What is the most CF behaviour someone has shown when visiting your home?

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Just that really......

Mine was a few years ago and I'm still whenever I think about it.

My youngest had started primary school a few months prior to the event and she had got a bit friendly with one of the other children in the class and as a result I had got to know their mum quite well, in terms of chatting in the playground anyway.

We had storm one morning on the school run and as it was much closer to my house than hers I invited her back for a cuppa till the storm passed. I put the kettle on to boil and then went to the loo, then had to take an "urgent" phone call from my eldest school for some reason or other, can't remember what exactly and it certainly wasn't an emergency.

When I was upstairs I heard some clattering around in the kitchen and then heard a sizzling noise.

When I went back downstairs she was frying bacon. She hadn't asked, I hadn't offered and it meant she had gone through my fridge and cupboards the first time she had been to my house. When I asked what she was doing she said she was hungry and hadn't eaten that day

Safe to say I didn't ask her to come back after that!!

What CF behaviours have others shown in your home?

About the house we had just been renovating. 'It will be nice when it's finished.'

It WAS finished.

I'm almost envious of these bacon-frying, freeloading, grabby guests! Great stories.

The one I thought of was a friend's husband when they came for dinner. After they left, we realised he'd switched off all the electrical appliances at the socket, right through the house. Freezer included - that could have cost a small fortune!
He was a cunt anyway: a sneering, domineering, white supremacist. Probably steals people's bacon.

Many years ago I came home from work one evening to find a Jaguar taking up all the space at the front of our house, which was quite a feat of entitled parking as there was easily room for three cars. It belonged to the husband of my mother's best friend from childhood, who had dropped in unannounced to let us know that he had a new job as a financial adviser and was trying to sell his wares to my then husband, who had already stupidly divulged our existing investments and insurances. It took me ages to get him to leave without any signatures or promises. He did the same thing again when he was let go by the firm that had taken him on and struck out as an IFA.

MIL would always wait until she came to stay with us to color her hair. I would end up with brown dye all over my bathroom and towels.

A friend couple of DH and mine have been invited to various Sunday Lunches and BBQ's we have had - we hadn't noticed their tendency to eat their own body weight at each event. Another friend mentioned it to us when they were discussing a particular dish we prepared which they didn't get any of. We shrugged it off but had noticed that the couple always showed up empty handed they never so much as brought a bottle as a thank you or to share. On one particular Sunday lunch we were surprised when the DW said she would bring dessert- great! They were the only invitees for this lunch and I mentioned to them both that I'd over catered as I wanted to pop a late lunch down to my DF (78). They turned up ate their own body weights in food and then some, to the point I'd started to hive off some roast potatoes and sides for my DF as I could see everything going rapidly and when I'd popped to sort out the dishwasher I came back to find them eating the dish I had set aside for DF. DH made a comment that they were eating food intended for a pensioner to which they chorused that they had starved all day as they knew we would feed them and they wouldn't eat again for a few days on the back of the feast we had provided (no money issues btw). DH decided to get the dessert out and cut large portions. The dessert however was very decadent and too much after a full lunch - on their way out they went to our cupboard get out our Tupperware (the good stuff as my DH says he's not happy it's still not been returned 🤣) and packaged up the left over dessert for DW's Nan - I was 😱😱😱😱. They have not been invited back despite repeated requests from them! Those who say why didn't you challenge them tbh we were absolutely shocked and taken aback by their actions it felt quite surreal!

Two visitors came to see us 2 weeks after I'd had a C-section and was still feeling the after effects. I won't say who they were, but we live a long way from them. They brought suitcases into the house. We have on-street parking and just thought they were over-worried about theft.

It got to about 6pm and they said they were ready for bed. We said "well it was lovely to see you" but they started walking upstairs and said they were staying with us for THREE DAYS and apparently had already told us (we had very clearly told them they couldn't stay with us on the phone before the visit).

I had a friend who didn't want to get hair dye on her carpet but took up the offer of our friend to dye her hair at their house. Friend asked us to stay for dinner, the friend who dyed her hair said 'No sorry, I'm going out' just a run of the mill night out she'd only just planned.
Cheeky to use your house to dye your hair but couldn't be bothered to stay.

