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Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 2023-04-06T17:28:52+00:00

Just that really...... Mine was a few years ago and I'm still [confused] whenever I think about it. My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway. We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency. When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise. When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day [confused] Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!! What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

ancientgran · 09/04/2023 20:19

supersop60 · 09/04/2023 20:08

At work, one of the cubicles in the ladies loo always has a jug of warm water for this purpose. I'm guessing that some people prefer it to using loo roll

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I have visions of someone having the job of making sure the jug of water is always at the right temperature and always full. I mean it could be a fulltime job, if no one has been to the loo for a while the water might go cold. Who fills it after you use it? I am just full of questions, maybe it's the HR manager in me coming out.

EnchentButteler · 09/04/2023 20:33

An old housemate of mine used to do this and kept her own jug in the downstairs and upstairs toilets for that purpose. Never heard of it before or since but much cleaner in her culture apparently and at least she couldn't get fingered for being the bog roll stealer

MarriedMama23 · 09/04/2023 20:41

Emotionalsupportviper · 09/04/2023 13:13

Thank you for sticking up for me @KettrickenSmiled , but on this occasion I am being rightfully reprimanded. I do appreciate your support, though.

As a Christian I really think that this was God's way of saying "Steady up, now, Viper".

I have been very heartened about how kind to each other we have been, though, even when disagreeing.

- for being so kind.

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No you aren't?! You are allowing your language to be policed for no reason other than one random person was offended.

In reference to that person, JESUS CHRIST, you sound difficult.

I've said a few extra on your behalf.

dew141 · 09/04/2023 20:43

Out of idle curiosity, I asked my very religious parents what they thought of someone using the phrase Jesus wept (which I use, but wouldn't in front of them). They thought it was ok and less offensive than straight blasphemy which surprised me.

Then again, my dad is nearly 90 and hard of hearing. I'm not sure he entirely understood the question as he spent a good ten minutes recounting the story of how Jesus wept in the garden of Gethsemane to no one in particular (it's hard to distract teenagers from ploughing their way through a huge roast dinner in their defence). My dad does have impressive biblical knowledge.

Emotionalsupportviper · 09/04/2023 21:03

harriethoyle · 09/04/2023 17:35

@Emotionalsupportviper you are EXACTLY the kind of minister I have wanted, and needed, at different times in my life. I would far rather a minister who was real and human and flawed and complex, as we all are, than some mealy mouthed slang corrector. Please don't tone yourself down for anyone.

Emotionalsupportviper · 09/04/2023 21:04

I have many other vices @harriethoyle - but thank you! 😄

Emotionalsupportviper · 09/04/2023 21:22

MarriedMama23 · 09/04/2023 20:41

No you aren't?! You are allowing your language to be policed for no reason other than one random person was offended.

In reference to that person, JESUS CHRIST, you sound difficult.

I've said a few extra on your behalf.

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No - I had initially thought - "That's fine. People have a right to disagree with me, and I have a right to use minor oaths" and my first post in reply reflected that.

But then I thought about it during our Easter Sunday service, and I thought - "It IS wrong".

I do occasionally swear (and sometimes, quite frankly could make a docker blush - though there is one vile word I never use , it is so foul) , but bad language is a different thing from language which is disrespectful to God.

Had I used the "eff" word and someone had complained I would have thought "Yes - it is awful. But I am at my limit and it's none of your business". But this was different, and on reflection I felt I'd rather get out of the habit of using it.

Can I say though, that it's brilliant that almost everyone on here is very keen to let others speak as they feel even when they disagree with what is being said - and will defend others' rights to be as sweary as they like! I firmly believe that offence is taken, not given. (Though I didn't feel that the person who commented took offence, but was hurt by the expression rather than just offended.)

Thank you - but today, on reflection, I changed my mind about ever again using Jesus' name in this sort of context.

Emotionalsupportviper · 09/04/2023 21:29

dew141 · 09/04/2023 20:43

Out of idle curiosity, I asked my very religious parents what they thought of someone using the phrase Jesus wept (which I use, but wouldn't in front of them). They thought it was ok and less offensive than straight blasphemy which surprised me.

