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What's the most stuck up place you've been to?

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UrbanMan27 · 13/04/2023 20:09

Having just recently seen a video of a young man doing a video of Farnham on TikTok saying it's Tory and stuck up etc.

I was wondering if you've come across any town that has had stuck up people and what was your thoughts on such a place?

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DailyMaui · 13/04/2023 21:21

PolkaDotMankini · 13/04/2023 20:33

A baby sensory class in Harpenden. It was typical "wave scarf at baby then stick a pot of thyme in their face". No one spoke to me. DS was 10 weeks old and alternated between feeding and crying the whole way through. One of the other mums looked at me pityingly and told me in a loud voice that her DD had loved the class ever since she started coming at eight weeks old.

I have thought of many witty comebacks in the 13 years since then but at that moment I decided the class wasn't for me.

Arrgh that's bringing back horrible memories of when I lived in Kew. One of the baby classes I went to was full of really posh mums. Once asked how I could bear to leave the house without makeup and another was aghast that I was pregnant with my second and still working when I had a toddler "and no housekeeper." No babe, not in my two bed rented terraced house.

Talking of the rented terrace, we had a mouse problem and had the terminator round. He said it would be hard to tackle the rodent problem as it was a REALLY long terrace and the mice would be running under all the houses. WhenI told the neighbour this she said "oh no, there will be no mice in our house, unlike you we OWN our home DailyMaui."

I found my people at another baby group though but there was a real snobby tone to too many of the Kew residents.

Scepticalwotsits · 13/04/2023 21:22

I’ve found some of the most stuck up places are either in Middle class areas where people are trying to live a ‘posh’ lifestyle or hipster areas down south which give of a vibe if not only are we hipster but we are a better class of hipster.

one of the poshest areas is the village rugby club near us, there are a lot of very wealthy families that go there but it has A very welcoming and friendly vibe.

Drumminganimal · 13/04/2023 21:22

Not a town but Islington, lived there for a while and the looks you got when walking into the bars there. So up their own arses.

purpledalmation · 13/04/2023 21:22

Eastleigh in hampshire. Lived there 5 years and no one spoke to me. Hideous place. Beastly Eastleigh was the nickname, so I wasn't alone

Diefrausagtnein · 13/04/2023 21:23

Parts of North Yorkshire. Not necessarily the locals either.
We were in Masham the other day and there was a large group of people, mid 30s, all wearing that particular kind of scruffy but posh look, small kids with long hair on balance bikes, loud and very well spoken and oblivious to others.
Same in Whitby and Helmsley. They stand out from the normal riff raff like us !

Windingdown · 13/04/2023 21:23

stuck-up
adjectiveinformal
adjective: stuck-up
staying aloof from others because one thinks one is superior.

purpledalmation · 13/04/2023 21:23

Funnily enough, Epsom was lovely and its far more posh

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UrbanMan27 · 13/04/2023 21:24

SuffolkBargeWoman · 13/04/2023 21:21

What does stuck up actually mean?
People seem to be talking about unfriendliness, is that it?
Others about feeling looked down on (which is unfriendly but also an issue in its own right).
I'm confused.
But as a PP said, if you don't have a chip on your shoulder you won't have a problem.

It means that you don't want to associate with people more socially lower than you, for example lower skilled job or less money. Just thinking you more entitled also is being stuck up

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berksandbeyond · 13/04/2023 21:24

Henley on Thames. On regatta weekend!

Windingdown · 13/04/2023 21:24

I used to live in Clifton Bristol and one of my neighbours asked me how a person like me afforded to live there. That's stuck up.

Holeinmybucket80 · 13/04/2023 21:24

Blackheath, Harpenden, St Albans, Bournemouth, Taunton (likes to be but is not) ..

I'm origionally from Shrewsbury which is a lovely town and I miss it. People who call it 'Shrowsberry' are not natives and shouldn't be allowed in.

