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What's the most stuck up place you've been to?

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UrbanMan27 · 13/04/2023 20:09

Having just recently seen a video of a young man doing a video of Farnham on TikTok saying it's Tory and stuck up etc.

I was wondering if you've come across any town that has had stuck up people and what was your thoughts on such a place?

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DMCWelshcakes · 14/04/2023 11:51

Marlow
Cowbridge
St Moritz

Crikeyalmighty · 14/04/2023 12:07

@TheaBrandt I agree- I live here and think it's friendly and suprisingly mixed. I've actually made friends here. Maybe it's because it's posh (ish) but not Tory! I think the same about Kingston too and that's posh (ish) , mixed and not Tory!!

ThisNameIsNotAvailable · 14/04/2023 12:14

Florissante · 14/04/2023 09:59

I can just imagine the howls of outrage if such a thread were ever to see the light of day.

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I don’t think anyone’s slating places for being more well off, it’s the attitudes and vibes of the places that they’re commenting on.

SerafinasGoose · 14/04/2023 13:40

Happyhappyeveryday · 14/04/2023 07:01

@Whyishewearingasombero Am I wrong for not judging the newspaper ask as stuck up? Just discerning, IMO 😂Hate the tabloids for being misogynistic and plain nasty.

The broadsheets are no better. In fact, in some cases they are worse. The tabloids don't make any pretence of being anything other than cheap gossip, whereas broadsheets like the Grauniad and Torygraph dress up their particular pet prejudices as something more considered. It isn't.

RampantIvy · 14/04/2023 14:22

Re the "chip on shoulder" comments, I think in some cases there is an element of truth in that.

I know someone who hates Morpeth because she thinks it is stuck up. She prefers to shop in Ashington instead.

I have visited Morpeth many times and it isn't the least bit stuck up at all. It has a nice shopping arcade, a lovely and very old fashioned department store and some really good places to eat.

Florissante · 14/04/2023 14:29

ThisNameIsNotAvailable · 14/04/2023 12:14

I don’t think anyone’s slating places for being more well off, it’s the attitudes and vibes of the places that they’re commenting on.

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Then you need to re-read the thread.

DragonflyLady · 14/04/2023 14:37

Ribchester.

Windingdown · 14/04/2023 16:54

Here's a comment about rough places to add balance.

We went to a pub in Stratford on Avon. They weren't serving food so I asked if we bought fish and chips down the road could we bring them into the garden to eat with our drinks. Then I admitted we had three muddy children, dirty boots and a soaking, muddy dog with us. The barman was absolutely lovely and said, 'Yeah, all come on in, sit in the bar with your dog, kids and chips, it's your lucky day and you've come to the roughest place in town.' He, the staff and the pub were all wonderful and we had a fabulous time.

Ormally · 14/04/2023 18:07

Talking of the rented terrace, we had a mouse problem and had the terminator round. He said it would be hard to tackle the rodent problem as it was a REALLY long terrace and the mice would be running under all the houses.

Dailymaui, that reminds me of my Auntie's flat several years ago. She lived on the 2nd to top floor, mice in the walls behind the kitchen side. Got pest control in, and everyone on the floors below down to the bottom denied outright that they'd had any experience of vermin! Maybe they did all the stairs?

fetchacloth · 14/04/2023 19:03

MrsMontyD · 14/04/2023 07:36

A train carriage going to St Ives at the beginning of the school summer holidays. It was full of posh women and their dc who were all renting houses for the whole summer, all their husbands worked in the city or similar and were joining them at the weekend with the rest of their luggage.

The competition to have the best rental or the husband with the best job etc. kept me entertained. It was like seeing some of the women who post on Mumsnet in the flesh, with the six figure earning husbands with expensive hobbies and boys called Hugo dressed like Prince George.

😂😂
Thanks for the laugh, this post has actually made me laugh out loud!

GCAcademic · 14/04/2023 22:12

Windingdown · 14/04/2023 16:54

Here's a comment about rough places to add balance.

We went to a pub in Stratford on Avon. They weren't serving food so I asked if we bought fish and chips down the road could we bring them into the garden to eat with our drinks. Then I admitted we had three muddy children, dirty boots and a soaking, muddy dog with us. The barman was absolutely lovely and said, 'Yeah, all come on in, sit in the bar with your dog, kids and chips, it's your lucky day and you've come to the roughest place in town.' He, the staff and the pub were all wonderful and we had a fabulous time.

I’m not sure that anywhere in Stratford-upon-Avon is actually rough!

