD2 was born. Its going great, i’m not as exhausted as i was with DD1 or DS1. She’s nearly 3 now and we’re super close and she makes me laugh every day - she’s my last so this time around i’ve been a little more carefree, relaxed and remembered to take in the joy as they grow so quickly.

pregnancy was smooth, no issues. Straightforward labour and discharged within 12 hours so it’s not all doom and gloom 🙌🏻

good look op and i hope its the result you want 💐

She's not pregnant.

I’ve just had my first baby 5 weeks ago at the age of 44. I was lucky that I did not have any sickness at all throughout the pregnancy. I never felt I was being judged for being an older expectant Mum, but my consultant advised me that I would be induced no later than 40 weeks. I had scans every month which was due to my age but felt reassured that my baby was growing too.
Personally, I have no issues what people think of me being an older Mum, that’s their problem not mine. I intend to be the fittest and healthiest Mum I can be for my baby, so we can have a fulfilled life.
Wishing you the best of luck!

Mn is so strange it's very unlikely a 43 year old would get pregnant naturally own eggs no ivf with previous fertility problems. It's about 1-2 percent chance of live birth yet everyone on here apparently has magically got pregnant or knows someone who did at 43. Is the science wrong or something?

Completely normal. Not me but a few people I know. Also my fertility clinic is mostly people in their 40s (from what I can see). Test!!! And tell us please!

The people who know tend to commend and remember as it’s such a big thing.
And tends to be a wealthier population so those who can afford fertility treatments later etc

I know a 50 year old who got pregnant and had a live birth with a healthy child. After not being able to become pregnant her whole life.

When I gave birth to my first child at the age of 33,there were lots of women in their early 40s giving birth. It's not that uncommon nowadays

She’s not pregnant! Why does no one read the OP’s updates!