Smoky1107 · 13/04/2023 21:25

Tunbridge wells- we part owned part rented a house and a neighbour called us scum and said we shouldn't be allowed to live on their estate Sad

LindorDoubleChoc · 13/04/2023 21:26

I worked for many years in lettings management in Chelsea and Belgravia. I wouldn't say it was noticeably stuck up in the traditional aristocratic sense, but definitely stuck up in the "I'm considerably richer than you" sense.

SweetSakura · 13/04/2023 21:26

Ladysaurus · 13/04/2023 20:57

Betty's tea room in Harrogate. I lived in the town but it was made very clear by both the clientele that myself and my friend weren't 'the right sort'.

No one actually posh goes to Betty's though. It's for tourists and people who think they are posh

<Misses point >

proppy · 13/04/2023 21:26

Cobham, weekend break there & other guests were so up themselves.

SerafinasGoose · 13/04/2023 21:27

Nowhere that stands out. There are rude dicks as well as civil, decent people everywhere.

I'm a frequent visitor to York and have never noticed the problems mentioned. Ditto the New Forest. Florence absolutely not: they were a lovely, friendly, welcoming bunch IME. Holt has never stood out to me as anything much.

Maybe I'm unobservant or simply unconcerned, but these days rudeness/up-arsedness would have to be pretty barbed to merit notice. If I got angsty with every snooty person I encountered I'd probably spend my entire life pissed off.

Same goes for MN ...

Hbh17 · 13/04/2023 21:27

What a nasty thread! There's no such thing as a "stuck up place" - sounds more like some very intolerant posters.

proppy · 13/04/2023 21:28

I like the New Forest, I've never found Winchester stuck up but there is an air smugness as "I'm so happy I live in Winchester , aren't I lucky". I don't get it though as I've always found it dull.

honeylulu · 13/04/2023 21:28

Watlington in Oxfordshire. I worked there for a couple of years. Bought breakfast and lunch from the bakery there daily, used the local shops for groceries, toiletries, reading matter etc, spent a fair bit of money in the village. It was very posh and so unfriendly. The bakery lady would barely acknowledge me. I was worried it was my own demeanour so I started going in with a big smile and a cheery good morning. Nothing changed. But if one of the locals was there she'd be all over them with friendly service. I took some photos to be developed in the chemist (this was a long time ago!) Handed over my card to the assistant to pay and the pharmacist actually stormed out from behind his counter, snatched the card and flung it back at me, snapping "we can't take this, we get charged for the transaction ". Er, OK, I can pay cash instead but you could have said it politely. It's only a small place but even after everyone knew who I was the disdain they showed me as an outsider left me in no doubt I was not welcome. I actually went back recently as was taking my teen for driving practice on country roads so we made a coffee stop. Again very frosty service to us but locals treated like old friends. When we left I took our cups back to the counter and the guy just snatched them and rolled his eyes. So weird.

SweetSakura · 13/04/2023 21:29

A lot of the places listed on here contain a hugely diverse mix of people . It's easy to notice the "stuck up" people but it's just as easy to ignore them most of the time.

SerafinasGoose · 13/04/2023 21:29

Just thinking you more entitled also is being stuck up.

TBF, this classification would probably apply to a hell of a lot of people.

IhearyouClemFandango · 13/04/2023 21:30

Cowes and Seaview (Isle of Wight) in the summer. Agree with Lymington.

SweetSakura · 13/04/2023 21:30

proppy · 13/04/2023 21:28

I like the New Forest, I've never found Winchester stuck up but there is an air smugness as "I'm so happy I live in Winchester , aren't I lucky". I don't get it though as I've always found it dull.

I never understood the smugness. I lived there for a couple of years and was shocked how awful the air pollution was and how oblivious people were too it. Moved out as fast as I could

proppy · 13/04/2023 21:30

Richmond (Surrey), extremely snobby and elite-ish.

I quite like Richmond although a few people I know who live there are always raving about the benefits of living in London & the diversity etc. I'm like you live in Richmond!!! 😆

JohnBetjeman · 13/04/2023 21:30

Slough