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Any medics out there? I'm worried about my husband

212 replies

TR888 · 13/05/2023 09:08

He's 50. Had a urine infection with quite a lot of blood in Uribe about 12 days ago. Got antibiotics and the infection resolved, only to come back a three days later: very I'll this time, unable to leave bed even for the toilet. Passing urine ok although with less flow.

New antibiotics, seemed to be working and yesterday went out of the house and ate normally. but awful, awful shivering fits the night before and again last night, then profuse sweating. He's up now but we both sense something is very wrong.

He's under GP care and has some prostate test on Wednesday. I'm worried this could be sepsis or some form of organ failure. I think it's time for hospital but he's reluctant.

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TheShellBeach · 13/05/2023 17:11

Mixedberrygenderfluidmuffin · 13/05/2023 14:58

A GP is likely more qualified and experienced than the junior doctors who see most of the patients in A+E.

Absolutely right.

Bluelightbaby · 13/05/2023 17:16

Orangesandlemons77 · 13/05/2023 13:33

What do you mean please?

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Calling an ambulance because you can’t persuade your husband to go to hospital. (That is unless your husband is suffering with new confusion - which he wasn’t)

if we attended and he was deemed to have full mental capacity we couldn’t force him to go either

jamdonut · 13/05/2023 17:19

Some GPs do stints in AE … AandE may be their’specialty’ . When I worked in a hospital 20+ years ago, GPs did this, or as an associate specialist (in Out Patients,) attached to a Consultant.

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ncaga · 13/05/2023 17:21

DH had urosepsis last year. He deteriorated suddenly and rapidly after a couple of days of seeming a bit under the weather. I recognised rigors and called an ambulance in the middle of the night. His temperature was 107 and he can't remember the paramedics actually coming.

However - he didn't seem so unwell to some of the staff, so was sent home that morning with oral ABs. They called back a few hours later using a professional/chummy tone that I recognise from when I've made a big mistake at work... his blood test showed his blood was full of E.coli. So he had to go back in for intravenous ABs.

The experience really affected him - we're just coming through it. Don't mess around with this.

Mumof2boysxz · 13/05/2023 17:22

Hi OP, when I was in labour with my son I developed sepsis. Nobody knew at first, but they detected it as my son had a sudden change of heart rate, and I was shivering non stop on the hospital bed, and burning hot to touch. If he’s shivering this badly, and already has an infection, I’d say the infection has turned to sepsis. It’s incredibly life threatening so important to be seen fast. I hope he’s ok - Please update us. X

Cinderellasfeatherduster · 13/05/2023 17:46

Sepsis can be very difficult to recognise. I nearly died of sepsis earlier this year. When the paramedics turned up they couldn’t see anything immediately wrong, put my symptoms down to food poisoning and nearly left. It was only when they asked me to stand up and my pulse disappeared that they began to worry. I spent two weeks in hospital on IV and the consultant said he’s never seen anyone so ill who was still functioning. It can be very deceptive, so if you even vaguely suspect it it’s always worth calling an ambulance. Hope your husband is on the mend soon.

Can2022getanyworse · 13/05/2023 17:56

OP, please find someone to look after your dc and go to the hospital to advocate for your dh.

As I posted earlier, my mum was admitted to A&E last year with every bloody symptom EXCEPT temperature, she was misdiagnosed and died within 36 hours from sepsis after a kidney infection. I WISH WITH EVERY FIBRE OF MY BEING I HAD ADVOCATED HARDER FOR HER.

You need to be in there with him to speak to the A&E team and to give them a full history, if he's anything like mine hell be playing it down.

A blood test will show up markers for infection but if he has some/all other symptoms he should be on nuclear strength 'just in case' antibiotics until the results are back.

Go and advocate for him.

Orangesandlemons77 · 13/05/2023 18:10

What is that advert, the one which says to ask Could it be sepsis? Maybe ask the doctors about this

Hope he is getting treated appropriately.

Skybluepinky · 13/05/2023 18:16

Straight to A&E

DrElectrickery · 13/05/2023 18:41

Skybluepinky · 13/05/2023 18:16

Straight to A&E

Thank you.

bruffin · 13/05/2023 18:45

Has he had his blood sugar checked?

Backtonormalatlast · 13/05/2023 19:00

OP .Hope all ok .X

coxesorangepippin · 13/05/2023 19:04

Sounds similar to me when I had a kidney infection

I felt rough as fuck and the shaking and sweating was awful

He's in the right place, op

Mariposista · 13/05/2023 19:48

I'm glad he is A&E OP. Urine infections can turn nasty very quickly in men, often before they realise they have one.

Nocutenamesleft · 13/05/2023 19:54

Straight to A and E

dont hesitate. Asap please. It’s very worrying what you’ve written.

Nocutenamesleft · 13/05/2023 19:56

Goodiewhemper · 13/05/2023 09:35

Dh is a medic. He said UTI is one if the most common sources of sepsis. As your DH is on his second antibiotic and is still shivering he said he should go straight to A&E for a full assessment. Hope he feels better soon.

This. 100%. We see lots of people with sepsis from an unknown urine infection or an untreated one.

Panda8383 · 13/05/2023 19:59

Hope your husband is doing ok x

OutOfMyPocket · 13/05/2023 19:59

Nottodaysausage · 13/05/2023 09:10

Have you taken his temp? I would get him to a and e if it's hitting 39

I'm not sure sepsis presents as high temperature does it?

Sense of doom is one symptom. I'd act quickly OP.

Doggymummar · 13/05/2023 19:59

I guess he was admitted, well done getting him to go

AnnieP1 · 13/05/2023 20:01

Never fails to amaze me how people comment having not read all the previous comments! i.e. the numerous 'go to A&E immediately' when the man is already in A&E!!

Sendpegs · 13/05/2023 20:01

OutOfMyPocket · 13/05/2023 19:59

I'm not sure sepsis presents as high temperature does it?

Sense of doom is one symptom. I'd act quickly OP.

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Mine didn't at first. A high temperature only appeared 3 days later once I was already in hospital on a drip.

Mumof2boysxz · 13/05/2023 20:04

Nocutenamesleft · 13/05/2023 19:56

This. 100%. We see lots of people with sepsis from an unknown urine infection or an untreated one.

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soaring high temperature was my first symptom of sepsis

butterpuffed · 13/05/2023 20:04

AnnieP1 · 13/05/2023 20:01

Never fails to amaze me how people comment having not read all the previous comments! i.e. the numerous 'go to A&E immediately' when the man is already in A&E!!

Me neither , as he's been there since about 11am !

Mumof2boysxz · 13/05/2023 20:05

Sorry I quoted the wrong poster! I meant to quote who asked, “sepsis doesn’t present as high temperature”

Skodacool · 13/05/2023 20:14

TR888 · 13/05/2023 09:13

He doesn't seem to have a temperature now. He doesn't seem to like that I'm putting pressure in him to go to hospital. The GP surgery opens at 10 and he wants to request a drs phone appointment, then take it from there.

Not being flippant but where do you live that has a GP surgery open on Saturday?