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Do you like your parents?

159 replies

MullerInk · 11/05/2023 19:31

Inspired by a comment I read on a website over a decade ago. The website was like a teen gossipy American type thing so the comment "I don't like my mom, I just don't like her personality" really surprised me and I think about it a surprising amount.

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Butteredtoast55 · 11/05/2023 19:39

I loved mine dearly. As I got older my Mum became one of my best friends and I had a great deal of admiration for her. I very much respected their opinions and am pleased they lived long enough (especially my mum) for my children to get to know them as people in their own right, not just their grandparents.

BrennieGirl · 11/05/2023 19:40

My Dad is dead. No I don't like my mother.

Jertin · 11/05/2023 19:45

No, I don't like her personality or values and don't enjoy her company. Rarely see her or my father now.

Gtsr443 · 11/05/2023 19:45

I liked them very much and I loved them very much. I always spent a huge amount of time with them because they were the best people I knew. I miss them desperately. I'm resigned to the fact I'll never know anyone as kind, funny, wise again.

Allschoolsareartschools · 11/05/2023 19:46

Being brutally honest, no I don't like my dad, he's a very unpredictable & unkind man. I try my hardest to like my mum but she makes it extremely difficult.

elQuintoConyo · 11/05/2023 19:47

One yes - they're fab, really forward thinking, open minded, funny as fuck, generous, respect boundaries, etc etc.

One no - total narcissist.

rainraingoawaay · 11/05/2023 19:50

Dad - yes, don't get to see him much but he's got a great personality and is a kind person

Step dad - no, cut contact off.

Mum - it can be difficult, I love her as my mum, but I don't really like her as a person. It's a tough one.

Straightsidedcircle · 11/05/2023 19:51

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Spanielsarepainless · 11/05/2023 19:52

I love my parents. I am in my early 60s and they are approaching 90, but I love spending time with them, chatting with them and going out with them, even if it only for coffee or a pub lunch. I know I am lucky to still have them both but the prospect of losing them makes me feel sick. I have known them so long!

Nellieinthebarn · 11/05/2023 19:53

There are many aspects of my mother's personality that I don't like, and if we were not related I wouldn't give her the time of day to be honest. But she is my mum, and despite having an abusive childhood in the environment she abandoned me to, I will never stop trying to have a relationship with her.

dotdotdotdash · 11/05/2023 19:53

No, I don’t like them. My dad is immature, self-aggrandising and can be cruel. My mum is negative and doesn’t respect boundaries. I try to spend time with her and be kind but I can’t be myself with her so it’s always a relief to me at the end of a visit. It’s sad 😔

LillyBugg · 11/05/2023 19:55

No.

I think you'll get more no's than yes's in answer to this though as people who feel no are more likely to reply...

I live in hope for my own children that more people like their parents than don't.

rfr · 11/05/2023 19:56

Have always liked my dad and enjoyed spending time with him. Enjoyed spending time with my mum from about 24 onwards. I didn't dislike her before that, but she was always trying to change me and made me feel like I wasn't quite good enough. However, she has come to accept I can't help how I am and regrets a lot of our interactions when I was younger. This changed everything and for the past 10 years she has been one of my best friends.

Irisheyesareshining · 11/05/2023 19:58

Huge admiration for my dad ( now deceased ) it’s been a huge loss . I adore my mother, she’s been an amazing mother and I worry about losing her every day .

LindorDoubleChoc · 11/05/2023 20:01

Not either of them really. One is dead and one is now reaching the end of their life. I only kept/keep up a relationship with them because they are my parents. I didn't/don't really get anything positive from them.

Popuppilot · 11/05/2023 20:01

I sometimes don't know how I'll ever live up to my parents they're both amazing. They do so much to help other people including me it makes me feel very selfish in comparison. They do drive me a bit batty but they're great overall x

PurBal · 11/05/2023 20:02

Like? No not really.

Buildingthefuture · 11/05/2023 20:03

Honestly? No. Weak, selfish people, but they taught me well. I do my very best, all the time, to not be like them. Having shitty role models can be useful!!

FrenchandSaunders · 11/05/2023 20:05

Yes very much. Both dead now and they were my adoptive parents but I couldn’t have had better parents.

@Spanielsarepainless how fab to still have both parents alive and well in your 60s 🥰

KohlaParasaurus · 11/05/2023 20:05

Yes, they're both good solid human beings.

tuvamoodyson · 11/05/2023 20:07

I loved them very much and really miss now they’re gone….

SallyWD · 11/05/2023 20:08

I really do like and love them. My dad is not perfect and can be difficult but I still appreciate all that's good about him. I'm very lucky to have them abd dread losing them.

fubared · 11/05/2023 20:08

Not since my incredibly perceptive DD pointed out to me how passive aggressively narcissistic they are towards me and told me I'm not at all like them

LindorDoubleChoc · 11/05/2023 20:10

I agree with this!

Christmascracker0 · 11/05/2023 20:11

Yes they are the nicest people ever, I am really lucky.