What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

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Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

That’s so far outside social norms I’m not sure it still counts as “cheeky” TBH

Did you let her eat it?

Mil comes into my house and makes herself food with "I'm starving I'm not waiting for you to feed me."

The bacon lady definitely tops it though!

I like to think that my family feel welcome enough that they can help themselves to whatever I have. I certainly wouldn't expect it from a woman I hardly knew, she was incredibly rude OP.

Wow. The bacon lady.

She had already started to cook it so I just buttered some bread and made sandwiches rather than wasting it. Told her I wasn't happy as it was for the kids for their Saturday morning treat after swimming lessons. She didn't say anything about that but did give me some money the next day in the playground

Nothing as cheeky as that. Once had guests for dinner who also stayed overnight. When they left they took their unopened bottle of wine home with them, which they had given to us on arrival. I thought that was pretty bad manners even then and I was only 21 at the time!

My FIL also came to our new house and said it was crap.🙄

Mine are food related but in the opposite direction.

1. when coming for a meal eg Xmas or Easter all left overs have to be quickly put away otherwise they help themselves to doggy bags. Sometimes they just take stuff from my fridge that wasn’t even a left over!
2. at my 50th lunch I cooked a big roast lamb and a leg of pork because there wasn’t enough for everyone to have lamb. So they all dived in and took all the lamb before the plate got to me. So I didn’t get lamb for my own 50th.
3. the rule in my family is if the come for lunch, I’ll cook and they bring the wine. They never bring enough and then raid my wine rack whilst I’m in the loo or taking something out to the bin.

A friend and his wife popped over and she said she feeling tired so when I was in the kitchen he took her upstairs and she had a nap in our bed!
Stupidly I didn't say a word🙄

Long time ‘friend’ came to my house unannounced when our dc were little.

After the initial surprise I made cups of tea for us and sat having a chat while the little ones played. I started to share some quite serious stuff that was going on and halfway through, mid-sentence she says to her little girl ‘are you going to choose a book and I’ll read it to you?’ - I’m a bit taken aback and watch while the child picks up one of my DC’s books and my ‘friend’ just sits there patiently reading to her child as if it’s a public library.

So they’ve just turned up, I’ve been interrupted and now I’m in my own house like a complete plum silently sitting there while another woman reads to her kid.

Grrr it still pisses me off 15 years later…

Not the worst thing by any means but a relation of mine once arrived for a visit from abroad and literally the first thing she did was sit at our dining room table and list all the things that were in her view wrong with our home and how she was going to fix them. 😃

She absolutely meant well and I know she wanted to be helpful but it’s one of those things where it’s fine if you complain about your own home, but it doesn’t feel
so great when other people do it!

Especially when you have just spent two days cleaning in advance of their arrival!

My DIL comes to my house we cook for her it is always something she likes as she is vegan. She sits there whilst we tidy up the dishes. She sometimes brings deserts that she likes hands one out to each of us after choosing her own first then proceeds to take home any left. She also pours herself a drink pours her DH a drink
And does not offer anyone else one!

Mil. Breathed in and out. Unreasonable.

When I gave birth and mil visited me she handed over an absolutely huge box of gifts... All beautifully wrapped and very lovely..
Stood taking my praise and thanks. Then fil walked in and asked if the gifts from mil's BOSS were nice...
To this day I am sure she would have continued to pass them off as from her if he hadn't appeared...
I had never even met her boss for the record...

Well make yourself something before you come or don't come would be my reply but then my mil wouldn't behave like that in the first place

I once had someone I'd only met that day (friend of a friend) - come back to the house and start criticising the contents of my bookshelf - pointing at various books and saying what rubbish they were. My actual friend was embarrassed. I pointed out they weren't chosen for their 'coffee table' value to impress people, they were books I'd genuinely been reading.

We are friends with a couple who regularly come round and the bloke always insists he cook for us all. It really irks me. For one thing it's an implied criticism of my cooking. He has been known to use ingredients without checking. And he never attempts to clean up either. He's not even a great cook, although he obviously thinks he is.

My ‘friend’ picked up one of the half full wine bottles from the dinner table and took it home with her. She didn’t ask, just took it. It was not the (cheap) bottle she had brought, which I had mentally reserved for cooking.

We had invited a woman from work to lunch at our cottage. She turned up with her boyfriend ( unannounced and unexpected, so no food planned for an ‘extra guest’. ) He walked in and said without any preamble ‘do you have a beer? ‘ - well, no, and nor did you since your girlfriend brought a bottle of wine.

Actually, the uninvited bloke was so ghastly that one of the invited guests got up from the table in the middle of the main course and walked out. He didn’t come back until the others had gone. When we asked him where he had been , he said that he went for a walk, because he thought that if he stayed , he would have been unable not to ‘ give him a punch on the nose’.

I also had a friend whom we had invited to stay. I’d spent ages making her room as nice as I could, got out the best bedding, flowers, etc. She walked in, threw the damask bedspread on the floor and said ‘ that will have to go!’ She also wanted to vacuum the room, although we never found out why ( it was spotless, DH is the demon vacuumer and he’d done it two hours before).

I do have some friends who behave perfectly politely in my home, though.

I had a woman I barely know from a few doors down walk into my house without knocking and sit her child and his dinner down and say "you can eat your dinner here". She walked out without even acknowledging me. The child and my own son were acquainted so they just sat there eating their respective dinners. The child then got up and went home leaving his dirty plate. Utterly bizarre behaviour.

Some of you need to grow backbones.

I once had some social workers visit during the adoption process. I put out a plate of expensive chocolate biscuits to go with the coffee I served them. They only took one each, so there were quite a few left as dh and I were too nervous to eat. As they were leaving, one of them dashed back into the room, picked up the plate and tipped the remaining biscuits into his bag to take home with him.

My SIL invited herself + family for two weeks over Christmas the year we moved to a popular tourist destination. I was also experiencing a really difficult pregnancy and barely functional. One evening before bed I had a snack of some sort and left a bowl and a glass in the otherwise spotless sink. In the morning she saw it, tutted and said “I don’t know how you can live like this. I always do the dishes before bed.”
Maybe it was just hormones giving me the irrational rage but she hasn’t been in my home unless under extreme duress since and certainly not to spend the night.

DH's cousin came to stay with us , bringing his GF, who we were expecting as they were attending another of DHs relatives party with us
I told them before they set off that I wouldn't be catering as I wasn't able to take time off work in one city AND driving straight through to another city on a daily basis to visit my DDad in hospital where he was receiving end of life care.
The pair of CF brought 2 of their friends, who we had never met before, to stay at ours.

An ex boyfriend of mine when I was a teenager used to go through a little pot of spare change my dad kept under the sink to scrape together the cost of a Big Mac.

My MIL walked into the home we had just purchased and didn't say a word for two hours. My DH then said, "so what do you think Mum". She said she was struggling to find anything nice to say and "maybe I'll be able to think of something I like once it's decorated".