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Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 2023-04-06T17:28:52+00:00

Just that really...... Mine was a few years ago and I'm still [confused] whenever I think about it. My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway. We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency. When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise. When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day [confused] Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!! What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

ThatFraggle · 11/04/2023 21:21

At church - (house of God, so qualifies for this thread, especially with the Thou shalt not subthread - if not, I can slip OP half a pack of Lurpak as a bribe)

"Let us bow our heads for a moment of silent contemplation."

I hear a click click click sound.

It's a woman clipping her fingernails and her children's nails.

I was cleaning afterwards. I saw that she had left the clippings on the front of the pew, next to her hymnbook.

Teacoaster · 11/04/2023 22:18

Thanks for all the support re: the fluffy blanket and dodgy electrician. You're right, I did have a lot of support on the threads, but there were also some people who tried to pick my situation apart and I took it very personally and probably focused on the negative comments too much. Lesson learned.

The final update was this post mainly: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4639233-the-tale-of-the-fluffy-blanket-and-the-dodgy-electrics?page=22&reply=120221581

He agreed to deduct a day rate off the final invoice which I thought was fair as I think it was about 7/8 hours she was at my house (from memory - it might have been slightly more or less).

I am pleased to say I have since found a more reliable electrician and have had no issues.

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DeadbeatYoda · 11/04/2023 22:18

Helendegenerate · 06/04/2023 20:00

I haven't had time to read all posts but those I have were full of bad mannered so called friends. My young nieces and nephews used to visit with their parents and would open drawers and cupboards in full view of mums and dads who did nothing to stop them. Eventually I spoke out and told them to stop. Dirty looks from parents. Unbelievable.

You mean the DC's opened cupboards on their own parent's house? Shocking!

ReadersD1gest · 11/04/2023 22:20

DeadbeatYoda · 11/04/2023 22:18

You mean the DC's opened cupboards on their own parent's house? Shocking!

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No, that's not what she meant 🤦‍♀️

Amispringy · 11/04/2023 22:53

@DeadbeatYoda They used to visit. So not their own homes. So yes, shocking

CountingMareep · 11/04/2023 23:04

Mamamia32 · 10/04/2023 22:28

Calling out anti semitism is literally the opposite of 1930s Germany?

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My first sentence was referring to the original poster’s appalling experience of antisemitism, @Mamamia32 , not your entirely understandable response. I hate the way the quote function only actually quotes the last post and not the whole conversation. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

CountingMareep · 11/04/2023 23:19

IncompleteSenten · 11/04/2023 14:21

What are thigh women?

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Some years ago MN used to have a problem with certain posters on the FWR boards who would start deliberately inflammatory threads or ruin perfectly good discussions by spamming the threads with their offensive bigotry. The ‘Thigh’ women would block this by posting their own version of a derail - nonsensical posts about ‘thighs’. Derailing the derailers, in other words.

It worked quite well for a while.

AngryBirdsNoMore · 12/04/2023 00:11

CoffeeCantata · 11/04/2023 16:56

AngryBirdsNoMore · Today 11:12
ThatsExyKim · Today 09:41

I also have questions about this!

Is the jug used in conjunction with toilet paper? Pour then wipe? Because pouring only would not fully clean anything!
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So usually you pour and agitate with your left hand to remove any dirt. A shataf or bum gun avoids the need for the hand.

you can then wipe or let it air dry.

Apologies for derailing the thread yet again here.

I'm also intrigued by this information. Wouldn't there be a danger of the (now dirty) water going where it might cause harm? We're always told to wipe from front to back to avoid contaminating female genitals with faeces...so surely pouring water would be risky?

No-one is obliged to answer this unsavoury question...but it has always bothered me.

Flow from back to front, as it were, has never been an issue for me… you hold the jug with your right (clean) hand, and can go for a dip in the jug with your (clean) left hand to scoop out water to wash the front. You then pour on the back while agitating with the left hand. You then clean both hands very well but to be safe, people from cultures who use this method often don’t eat with their left hand. It is considered an unclean hand.

The bum gun/shataf (thank you to the Scots, I did laugh) is much more effective, but if it’s not available, the jug works just fine! I feel cleaner than when using toilet paper alone. That said, I don’t like air drying so sometimes follow up with toilet paper to dry myself off…

There is some trust in this system and it is not perfect. I would take my own portable water source into a toilet on a train for example rather than using the jug, just in case…🤮

dotdotdotdash · 12/04/2023 00:17

Internationalwomendayheadquarters · 06/04/2023 20:35

A tradesman once came to our house to do some work. I was breastfeeding in the corner (and on my own). He told me that it was utterly disgusting and ‘you’re not going to do that in here, are you?’. I was a first time mum home alone and I felt very vulnerable.

