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Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 2023-04-06T17:28:52+00:00

Just that really...... Mine was a few years ago and I'm still [confused] whenever I think about it. My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway. We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency. When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise. When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day [confused] Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!! What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

MissConductUS · 10/04/2023 16:56

BirdChirp · 10/04/2023 16:40

I had a close friend's niece and her friend stay with me for just over a week. They were both 20, I had met the niece once and never met the friend.

They didn't bring a gift, spent every evening hogging the couches by lying on them and watching the Simpsons at top volume. They did have money for lots of shopping and sightseeing in the daytime but for some reason never went out at night. If I spoke to them it was a completely one-way conversation, I would ask a question, they would give a short answer, rinse and repeat. I gave up in the end and ended up sitting in my bedroom as I found it so awkward.

On the morning they left there was a big kerfuffle with one of them crying because her ipad had broken as she had packed her bag so full of new purchases. When they left I went downstairs and saw a wrapped up item and note on the table. I thought how sweet, at least they had left a little gift and thank you note. But no, it was a souvenir mug she couldn't fit in her bag and asked me to post to the US (and left me no postage money).

I mean, they weren't the worst, and I was a thoughtless dick at that age as well, but it was an uncomfortable week and put me off having guests that I don't know really well.

When you mentioned the broken iPad, I thought you were going to say that she asked you to replace it since it happened at your house. 😁

Stewball01 · 10/04/2023 16:57

My sister had her birthday party. One of the mother's came early and sat in the kitchen eating cake and drinking tea with my mum.
When the girl's birthday larrived she said to my sister I can't invite you. You're Jewish. My mum doesn't allow Jews in the house.

chaosmaker · 10/04/2023 17:30

Had a friend move back to the UK after living abroad for a few years and she didn't have anywhere to stay so she stayed with us. I'd recently quit smoking and asked her to smoke outside. My partner was smoking inside still as it was his house but we'd been living together over a decade at that point so I couldn't get him to go outside and do it. She stayed in to smoke.

She also wanted food so I said she could help herself which somehow ended up with her cutting up all my new loaf of bread and serving it to us which I wasn't impressed with especially as we were pretty skint and just doing her a favour.
The smoking thing was just a lack of respect and really upset me - she found somewhere else to stay after that.

ReadersD1gest · 10/04/2023 17:31

Bit weird to insist she smoke in the garden when your partner was smoking right in front of her inside the house. Hardly a smoke free household.

thecatsthecats · 10/04/2023 17:37

Invited friends to stay. One couple with kids, one friend whose husband didn't want to come, and one couple.

Allocated the bedrooms, plus one large sofa accordingly. Kids and parents in largest room, couple squeezed in the small double, last woman on the large sofa. Side point, last woman is a cat lover, and she'd allocated me and my husband the sofas in her catty house.

Except the childless couple decide that it's unfair that single gets the sofa, and opt to bring their own airbed. Rearrange my furniture to make it fit. Sulk in the morning because they didn't want the cats in. Childless friend is sulking because she wanted a cat to sleep with!

Third couple just dumping a million tiny toys all over the house without even asking where it might be convenient for me to have the kids playing.

None of them welcome back, except maybe the single woman.

Stay at the couple's house. They give cat woman the sofa.

GoodChat · 10/04/2023 17:39

chaosmaker · 10/04/2023 17:30

Had a friend move back to the UK after living abroad for a few years and she didn't have anywhere to stay so she stayed with us. I'd recently quit smoking and asked her to smoke outside. My partner was smoking inside still as it was his house but we'd been living together over a decade at that point so I couldn't get him to go outside and do it. She stayed in to smoke.

She also wanted food so I said she could help herself which somehow ended up with her cutting up all my new loaf of bread and serving it to us which I wasn't impressed with especially as we were pretty skint and just doing her a favour.
The smoking thing was just a lack of respect and really upset me - she found somewhere else to stay after that.

Your partner was smoking in the house. Another smoker makes no difference if your issue was that you'd quit.

You told her to help herself to food then got upset when she did.

I don't understand how she was cheeky.

ReadersD1gest · 10/04/2023 17:41

Nothing about that post was cheeky.

QuickNameChangeForMeToday · 10/04/2023 18:06

EnchentButteler · 10/04/2023 14:39

@QuickNameChangeForMeToday I would have loved to see your DFDD squirm if you'd taken a photo of the book plus bookmark in response!

