Mumsnet “norms” that annoy you most

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For me it’s the utterly obscure baby names. We’ve all seen them and I’m quite sure nobody uses them in real life. Yet on MN, it’s apparently standard.

Honourable mention to the 50% of posters whose husbands are earning upwards of £100K too.

Also everyone uses a mooncup, no one has any issues / embarrassment rinsing out their mooncup in the public toilets at work... IRL everyone uses either pads or tampons...

I know lots of people IRL who swear by mooncups.

I'm glad it works for them, but I don't know why. I hate the fucking thing.

I've used a mooncup for about 20 years. It don't clean it in the work toilets, a wipe with toilet paper is more than adequate

I thought period pants had taken over from the mooncup in MN land.

Actually yes you are right, period pants are the new mooncups 😂

Oh yes, period pants I love.

Difficult when out and about though, as I don't like lugging them about.

Mooncups are the most overrated thing in the world.

They literally solve all your problems period-related. I was so disappointed. And the sucking noise taking it out 🤦🏻‍♀️

Legal, unremarkable age gaps being considered a "safeguarding' issue e.g 25 year old plumber dating a 19/19 year old uni student he met on a night out as a creepy peadophile.

I have literally NEVER seen anyone go loco about a 19 y.o. and a 25 y.o. It's never happened... 19, and 40-50 yes, and too damn right. It's a power imbalance, and very weird. What on earth can anyone of 40 to 50 have in common with a fucking teenager?

I know, right now, a young woman who is 26 who is dating a 58 year old man. Everyone she knows is creeped out and freaked out by it. His 2 CHILDREN are older than her. And he has a grandson who is only 10 years younger than her. Her parents are refusing to speak to her, and most of her friends give her a wide berth or are worried for her. Her colleagues are worried for her too.

She is 26, and looks like/dresses like a 60 year old woman would have dressed in the 1970s. She looks middle aged, gaunt, and never goes out with her friends, or mixes with her peers anymore. She is his handmaid. She does all his life admin, and his housework - even though they don't live together, and she and he have their own individual flats. He drinks (too much) and she buys him 1 or 2 bottles of vodka or brandy every week. When he says 'jump!' she asks 'how high?' It's an utterly bizarre and toxic relationship.

So yeah, people do get funny on here about age gaps where the older one in the couple is old enough to be the younger one's parent - or grandparent!!! But there is a reason for that. It's weird, and it's wrong.

I thought the damn thing was never going to come out.

I also hated my mooncup and I was an early adopter 😏 smug face.

Also don't like period pants anymore. I do use reusable pads though not all the time. When I'm at work I use ye olde disposable ones. But my periods are extremely short and light thanks to my contraception, so I don't use many.

Mumsnet norms I hate are the food and weight ones. A lot of pressure to be very thin on some boards. I do think it's slightly less pro-ana than it was though

OMG If I had ever even remotely considered using a mooncup, never in a million years will I use one after reading this.... Making 'weird sucking noises,' and 'struggling to get it out,' to the point you thought it was never going to come out?!! No thanks. Never.

They are awful Danny. It's like having a plunger lodged up your vulva. Sorry to be crude!

I also couldn't quite, 100% believe it when they said it was ok not to wash them when you emptied them. I had the whole TSS thing drilled into me re tampons so it was hard to change my mindset and gave me the heebie jeebies.

All that said, some people love them

Or the "Mumsnet wisdom" that children shouldn't even meet a parent's new partner within the first two years of the relationship...

Yes, this is ridiculous. Always, always from happily married woman who would faint at the suggestion that they would ever introduce their child to another man if the worst happened and he died (because he would never cheat or leave, obviously).

Equally though if your ex introduces your kids to his 18th new girlfriend in 6 months or moves her and her 5 kids in in 6 weeks after meeting her it’s absolutely none of your business and you’ve no right being concerned about any impact on your kids

Also no one, even sir Chris witty himself, worked as hard as a Mumsnet teacher during lockdown

Talking from the long term perspective regarding health, if breastmilk were that great as an exclusive thing to give the best start, humans throughout history would have lived far longer and not have died from certain diseases/malnutrition because apparently breast milk would have saved them
The reason people live longer healthy lives in modern society is down to better nutrition, better living conditions and modern medicine. That's literally the only reason people live longer. If breastmilk held any credit to this then it clearly failed for hundreds of years as people died young until modern diets/medicine came along to make people healthier and live longer. There's no argument as to whether someone who was bf vs ff would have lived any longer/healthier during those hundreds of years because ff wasn't invented then.

if breastmilk were that great as an exclusive thing to give the best start, humans throughout history would have lived far longer and not have died from certain diseases/malnutrition because apparently breast milk would have saved them
I don't think you understand how breastfeeding works

I know too much about history, particularly around children when formal education became a legal requirement but so many were too malnourished to attend formal education regularly. Bf had sod all to do with the condition of their health and certainly didn't prevent the diseases/health conditions they often suffered. The only thing that's helped cure that is better nutrition, modern medicine and better living environment.

Well none of us would be here now if it weren't for breastfeeding @CandleInTheStorm. That's an historical fact!

It's not a fact because formula wasn't invented. Fact is, bf may have kept babies fed, but it certainly didn't have the long term health benefit affects as claimed as children and adults died young... until modern medicine, better nutrition, better environment were introduced... which enabled a longer life. Bf is going to keep a baby alive of course it is, no denying that... but so does formula. The long term health benefits I think have been proved since the beginning of time though, without good medicine, good nutrition and good environment, people tend to die early in the long run.

I don't think that's true. Modern formulas weren't around but feeding vessels have been found dating back to 2000bc, they used animal milk,

Animal milk would only have been available at certain times of the year.

Either way, humans still died younger because modern diet/medicine/environment weren't yet good enough to enable a long, healthy life like it is today.