I really wish I had given him an earful and told him to fuck off. Instead, I meekly smiled, took myself to a different part of the house and paid him in full. I still feel angry about it now.

Don’t worry; I’m sure somebody who wasn’t busy breastfeeding will have given that nasty b*d a kick where it hurts at some point down the line.

Thisbastardcomputer · 12/04/2023 04:48

When my son was 13 he made friends with some kids staying at the same hotel in Fort Lauderdale, unknown to me he invited said kids a brother and sister to stay with us in the UK. These kids were American.

Fast forward 6 months and son showed me a letter from the sister giving details of the flight they were on, to visit us. Panic ensued, the kids weren't from a wealthy family and the mum had taken out a loan to give those kids the experience.

We'd moved house 6 weeks prior to the visit and it was in no condition to host visitors, but I sucked it up and did my best. Also had to take a week off work to take them out. It cost me a fortune.

The girl was obnoxious the boy was lovely. The boy never came again the girl has been many times.

She came one time around her 21st and I lost it with her appalling behaviour and told her she was never staying again. Although she's had many attempts at doing so, she knew i was in Majorca with a friend and just turned up and my husband let her stay, she manages to twist him around her finger.

This woman is over 40 now and has it down to a fine art bumming free holidays around the world with her tricks

Mamamia32 · 12/04/2023 07:23

CountingMareep · 11/04/2023 23:04

My first sentence was referring to the original poster’s appalling experience of antisemitism, @Mamamia32 , not your entirely understandable response. I hate the way the quote function only actually quotes the last post and not the whole conversation. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

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Ah, I see. Sorry I misunderstood.

Antiquiteas · 12/04/2023 07:27

Thisbastardcomputer · 12/04/2023 04:48

When my son was 13 he made friends with some kids staying at the same hotel in Fort Lauderdale, unknown to me he invited said kids a brother and sister to stay with us in the UK. These kids were American.

Fast forward 6 months and son showed me a letter from the sister giving details of the flight they were on, to visit us. Panic ensued, the kids weren't from a wealthy family and the mum had taken out a loan to give those kids the experience.

We'd moved house 6 weeks prior to the visit and it was in no condition to host visitors, but I sucked it up and did my best. Also had to take a week off work to take them out. It cost me a fortune.

The girl was obnoxious the boy was lovely. The boy never came again the girl has been many times.

She came one time around her 21st and I lost it with her appalling behaviour and told her she was never staying again. Although she's had many attempts at doing so, she knew i was in Majorca with a friend and just turned up and my husband let her stay, she manages to twist him around her finger.

This woman is over 40 now and has it down to a fine art bumming free holidays around the world with her tricks

😲

Housewife2010 · 12/04/2023 07:56

Aposterhasnoname · 06/04/2023 22:04

What heresy is this? Butter on a bacon butty? Are you actually insane, everyone knows it’s warburtons white bread, folded, never cut, and HP sauce.

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No. It's granary bread toasted, no butter , but huge amounts of HP Sauce.

washinwashoutrepeat · 12/04/2023 08:02

Teacoaster · 07/04/2023 00:01

An electrician brought a random woman round whilst doing a job at my house for a few days for some "fun" and at my expense (I was paying for his time). I wasn't home when this happened but I caught his behaviour on cameras I had installed around my property. I wrote about it on Mumsnet at the time and I was deemed the unreasonable one because I filmed his behaviour rather than calling him out straightaway and risk having no electricity to my house if he decided not to come back.

And yes, I called him out once the job had completed but I was still the one in the wrong because Mumsnet said I was.

Moral of the story, don't tell Mumsnet about cheeky fuckery 🙃

I remember this! And no, you were not in the wrong at all. He was a complete CF.

WickedSerious · 12/04/2023 08:36

Itakecreaminmycoffee · 11/04/2023 19:37

I am so glad you (so succinctly) asked exactly what I was thinking honeylulu

“Agitate the bum crack” 🤣🤣🤣

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'Agitate the bum crack' sounds like a line from the The Hokey Cokey.

mybeautifuloak · 12/04/2023 10:00

Thisbastardcomputer · 12/04/2023 04:48

When my son was 13 he made friends with some kids staying at the same hotel in Fort Lauderdale, unknown to me he invited said kids a brother and sister to stay with us in the UK. These kids were American.

Fast forward 6 months and son showed me a letter from the sister giving details of the flight they were on, to visit us. Panic ensued, the kids weren't from a wealthy family and the mum had taken out a loan to give those kids the experience.

