I've read your posts and some of the replies. I decided to weigh in because I am signally uninterested in the lives of "influencers". I do understand how it works. That's what I wanted to talk about: you asked if anyone has experienced anything similar. Yes. Before social media - 1980 to 2010, more or less.
I worked in media, advertising and fashion. It was fabulous (as in Absolutely Fabulous, no word of a lie!) I had a ball. It was a monstrously shallow world, full of glitz and privilege, of never having to queue for anything and getting presents from famous designers ... etc, you get the picture. Huge amounts of alcohol and drugs; maybe You Young People don't abuse alcohol like we did, but it's a safe bet you have equally unwise means of softening the edges.
You did have to be fairly smart to make it. Most of us were & are decent human beings. But it wasn't actually hard work, just long hours having a lot of fun. We were all paid good salaries - that differs from your story - but were also heavily incentivised with bonuses. I never really worried about where the money would come from for anything, I just put myself out more to make a bigger bonus. I've been very lucky! (It all came crashing down for me, if anybody needs to know. Most of my old friends are still doing very nicely.)
I married men who moved in adjacent circles. I couldn't see how somebody in a more normal / stable situation would understand my constantly being out drinking champagne. Both marriages broke down with their infidelities, lying and narcissism. Divorce was extremely common. If all the men's wives had known their husbands as we did, they'd almost all have divorced. Even without that, you had the all too regular situation where the more grounded partner - usually the wife - was getting on with life as it is, while their husband swanned off to parties, 'conferences' and goodwill holidays. With the best intentions in the world, nobody could be fully present in their home life while living this way. Partners were invited to maybe 5% of the shiny things, children twice a year. It's like living on two different planets.
Of the couples I know who made it through, some are both media 'performers' and have successfully integrated their family lives. The others had big showdowns, resulting in far-reaching changes to the 'media' person's career approach and family participation.
Influencers are both marketers and celebrities. To me, that looks like layering desperation on top of shallow. I mean, it's clearly great fun but so precarious! Your next paycheck depends on getting thousands more strangers to love you. With what that must do to your sense of self, I'm guessing there are a lot of breakdowns.
I don't see it as compatible with a regular, grounded home life. I wish you the best - and, should you decide it's worth forcing a showdown, I'd encourage you & wish you luck.
I kind of ran away with myself, sorry! TLDR: there have always been opportunities like this, and they have never been good for the home relationships.