Then again, my dad is nearly 90 and hard of hearing. I'm not sure he entirely understood the question as he spent a good ten minutes recounting the story of how Jesus wept in the garden of Gethsemane to no one in particular (it's hard to distract teenagers from ploughing their way through a huge roast dinner in their defence). My dad does have impressive biblical knowledge.

Thank you @dew141 .

I did consider it an inoffensive expression, and even now don't think it is "bad", but I don't want to use it any more.

I think I'd enjoy a theological chat with your dad! Jesus also wept for the sins of the world, when he saw the tomb of Lazarus, and when he beheld the city of Jerusalem - probably more occasions too - I'll bet the two us could remember them all between us if we got together!

dew141 · 09/04/2023 21:38

I think I'd enjoy a theological chat with your dad! Jesus also wept for the sins of the world, when he saw the tomb of Lazarus, and when he beheld the city of Jerusalem - probably more occasions too - I'll bet the two us could remember them all between us if we got together!

Awesome, I'm going to drop that casually in conversation when I next see him and look like I've trumped his biblical prowess. Although he's read the bible cover to cover at least twice so I suspect he'll out me fairly quickly.

His other favourite topic is major and minor roads in the U.K. so if you could blend route planning with the theology chat, he'd be even more delighted.

woodhill · 09/04/2023 22:02

dew141 · 09/04/2023 21:38

I think I'd enjoy a theological chat with your dad! Jesus also wept for the sins of the world, when he saw the tomb of Lazarus, and when he beheld the city of Jerusalem - probably more occasions too - I'll bet the two us could remember them all between us if we got together!

Awesome, I'm going to drop that casually in conversation when I next see him and look like I've trumped his biblical prowess. Although he's read the bible cover to cover at least twice so I suspect he'll out me fairly quickly.

His other favourite topic is major and minor roads in the U.K. so if you could blend route planning with the theology chat, he'd be even more delighted.

He sounds really knowledgeable 😀

woodhill · 09/04/2023 22:03

Even the roads part

Emotionalsupportviper · 09/04/2023 22:04

dew141 · 09/04/2023 21:38

I think I'd enjoy a theological chat with your dad! Jesus also wept for the sins of the world, when he saw the tomb of Lazarus, and when he beheld the city of Jerusalem - probably more occasions too - I'll bet the two us could remember them all between us if we got together!

Awesome, I'm going to drop that casually in conversation when I next see him and look like I've trumped his biblical prowess. Although he's read the bible cover to cover at least twice so I suspect he'll out me fairly quickly.

His other favourite topic is major and minor roads in the U.K. so if you could blend route planning with the theology chat, he'd be even more delighted.

I have no sense of direction, am mildly dyslexic and can't even put a map the right way up without a lot of faff, so he would win hands down on that score. 😄

Olinguita · 09/04/2023 22:22

Re. The kitchen jug in the toilet, it's very normal for some of my relatives to use water instead of paper in the bathroom (cultural practices) but to take a vessel from the kitchen to fulfil this purpose would be considered deeply weird and disrespectful, not to mention unhygienic. I have literally no idea what this relative was thinking as they are normally a stickler for cleanliness 😬 I only discovered because I overheard a conversation.
I have since installed a hand shower in the toilet so that those who don't like toilet paper don't have to raid the kitchen cupboard in order to do their ablutions

ReadersD1gest · 09/04/2023 22:36

Olinguita · 09/04/2023 22:22

Re. The kitchen jug in the toilet, it's very normal for some of my relatives to use water instead of paper in the bathroom (cultural practices) but to take a vessel from the kitchen to fulfil this purpose would be considered deeply weird and disrespectful, not to mention unhygienic. I have literally no idea what this relative was thinking as they are normally a stickler for cleanliness 😬 I only discovered because I overheard a conversation.
I have since installed a hand shower in the toilet so that those who don't like toilet paper don't have to raid the kitchen cupboard in order to do their ablutions

Oh. Well if it's a thing in your family you probably should have preempted it when they were coming to stay, and left a plastic one in the loo.

Cheeseandlobster · 09/04/2023 22:48

And I will say it again. Its fine to discuss the ins and outs of saying Jesus H Christ. BUT ON YOUR OWN THREAD. It really is the height of rudeness to hijack a thread for your own ends and it makes it pretty boring for others who clicked on a seemingly light hearted thread just to see your ramblings.