I should have done. In all honesty we replaced DD’s book (not as much of a bargain individually) and wrote them off as being assholes.

QuickNameChangeForMeToday · 10/04/2023 18:09

Stewball01 · 10/04/2023 16:57

My sister had her birthday party. One of the mother's came early and sat in the kitchen eating cake and drinking tea with my mum.
When the girl's birthday larrived she said to my sister I can't invite you. You're Jewish. My mum doesn't allow Jews in the house.

That’s utterly vile!

thecatsthecats · 10/04/2023 18:10

PILs weirdness about furniture/appliances.

They bought DH a mini fridge for Christmas when he was at university as he lived three floors up from the fridge. It comes back with him after university and they start using it in their garage. (they have a massive double garage and keep loads of furniture whenever they change decor, and they're very well off).

We have a party, and they let us "borrow" it - then make sure they get it back. Then a month before we move into our new house, they move my husband's drumkit into our flat. We have absolutely no use for it, no space, and they have plenty of space.

To top it off, my BIL has just moved out, and they've half emptied the house giving him furniture to use. Pisses me off that they give him everything but begrudge my husband a fridge which is actually his!

EnchentButteler · 10/04/2023 18:11

@QuickNameChangeForMeToday we've got 2 copies of HP1 because DH and I both brought a copy to our marriage 😂 We lend out the battered one and keep the nice one for our DC. Can't honestly remember whose is whose but it worked well when DC1's friend sent it back battered even more!

GoodChat · 10/04/2023 18:14

EnchentButteler · 10/04/2023 18:11

@QuickNameChangeForMeToday we've got 2 copies of HP1 because DH and I both brought a copy to our marriage 😂 We lend out the battered one and keep the nice one for our DC. Can't honestly remember whose is whose but it worked well when DC1's friend sent it back battered even more!

My parents used to buy two copies of all the books so they could read it at the same time, then my brothers, then me and my sister - the other sister wasn't a big fan like the rest of us and I started the books later as I was the youngest so never had to wait long for my turn

Cheeseandlobster · 10/04/2023 18:31

GoodChat · 10/04/2023 17:39

Your partner was smoking in the house. Another smoker makes no difference if your issue was that you'd quit.

You told her to help herself to food then got upset when she did.

I don't understand how she was cheeky.

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This. I feel sorry for the poor woman. I bet she never stayed again

AngryBirdsNoMore · 10/04/2023 19:11

thecatsthecats · 10/04/2023 18:10

PILs weirdness about furniture/appliances.

They bought DH a mini fridge for Christmas when he was at university as he lived three floors up from the fridge. It comes back with him after university and they start using it in their garage. (they have a massive double garage and keep loads of furniture whenever they change decor, and they're very well off).

We have a party, and they let us "borrow" it - then make sure they get it back. Then a month before we move into our new house, they move my husband's drumkit into our flat. We have absolutely no use for it, no space, and they have plenty of space.

To top it off, my BIL has just moved out, and they've half emptied the house giving him furniture to use. Pisses me off that they give him everything but begrudge my husband a fridge which is actually his!

But…it is his drumkit…?

Emotionalsupportviper · 10/04/2023 19:11

Stewball01 · 10/04/2023 16:57

My sister had her birthday party. One of the mother's came early and sat in the kitchen eating cake and drinking tea with my mum.
When the girl's birthday larrived she said to my sister I can't invite you. You're Jewish. My mum doesn't allow Jews in the house.

Some people are beyond vile.

Allergictoironing · 10/04/2023 19:14

AngryBirdsNoMore · 10/04/2023 19:11

But…it is his drumkit…?

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I think the point here was that they had stored it for all those years, then suddenly HAD to put it in the poster's flat (where there was no space) just a month before they were moving house where they would have had the space. They caused not only the inconvenience of having to keep it in a small area for a month, but it had to be moved again - no reason why they couldn't have held on to it for another few weeks until the house move had gone ahead.

thecatsthecats · 10/04/2023 19:22

Allergictoironing · 10/04/2023 19:14

I think the point here was that they had stored it for all those years, then suddenly HAD to put it in the poster's flat (where there was no space) just a month before they were moving house where they would have had the space. They caused not only the inconvenience of having to keep it in a small area for a month, but it had to be moved again - no reason why they couldn't have held on to it for another few weeks until the house move had gone ahead.