Had a house party once and not only was someone smoking in the kitchen they
dropped their end and stubbed it out on my lovely white tiled floor

Why would you even entertain this?!!! If you like it fine, but you don’t seem to!!

Friend from my home town used to come up and visit/ stay with her boyfriend when I had a party for my birthday or at Christmas. I stopped inviting them after a while as they were hard work and expected to be waited on hand and foot. The boyfriend used to drink too much and throw up. Once he only managed to get as far as the bathroom sink. I handed over cleaning materials and they were actually shocked I wasn't going to clean it up myself. They'd turn their noses up at what I offered for breakfast and rummage in the cupboards helping themselves to other stuff. Never returned the favour as when we went see them we'd stay at my mum's.

I haven't had time to read all posts but those I have were full of bad mannered so called friends. My young nieces and nephews used to visit with their parents and would open drawers and cupboards in full view of mums and dads who did nothing to stop them. Eventually I spoke out and told them to stop. Dirty looks from parents. Unbelievable.

My mother she's a narc with zero boundaries if it suits her

I had to lend her my house key once-cant remember why-for context I was a single mum with very little money-shes loaded but tight,unless it's for herself

Anyway,bits started disappearing-odd things like a bottle of shampoo/milk toothpaste,an ornament,unread magazines or the odd fiver I'd left lying around etc

I once bought a leg of lamb as a treat and that went walkies from the freezer along with a cheap frozen chocolate cake

Also my post would be open and on the table rather than on the floor by the front door-one was my new bank card and pin,another my bank statements-sensitive information

i had a right go at ds as he got home earlier than me on some days and I thought it was him-he swore blind it wasnt

I honestly thought it was one of my kids stealing from me and went all out,hiding stuff as I thought I couldn't trust them-or that I was going mad

This went on for about 4 months,when I came home early,only to find my mother in my house-rooting round my freezer with a bottle of toni & guy shampoo in one hand,a bottle of chocolate scented shower gel,two bottles of lynx and a packet of ham in her bag-all unopened and the shower gel was for my kids

She'd only had my key cut and had not only been letting herself into my house to help herself,she'd let her grandchildren take the blame for stuff that had gone missing!

She didn't see anything wrong with it as I bought better brands than she did and she didn't see why I should be 'allowed' nicer stuff than what she bought

I did a massive hunt around the house and worked out that she'd helped herself to about £500 worth of stuff since she'd had her own key

I'll always be in the wrong for catching her at it as I 'showed her up and called her a thief'!

Somehow people took her side!

New friends came to visit for the afternoon.
I'd tidied and thought my home looked good.
Friend told me my home wasn't very 'me' and that it looked 'temporary' and hopefully I'd find something better soon.

Came back from my short honeymoon to find all my inlaws had let themselves into my house and they were all in the swimming pool. With guests.

I was so gobsmacked and so furious I walked straight back out and refused to come home until my husband dealt with it.

Turned out she’d had a key cut from the set I’d given her when she was staying
@PapadamPreach WTH did you do/say? I think I’d have to change to locks in case she’d cut multiples.

Some of these are unreal, what is wrong with people?!

A (fairly casual) friend of our came to stay at a nearby campsite. She rang us up and asked if she could come and see us. Fair enough, I thought, until she turned up with her kids and dog, and another family of four in tow, who she introduced as friends of hers.

They proceeded to stay forever. Never once asked whether it was convenient, waited for us to make lunch for them, and only eventually left when I very pointedly said I was going out.

Turns out these 'friends' were some random family staying in the adjacent tent, that my friend had only known for five minutes.

CF1 - when I was 22 I had just bought my own home and I invited my cousin over to see it and have dinner. When I came back from the kitchen I found her going through the drawers in my dresser (where I kept my financial stuff) - apparently she "just wanted to see what I kept in there"

CF2 - my wedding reception was held at home. A friend bought her new bf who I had only met once or twice. He then decided he felt "unwell" and demanded to lie down in one of the bedrooms (already in use for family). So the Mother of the Bride ended up clearing a bedroom while hosting her dd's wedding reception - then when she - out of politeness - asked if he needed anything - he kept demanding she rn up and downstairs with cups of tea/glasses of water. My friend just totally ignored him ....