Elphame · 09/04/2023 22:58

Cheeseandlobster · 09/04/2023 22:48

And I will say it again. Its fine to discuss the ins and outs of saying Jesus H Christ. BUT ON YOUR OWN THREAD. It really is the height of rudeness to hijack a thread for your own ends and it makes it pretty boring for others who clicked on a seemingly light hearted thread just to see your ramblings.

Agree 100%. I was really enjoying this thread until it was hijacked.

WitheredandOld · 09/04/2023 23:06

Yep.I find most overtly religious people quite selfish though.

This is a lighthearted thread. Fuck off already!

JesusHRooseveltChristSassenach · 09/04/2023 23:08

Just posting to see if my username gets noticed 🤣🤣🤣

dew141 · 09/04/2023 23:10

I apologise for my meanderings, back on topic I promise.

My friends used to use my flat as a shag pad at weekends as they lived apart for a year. Unfortunately I only had one bedroom so had to wait for the romantic encounters on the sofa bed to stop before I could go into my lounge every morning. Looking back, I was possibly too kind-hearted to let it continue for as long as it did.

HowdidImanagetohavetwoaccountaandthenloseboth · 09/04/2023 23:11

WickedSerious · 09/04/2023 19:25

An excellent name for a band.

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@WickedSerious
whose first hit will be “KumByeYa” played backwards and upside down as the satanic version!

KettrickenSmiled · 09/04/2023 23:12

WickedSerious · 09/04/2023 19:25

An excellent name for a band.

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They fell off the Soul Train.

WitheredandOld · 09/04/2023 23:13

The most CF thing I’ve experienced is when a friend of DH’s came over with his wife and two children for a BBQ. Friend also bought his brother, sister in law and their two kids.

We thought they were just popping in to introduce themselves as they were in the area but realised half an hour in they were there on the invitation of the friend for the full BBQ.

We had to advise them we simply didn’t have enough food for double the guests, and then I drove 5 minutes up the road to the coop and grabbed a packet of sausages and extra bread. On return I discovered the four kids had drunk the large bottle of lemonade IId bought and wanted more. The SIL said “goodness you only got one bottle of lemonade for four kids?” With a laugh. I snapped “no I got it for the two kids we were expecting “.

DH took the friend aside at that point and told him to firstly get his guests sorted out and secondly to tell them to go up to the bottle shop and buy wine rather than neck ours. These people had arrived empty handed.

We got them fed and out as quickly as possible. The friend called and apologised the next day. He and DH are still friends but we’ve never had them back and have of course never heard from the extended family!

Sleeptightnightlight · 09/04/2023 23:52

Was once holding a party for 40ish guests, with a buffet, when three of my then boyfriends friends turned up with a disposable BBQ and just enough BBQ food for the three of them and asked if they could cook it in our back garden away from the other guests as their personal separate food. I was so flummoxed I agreed!

On another occasion same boyfriend was hosting a party and had another friend repeatedly try to persuade him to ditch the party to hang out at his place instead. I still have no idea how either of them thought that would work - did they imagine the party continuing without the person who actually lived there? Or were they going to stand up and say 'hey everyone, I know I invited you all but I've changed my mind so you better all leave'.

I decided he and his friends were too odd for me!

Wishingonastar321 · 10/04/2023 00:26

Moved into new home after splitting up from DDs father. Ordered a bed from well known company, also paid to have it put together.
Bed arrived & showed them to my room to put it together, my dds were in the room next door.
Let the two men get on with it were up an down the stairs to get tools etc.
Ran up the stairs to check how they were getting on and as I looked into my room one of them had his hand in peering into my underwear draw. I caught his eye so he knew I had seen him. Was so shocked i didn't know what to say, went and sat with my DDs in their room.
At the time felt so vunerable as a woman & just wanted them out of my house. He didn't say a word.

ThisIsWednesday · 10/04/2023 00:41

JesusHRooseveltChristSassenach · 09/04/2023 23:08

Just posting to see if my username gets noticed 🤣🤣🤣

Och, dinnae fash, sassenach!

My hubby is Scottish. I'm English. I tried to make him say it but he looks at me like I'm mad.
He does quote Shrek for me though.