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Yes, exactly this!

He'd even asked if they wanted him to sell it and he could get an electric set, but they insisted it was fine to keep it. Then FIL gets a bee in his bonnet about us "having the space now".

Except we didn't - they actually helped us move and had to cram the sodding thing back into their car. Our new place and the flat were the same distance from their house.

Their garage is HUGE too - they have a ten seater table, two sofas, several armchairs and other things all stored in the loft space "just in case".

ScottishLavender · 10/04/2023 20:06

Cheeseandlobster · 09/04/2023 22:48

And I will say it again. Its fine to discuss the ins and outs of saying Jesus H Christ. BUT ON YOUR OWN THREAD. It really is the height of rudeness to hijack a thread for your own ends and it makes it pretty boring for others who clicked on a seemingly light hearted thread just to see your ramblings.

Totally agree. This faux "being offended by an imaginary person's name being used as an exclamation" is total bollocks and attention seeking. Choose to waste your own time praying to false idols if you will but don't shove it down other peoples throats.

nopuppiesallowed · 10/04/2023 20:19

Stewball01 · 10/04/2023 16:57

My sister had her birthday party. One of the mother's came early and sat in the kitchen eating cake and drinking tea with my mum.
When the girl's birthday larrived she said to my sister I can't invite you. You're Jewish. My mum doesn't allow Jews in the house.

And that is completely and utterly shocking....and it takes a fair bit to shock me!

grassverge · 10/04/2023 20:31

I was having a BBQ. Lots of people and their kids. One of my friends let her 6 year old drink directly from the ketchup bottle and laughed about how funny he is. The boy then went upstairs to the nursery (which was out of bounds) and threw up ketchup all over my babies soft toys. I told my friends what her son had done and she just shrugged in a “what is he like” kind of way. No offer to clean anything.

JamieFrasersBigSwingingKilt · 10/04/2023 20:52

JesusHRooseveltChristSassenach · 09/04/2023 23:08

Just posting to see if my username gets noticed 🤣🤣🤣

Oh I see you @JesusHRooseveltChristSassenach. I see you.

Daverl1980 · 10/04/2023 20:53

nopuppiesallowed · 10/04/2023 20:19

And that is completely and utterly shocking....and it takes a fair bit to shock me!

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Sadly this is a daily occurrence for a lot of us Jews, along with comments about being tight, jokes about pork and kippahs, but I digress.

ChickenSoupAndLokshen · 10/04/2023 21:04

Stewball01 · 10/04/2023 16:57

My sister had her birthday party. One of the mother's came early and sat in the kitchen eating cake and drinking tea with my mum.
When the girl's birthday larrived she said to my sister I can't invite you. You're Jewish. My mum doesn't allow Jews in the house.

I had similar. Invited my friend at school to the theatre with my family and me for my birthday treat. Afterwards, her mother discovered I was Jewish and she told me never to speak to her daughter again. I was 10. And she was a teacher at my school. Suffice it to say that when I told my mother what had happened she hit the roof and went straight up to the school. I'm not sure if the mother was told off or anything but the daughter never spoke to me again.

Obki · 10/04/2023 21:07

ScottishLavender · 10/04/2023 20:06

Totally agree. This faux "being offended by an imaginary person's name being used as an exclamation" is total bollocks and attention seeking. Choose to waste your own time praying to false idols if you will but don't shove it down other peoples throats.

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I’m not Christian but from what I see the only ones who have been refusing to let the Jesus Christ stuff die down on this thread are the atheists. Give it a rest FFS!

IsaiditwasLighthearted · 10/04/2023 21:09

*No.

A thousand times no.

It is NOT women's job to pander to men's feelings about breastfeeding.
Men do NOT have the right to forbid women to do anything in their own homes, & this ridiculous pussy-footing about male 'sensitivities' is one of the chief enablers of male entitlement.

Men's feelings do not trump women's rights & freedoms.

If this man had a problem, it was up to him to make himself scarce. It was NOT up to him to even comment, let alone negatively, & to tell a woman - a customer! - what she is allowed to do in her own home is outrageous.*

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Once again for the Incels at the back ...