Windingdown · 14/04/2023 22:37

GCAcademic I'm sure you're right. It wasn't rough at all, it was lovely - he was just being charming and hospitable.

Emmalj65 · 14/04/2023 23:09

Frome is quite stuck up. An mix of born and bred locals and well to do outsiders moving in. M&S especially at the weekend is an eye opener.

Lots of money in Frome and the surrounding villages.

JimmyDurham · 14/04/2023 23:14

Holt in Norfolk.

wrongthinkofficial · 14/04/2023 23:57

I was made to feel like an absolute freak by adults and children in rural East Yorkshire (as a child from lower middle class southern England) because of my accent, so there. I'll never forget how unkind they were.

Mamma2017 · 15/04/2023 03:18

Lymm in Cheshire. White middle class elderly but most noticeable is the “this is a local place for local people” cliqueyness. Like other parts of Cheshire mentioned (knutsford, Alderley Edge) it has that deliberate, trying too hard to be posh vibe with the ‘you must own a top of the range Range Rover, green wellies & pedigree pooch’ vibe. Beautiful place and there are friendly people beyond the cliques but I wish it would relax- the strain maintain its ‘superiority’ is palpable.

OhMaria2 · 15/04/2023 12:15

SpicyMoth · 13/04/2023 21:53

Not a town per se, but a specific shop in town.

I was given a gift card for MAC for the Christmas I moved to Glasgow, I'm from a poorer family so I only really ever get my makeup from Superdrug or Boots lol.

I literally left the place in tears it was that stuck up and overwhelming.

That makes me really sad. Big hugs!

Isoqueen · 15/04/2023 13:42

Well this thread is an eye opener for me. Only thing I can say is that if I visit France I make sure they know I am Australian, not British, because they are really nice to Australians and quite a significant number don’t seem to like British people. What did you do to them?

Whichnumbers · 15/04/2023 13:58

@Isoqueen Ive always had a warm welcome and being treated very well in France - perhaps because I don't understand French well enough?

Crikeyalmighty · 15/04/2023 14:30

@Mamma2017 Ah 'nouveaux riche'

One reason I like living in Bath is there is a lot of old money and genteel impoverished too , as well as a fair old whack of social housing , meaning we've got nice little independents but 2 branches of Greggs, 2 branches of Superdrug and a Lidl as well as Waitrose and M&S etc. I like the mix

Mirabai · 15/04/2023 15:00

French are lovely if you speak French. They don’t like arrogant English who talk loudly in English and expect to be spoken to in English.

Also - I’m not sure they’ve forgiven us for defeating Napoleon. (Periods = Les Anglais/Redcoats.)

Saraswati · 15/04/2023 15:31

I'm from Surrey so you can imagine my accent, no one has ever been as rude to me as when I was in a kebab shop in Manchester. As soon as I opened my mouth, all the men around me and the server started mocking me and made me feel about 2 inches tall. I was just trying to get a bag of chips!!
I now live in Winchester which is so friendly compared to where I used to live in Surrey, slightly further from London seems to make a difference. I know all my neighbours and all the mums at school are so friendly, no competitiveness at all.

fionamadcat · 15/04/2023 21:36

I’m just laughing at Farnham, my aunt, who is from Glasgow, lives there, she’s lovely, sounds a bit posh but is anything but 😂

SerafinasGoose · 16/04/2023 11:00

Isoqueen · 15/04/2023 13:42

Well this thread is an eye opener for me. Only thing I can say is that if I visit France I make sure they know I am Australian, not British, because they are really nice to Australians and quite a significant number don’t seem to like British people. What did you do to them?

I've been to Paris several times and found the people there to be nothing other than unfailingly polite.

I don't know whether this is because I possess enough elementary French to attempt conversation, and to understand basic directions, restaurant ordering, hotel interactions etc., in their own language. Oddly enough they usually respond in English, but I'm informed that is a courtesy rather than an observation that my French is abysmal (which it is)!

But I've never experienced any of the rudeness the city is apparently notorious for. Either the language element has a part to play or it's just luck, I guess.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/04/2023 11:18

*@DappledThings ’, I lived in Solihull for 9 years, until I left for uni. We had moved there for my DF’s job, from a ‘nice’ leafy part of Purley, in Surrey.

At the time, my DM was a bit put out by a Solihull estate agent implying that ‘property’ in Solihull was superior to what you’d find in Purley.

In response to her mild protest, his reply (never to be forgotten!) was, ‘You’re nobody here unless you’ve got three cars and a horse.’ And this was in about 1959! 😂