We'd moved house 6 weeks prior to the visit and it was in no condition to host visitors, but I sucked it up and did my best. Also had to take a week off work to take them out. It cost me a fortune.

The girl was obnoxious the boy was lovely. The boy never came again the girl has been many times.

She came one time around her 21st and I lost it with her appalling behaviour and told her she was never staying again. Although she's had many attempts at doing so, she knew i was in Majorca with a friend and just turned up and my husband let her stay, she manages to twist him around her finger.

This woman is over 40 now and has it down to a fine art bumming free holidays around the world with her tricks

Why did you let her keep staying? I don't understand why people are so facilitating of shite behaviour

AngryBirdsNoMore · 12/04/2023 13:47

WickedSerious · 12/04/2023 08:36

'Agitate the bum crack' sounds like a line from the The Hokey Cokey.

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🤣🤣🤣

honeylulu · 12/04/2023 14:33

If I change my user name the next one will be agitatethebumcrack

JauntyJinty · 12/04/2023 16:34

WickedSerious · 12/04/2023 08:36

'Agitate the bum crack' sounds like a line from the The Hokey Cokey.

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You put your left leg in... 😧

HunterHearstHelmsley · 12/04/2023 20:05

Housewife2010 · 12/04/2023 07:56

No. It's granary bread toasted, no butter , but huge amounts of HP Sauce.

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No no no. Warburtons medium toastie bread. Red sauce. No butter. Cut diagonally.

There's no other way.

ImSweetEnoughDarlin · 12/04/2023 20:51

AngryBirdsNoMore · 12/04/2023 00:11

Flow from back to front, as it were, has never been an issue for me… you hold the jug with your right (clean) hand, and can go for a dip in the jug with your (clean) left hand to scoop out water to wash the front. You then pour on the back while agitating with the left hand. You then clean both hands very well but to be safe, people from cultures who use this method often don’t eat with their left hand. It is considered an unclean hand.

The bum gun/shataf (thank you to the Scots, I did laugh) is much more effective, but if it’s not available, the jug works just fine! I feel cleaner than when using toilet paper alone. That said, I don’t like air drying so sometimes follow up with toilet paper to dry myself off…

There is some trust in this system and it is not perfect. I would take my own portable water source into a toilet on a train for example rather than using the jug, just in case…🤮

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Sorry to ask an(other) off topic question.

Would you not wipe with toilet tissue then wash the wiped area with the water?

ImSweetEnoughDarlin · 12/04/2023 20:53

While I'm at it (being off topic), the only way to make a bacon sandwich is with white bread, lashings of butter, bacon, hash browns and ketchup!

ThatFraggle · 12/04/2023 21:15

ImSweetEnoughDarlin · 12/04/2023 20:53

While I'm at it (being off topic), the only way to make a bacon sandwich is with white bread, lashings of butter, bacon, hash browns and ketchup!

My way: fry streaky bacon without adding oil. Butter white bread with real butter. Cut off crusts. Make bacon sandwich with a slice of medium cheddar cheese. In the bacon oil fry the bread on both sides.

My BMI is just in the green now so I'll only have this a couple of times a month.

AngryBirdsNoMore · 12/04/2023 22:27

JauntyJinty · 12/04/2023 16:34

You put your left leg in... 😧

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In out in our?! Gosh, now this should be on the sex topic…

im worried we’ve now become the shataf derailers.

stollen123 · 13/04/2023 13:46

Realise I'm a bit late to this now and it's devolved into a load of tangents but really enjoyed all the CF stories and had to share my one (on behalf of my mum)...

Back when my sister and i were both away at uni, my mum asked our neighbour if she'd feed our cat whilst she and my dad were away for a few days. Neighbour said yes of course but asked if her two (primary school age) daughters could do it instead. My mum said it was fine for them to come with the neighbour to do it but that she thought they were too young to do it on their own and the neighbour accepted this and said she'd do it.

Fast forward a couple of days and my sister came back from uni early unexpectedly. The neighbour saw her coming up the garden path and rushed out of her house looking panicked saying don't be alarmed but her daughters were in the house feeding the cat. So my sister goes in to find the two girls watching TV in the lounge with the cat nowhere to be seen. They jump up when they see her and my sister asked where the cat was and they said he'd gone out. At that point the neighbour rushes in all flustered and hurries the daughters out of the house. My sister then goes into the back room, hears a noise and finds they've shut the cat in the bathroom whilst they were watching TV when they weren't meant to be in the house alone anyway! No idea how long he'd been in there poor thing...