Finally my DM had a total CF neighbour. In her late 70s DM moved to a smaller, more accessible home. She had a neighbour who was always asking favours that steadily got more onerous but the worst was "watering the garden". CF had no outside tap or hose so the garden had to be watered by filling large watering cans, carrying them down steps and down the garden - difficult for a fit and healthy person but impossible by the time DM was 82, with arthritis and awaiting a total knee replacement. So when CF asked again DM said she couldn't do it. 2 days later she found keys posted through her letterbox with a breezy not from CF "I'm sure you'll manage - make sure the flowerbeds don't dry out". She managed to contact a mutual friend, who contacted CF on holiday who (with a lot of grumbling and bad grace) arranged for someone else - but CF told the neighbours how DM "let her down"!! ..... Oh and CF was a Vicar's wife .....

She is a thief 😳.

Friend called me asking to meet DS when he was 3 days old. I told her I wasn’t really up for visitors just yet as I’d had a prolonged and traumatic birth and had only been discharged from hospital the night before. I was exhausted, still trying to get to grips with breast feeding and DH had invited a steady stream of his family throughout the day so I just wanted to settle down for the evening and relax with my baby. Friend arrived unannounced at around 6:30pm with her DH and their two kids in tow (who were 2 & 5 at the time). DH hadn’t even had chance to say hello before burst into my lounge squealing at the sight of a newborn. The eldest child suddenly snatched up poor DS from his Moses basket and said she was holding him first, and with that the youngest child screeched and smacked him on the head. DH and I were horrified, but all the parents could say was “you’ve got this to look forward to”…. They then unwrapped a bag of fish and chips they’d brought and proceeded to set our table and tucked into it. In fairness they’d brought some for DH and I too, but we’d already eaten so didn’t want any…. To top it off the 2 year old then started bouncing on our sofa while they both chuckled and said what a wild child she was and how we needed to learn now that it was pointless having nice things because this was what children did to them…. I don’t know why we didn’t ask them to leave. We were just so taken aback by the ambush!

Wow! 🤯 This is why I always say “Oh let’s go to a restaurant and give ourselves a break” whenever CFs invite themselves round. The cost of buying all the food for us lot and guests isn’t that much less than paying our share of a reasonably priced dinner bill, especially today. And no washing up. And you don’t have tiny tearaways ruining your carpet while their folks chill with a glass of wine and act like they never had them…

I'm repeat victim of cf mums and cf children 🤦🏼‍♀️ I really love hosting my dcs friends, always make sure to get food in that they like, plenty of sweets and fun desserts etc.
I've ended up not inviting more than half back after growing a back bone and actively turning some away once I realised the invites were never reciprocated. One school mum barely acknowledged me but sent her poor dd (age 3) to ask when she can come to my house for tea. She wasn't even my dd's friend, this went on every single day for about a year 🥴
Totally fed up with these women turning up with not so much as a packet of biscuits expecting them and their children to be fed and given drinks all day long.

Mum and Dad had decided we'd have sirloin steaks as a treat for New Year's Day lunch. Just about to sit down and the doorbell rings. Here's uncle and auntie who lived 60 miles away and were "Just out for a drive" (as you do on New Year's Day). They admitted they'd been to other relatives house but they weren't in so came to us. Mother of course had to be the perfect hostess and cut our steaks down so they could have some.

My dad never forgot that till his dying day and would always mention it every NT day.

About 15 mins ago... my dd decided she wanted to have a go making tea, ive prepped most of it so left her to it (she's 9), my mother walked in and said it stank. It didn't. My dd's faced dropped poor thing. I made her apologise 😂 she has no clue how to behave sometimes.

Does she have sisters? One of my friends who has lots of sisters would do this sort of thing. She regularly looks through my wardrobe to see if there are any dresses she’d like to borrow, and would think nothing of whipping up food in my kitchen if she thought it was helpful.

I see it as a compliment. She treats me as a sister.